Dare to say "No"

Hi, mawong79. From my opinion, it depends on the situations. If my child's demand is unnecessary, then i will say no to him and let him know the reason. It is important to let the child know why whenever we say no. There are many parents who only simply say no to their children but never give the explanation, this kind of actions or habits will always make the children confused. I think it is important to learn how to say No to our children in a correct way. I am still learning, because sometimes i will make the mistakes and simply shout to my child stop doing that. This is really a bad example. I hope i can do it perfectly every time. Haha....frankly, being a mother means we are learning together with our children day by day. I know some children are "spoiled", they will always get everything from their parents whenever they request, what i mean here is materialistic things. Their parents rarely say no to them. As a results, when these children are grown up, they will think their request will always be fulfilled. This might cause conflicts with their peers or others. You said children know what they can do to get their parents to agree to their demands. I do not know much about what they will do. From what i know is, some parents will satisfy their children' demands when they get the good results in the examinations. I reckon, this somehow destroy the real motivation of learning. Hence, some children study just because they can get what they want! It's not because they love learning! Have a nice day and happy mylotting!

yeah, kids use their adorable smile and charm to let us , parents, give them what they want but in my belief,both parent should know how to say NO when they really mean no. Both of them not only 1 parent, otherwise the child would go to the parent who favors what he/she wants. As early as they can acknowledge what's right and wrong or what is to be done or not, the better they will be in dealing frustration and doing what's right

Well, if I'm a dad, I will say no to my children for certain things. I would try to explain to them why no. Try to persuade them not to do the things. It is better to upset them before they go wrong. I would try to give some example about the bad effect of doing such things. Try to persuade them, make them trust me. I will show a good example for them, some of the things could be settle without hurt anyone else. I would spend more time with my children especially weekend. Make them happiness are our responsibility. Have a happiness life :D

I do not agree to this at all.If the kid wants something she does not need or deserve, she shall not have it, whatever technique she applies.I do not agree that you lose the attention of your kids if you say no.You have to be firm with them sometimes and say no.There is no way out. Kids do and will try emotional blackmail. If you let them get away with it that is your problem.I do not think one should.I do not let my kid dictate terms to me.

I am also a parent but I always stands to what I say whenever I say NO I Mean NO. Especially if it affects the health, safety & welfare of my children. I don't care if it will upset them. For I know they came to understand that I am doing it for their own good. I do't want to be possessive to them but I just want to protect their welfare.

I think as parents we have a moral responsibility to raise our children .They are the future of teh nation.If we are scared to say no to them we are not helping them instead just spoiling them to be stubborn There has to be a line drawn somewhere,I know my 3 year old does not liek NO but when I say No in a certain manner she gets teh message loud and clear Hope that helps!!!

LOL, mines likely to say that the only thing i say is "NO!". Of course she usually debates me & it becomes "NO...Now give me pushups!!!".

It is a social skill to say " no" no matter what kind of age you are facing at and also it is very important to learn the skills. We can not please all of us in the world, if something is out of our capability, we should say no better than yes if you could not make it. Communication is very critical in our life and saying no skills is just one of those. As you said, most childen have their parent well trained as they have known that their parents will satisfy every request only if they demand, which will form a very bad circulation on the kid's training and I don't quite agree on such an education method.

We have to learn how to say "No" politely in our life. Parents should let their kids know what should do and what should not by telling right from wrong. If we want to stop kid doing something, we should first let them know the reason but not just say 'No'. Even the little kid need respect,you should respect their willingness if not please tell them reson. I think they will get to know resonable things is allowed to do. Happy mylotting.