Is it possible to make someone love you????

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@sagnik42 (3592)
India
December 15, 2009 1:01am CST
How can you make someone love you?My friend asked me this question yesterday and I had no answer. I was dumb stuck. The only thing I said is that "...you cannot make someone love you." He was hurt but I believe that it is the truth. Nobody can make someone love him. But am I right? Is it possible?
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45 responses
• United States
16 Dec 09
It's true, you can't make anyone love you. You can hope that they have feelings for you, but to actually "make" someone love you, it's not possible. Love comes from God. Sorry, if your friend doesn't understand this. You have to have feelings for each other.
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@patgalca (18355)
• Orangeville, Ontario
16 Dec 09
That's right. Sometimes it just wasn't meant to be... God has someone else out there for you somewhere.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
That is what I said to him. Wait for someone else. You can try as much as you want but it is fruitless, if the girl actually does not feel anything for you. Thank you for the response.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
17 Dec 09
Yes its true but u can make someone love u slowly and steadly. You must have lots of patience and you can attract him/her but your constant attention. You can always talk with them about you as a couple, what futre will bring if both of you are together. What would be the long and short term goals etc. Or u can do it by especailly rememebring all the good times of their life. Getting up and going to bed talk with them and so on and so forth. The magic will work one day.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi eddify, It really takes a lot of time and hard work to create that magic. When can I make it happen is the question. I am afraid I may never get the answer. I am too shy to woo people around and make them fall in love with me. In any case,I do not think someone can be made to fall in love. It comes naturally and cannot be forced.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
19 Dec 09
Yes, that can definitely be done. There is no problem in that. These things create the initial attraction and then only love follows.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
18 Dec 09
You cant force but u can make your presence felt by your actions? By saying sweet words, sending nice text messages, emails etc. I am also not in the idea od forcing someone but u can always do some nice small things to make someone attract
@derek_a (10874)
16 Dec 09
I can only answer from my own experience and that is that nobody could make me love them if I didn't already do so. I don't know anybody who has been forced into this. Love, is a state of being, that you realize. You can only be in love, not made to love. It just happens within your self when you meet somebody... or not.. - Derek
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@derek_a (10874)
18 Dec 09
Yes... I love my wife, and there is other sorts of love, like that of my sisters and family members. - Derek
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
19 Dec 09
There are so many kinds of love in this world. It is nice to hear that you have a loving family. Enjoy and best of luck with your life.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi Derek, I agree. It is an inner feeling and someone cannot be made to feel love. Do you love someone?
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@veejay19 (3589)
• India
17 Dec 09
You cannot make or force someone to love you. Love is a feeling, an emotion that is felt in the heart chakra. I also say that true love comes only once and at the first instance. After that it is just infatuation. Some people keep falling in and out of love at the drop of a hat.This type of love is not treu love. If you love someone truly then you will never leave that person in your entire lifetime.You can of course do your best in bringing a person close to you but you cannot make them fall in love with you.They have to feel love for you.You can take a horse to drink but cannot make it drink, as the saying goes.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Wow, that was one cool response, Veejay. I loved that one. You are so clear and to the point. It is nice to read responses like these since I try to be like that but end up being a mess.
@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Dec 09
Not often. I can see trying this and with the right person it might even work. I don't really think it is possible either. I think you can set all the wheels in motion but it is not normally something that happens. It takes the right smell, the right feeling, all of that to make it happen.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Dec 09
Communication and a step at a time is always best.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi Celtic, Maybe you are right. I am too ill experienced about all this to know for sure. That is why I asked you people and now, I am getting a mixed opinion. What a shame!
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• China
17 Dec 09
i think it's possible. but i dont like this way. love is a mutual feeling. to love someone who dont love u, is a painful thing. to be loved by someone whom u dont love, is a tired thing.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi yolanda, I felt that was a little too harsh. Loved by someone whom you do not love is not a tired thing. I thought that such people really enjoy that attention as long as it is within a limit. Thank you for responding. Have a nice day.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I don't think u can make anyone love u. No matter how much u love someone it's not possible.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi ANTIQUELADY, I also think the same. Thank you for responding.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
17 Dec 09
No one can make any one love someone, is a personal choice we love what we chose to love and that is that!
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
15 Dec 09
I don't know if you can actually make some one love you. However, you can tip the scales in your favor by how you act and what you say. All of us want to be loved and needed. Making some one feel that way will cause them to have good thoughts of you, which can turn into love. Basically treat them the way you would want to be treated. Care should be taken not to overdo it though, otherwise they could feel like they are being stalked and go in the opposite direction.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I guess that at my age it takes the profile a little longer to load... Thanks for your kind words, and rest assured, I'm not ready to get put out to pasture yet.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
16 Dec 09
Is there something wrong with your profile? I had to refresh the page 4 times before I could get a look at your profile. I guess, my net was down. I just wanted to look at your age as I thought you were quite matured to have given such a great response. It seems I was right. Thank you for the response. I loved it.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
17 Dec 09
Oh My... I cannot imagine what will happen to your profile when you will reach the 90's. It will take a whole day to just view your profile. No, I will take a screenshot of your profile and that will save all that time.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
17 Dec 09
Hi Sagnik :) Oh, wouldn't it be nice if we really could make someone love us? But no, love is not that way. We each feel it for someone or we do not. It cannot be forced. However, I do believe love can be encouraged when we are kind and loving to others, we are more apt to attract love to us. Karen
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi Karen, I believe that is the way things are. That is the best one can describe how to make someone fall in love. Thank you for the response.
@aulius111 (330)
• Australia
17 Dec 09
I do believe it is possible to make someone like then love you. It's all about showing them what they want to see. My friends call it tuning.
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@allknowing (135331)
• India
16 Dec 09
You can do that with your pets but not with human beings. No matter how much you bend backwards to impress someone with your kindness or whatever that person may tolerate you but you will not be loved in return. I have experienced it.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
19 Dec 09
I am allnoticing. By the way who is that kid in your avatar? He is really cute.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi, and judging by your name I will take your answer to be right. After all, you know everything.
@allknowing (135331)
• India
18 Dec 09
Atlast someone noticed it. Thank you!!
@garybao (75)
• China
15 Dec 09
I think it is possible to make someone love you. You just need the right situation. One basic principle, no matter what, no matter who, no matter when, any men has a chance to sweep any women off her feet. What you need is just the right broom.
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
17 Dec 09
Geez garybao and what broom is that? can you please enlingth me?
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
16 Dec 09
Wish I had one. Or maybe I do but do not know about it. Can you recommend me some nice brooms? If it can sweep off my love's feet, that is fine, but otherwise I hope it can at least sweep off the floor.
• India
16 Dec 09
I too believe u.U cant force someone to love u.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I dont think in most cases you can. However, I do think that in some cases when one person knows maybe that the two are meant to be then it can be possible for the other to "win" the other.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi lady, But what I do not understand is how can someone know that the 'two' are really meant to be with each other. Is that possible?
@patgalca (18355)
• Orangeville, Ontario
16 Dec 09
I don't think you can. I was crazy about this guy and heart broken when he broke up with me. I kind of kept at him and he finally said to me, "Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?" Hard to take, but it is so very true. On the other hand, that same guy came back into my life and saw a different me. I was raising a daughter by myself. I was more independent, less needy. We started seeing each other again and now we've been married 12 years. Did I make him love me? No. I changed myself to be a more attractive person (I don't mean physical beauty) in his eyes. I didn't do it intentionally though. You can't change others. You can only change yourself and others will react to that change.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
That is really great, Pat. There is nothing better in this world than to be married with the person you love and be with him. I wish you all the very best in your life. Have a nice day and thank you for responding.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
18 Dec 09
I have to agree with you. If someone doesn't love you, you sure can't make them. You can stand on your head for them and if they aren't feeling it it just isn't going to be there. Of course, there are different kinds of love and you can cause someone to love you in different ways but that is NOT the same as making someone love you. It is still something that is their decision to do and not something that you can force onto them if they don't what it to happen.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hello IDO, It is nice to find out that you are also of the same opinion. It is a great feeling when you find someone agreeing with you. Thank you for responding.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
i think it's possible for anyone to fall in love with anyone, but to make someone love a person by force? i dont think so...i think the will has to come from the person him/herself. you could do things to give him/her a "push", but then again, that's just it..it's still up to them if they'll fall in love or not. let's just hope for the best for your friend...anything's possible (but not probable).
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi kquiming, That word is just perfect. 'Probable'. I also think it is not probable for him to get his girl. She loves someone else with all her heart and that other guy also loves her a lot. I guess, he will have to wait for someone else.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,it is possible,if plan correctly,honestly..if have a true love,you can gain their acceptence by doing all the activities which they like... Is is very much hapening in the society,now a days.what more others want for falling in love...they all i you have in you or i have try to have in you..leads to make others to love. Have a nice time.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
Hi,thats fine Misterwit,i strongly support you in this matter..bye..but i don't know what Lucky will suggest you????? I too saw many cases,meeting in the morning,if you are afford to take to movie,fast food centre on car/bike and see that your pocket must be filled with dollars..see the results. Have a nice time.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
16 Dec 09
Hi, Wit, by the look of your avatar, you seem pretty much blind, eh? Hi Balu, working at your love can make it work to some extent. I agree.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
16 Dec 09
I agree that you can‘t make other person to love you. Even if some feelings can be manipulated, when it comes to personal tastes, if you dislike eating cheese nobody can make you like it. It`s exactly the same when it comes to like one person. It`s sad but true.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi mad, You are quite right. It just cannot be forced on someone. It comes naturally and there is nothing one can do to change it. Thank you.