would you be upset if...

wow, I must say you are certainly generous to get her the magazine subscription. I feel it is too much of your friend to make such a request. In my opinion, it is the thought that matters and one is being reasonable to ask for a gift of lower or equivalent in value and not abuse the opportunity. Do I get a chance to ask you for a Christmas gift? Hmmm... be prepared. I may ask for the sky. LOL.

Over the years I have been able to afford to get what my good friends wanted, other years I havent. The ones who cared about the materialistic value of the gifts aren't close no more really, it saddens me because its not the price that counts its the "giving" and making an effort to give them a token of your love for them. I think christmas is all about saying "Thank-You! I love You for being a wonderful You!". No true friend will ever question the cost of the package, its the thought that counts, if they dont know you are skint then are they really a good friend at all?. What you "want" and what you "get" arent always the same thing! its a lesson I think a lot of kids out there should learn sooner rather than later, and Christmas is a classic time to be taught that lesson. I dont mean to sound cruel its just parents bend over backwards to make their kids happy and I see so many of mine spending a fortune they cant afford just to get toys which are played with for a few hours then ignored. Hope that helps with your dilema hun, wishing you a lovely christmas time and 2010! xx ducatirose

I would never ask for anything expensive from anyone to me it is the thought that counts Also my Friends would never ask for anything expensive as we all know that no one can afford expensive, it is kind of you to get there this Present but I think you should have all put together and bought her it together or offered to give her half the Money towards it because I do believe that is a bit expensive

Wow...I don't have friends like yours i guess. My friends and I have always exchanged small gifts and spent time together creating memories for the holidays. I can't recall ever spending anywhere near 100.00 on a gift for a friend nor them me. None have ever requested such a gift. We are more the type to say...don't buy me anything. we usually make each other something or find something cheap but totally cool for each other if we exchange at all. I don't think you should spend 100.00 on your friend. I think you should show her that you care for 10.00 or under. Sometimes I buy for my friends and they don't buy for me. We don't really think that deep into it. If I see something that is so Pat...I pick it up if I have the money. If I don't ...oh well it is just a day. I 'll just get her a gift any day of the year...same for her I think. Truthfully, I think your friends are being kind of rude to be asking for such gifts. If I were you, I would not do it. If they get mad well, I'd have to question the friendship.

hi squaretile! uhmm..maybe for me i wouldn't be upset. you know why? because a gift is special if it was given to you by heart. i even experienced that one of my friends gave me a stone from the shore when i ask for a gift. you know, it really doesn't matter if you give an expensive or a cheap gift for as long as it was given sincerely. and besides, if you were really friends this things won't really matter at all.

you could say it is the thought that counts. but hmmm, make sure your not being hustled. well you know what I mean. one hand washes the other I say if you are friends be friends and not sucker each other. if that's whats going on then I say don't hang or talk to that person or just be cautious. but then again its the thought that count.

I would find it rude that my friend even asked me for something in particular unless I asked. But, asking what people want takes the fun out of it. I would not buy my friend a magazine subscription that cost 100 dollars. That's ridiculous! You don't ask friends for things like that. I don't have any friends who would even considering asking me for something that expensive. I'm sorry you are in this situation.

Yeah. I think I would be a little bothered by that. It is only because I always go out of my way for people and most of them never go out of their way for me. I know it is the thought behind it but still. It is not fair.

Well, Christmas IS the spirit of giving rite? Wow, you are generous! A $100 magazine subscription just like that? And all you are getting is stickers? Your friend hor... dun wan to say ah... To tell you the truth, I find it rather cumbersome that you have to buy gifts for friends. Family... erm... okay, they are family afterall. But for friends, well, it is usually out of obligations. But you this santa hor, so shiok! Giving away $100 subscriptions like that! Ahgong also want!!! Usually, what I would do is to buy something back in at least similar value to what my friend give me if possible. Which is why I prefer they do not give me anything. Then I wouldn't have to spend effort and time to buy them back sometime. Cos in every celebration event, my friends can always give me sometime which is very valuable, yet friendly on their pocket! Their time! With our busy schedule after we all graduated, it is near to impossible to meet up for a good cuppa anything! So, if they can find time to get together, that is the best gift anyone can give to an old friend!

Well, it's christmas after all, and it's a thanksgifting day of joy ^_^ What matters is the process, of having fun, and dun think too much about the cost ^_^ If they are just out to take advantage of us, just let it be.. For it's only once on a year ^_^ The more we try to argue, it will only make us seem petty, calculative?? haha =D After all, cost of gift depends on each other's budget too, and this is something we cant force too ^_^

Hi, Squaretile! Even though the price of the gift is not that important, but if you want to be fair and square, and not feeling upset or upsetting somebody later on, it's best to set a minimum price for the exchanged gifts. We have practiced that system at my previous work places before, but at home, my family and I would buy anything depending on our budget. So, it's quite understandable and we never bothered so much about how cheap or expensive, but the joy of giving and receiving are more important, I think. So, in your case, maybe your friend was thinking that the other friend likes to collect stickers or something or she just doesn't have the initiative to ask or simply buy anything according to her budget. Of course, if you ask someone for her wish list, I am sure there will be expensive items that she desires for. That's what I think...

Forget about money, if you want to have friends. Forget about all your dear ones, including your friends, parents, when you want only money. Can't mix up both. Try to be with what you get, without complaining on it. One important thing is try to avoid discussing what you need, etc before buying a gift. It is really a bad way of buying a gift.

What magazine costs $100! That sounds like a ripoff!