Is it possible to make someone love you????
By sagnik42
@sagnik42 (3592)
India
December 15, 2009 1:01am CST
How can you make someone love you?My friend asked me this question yesterday and I had no answer. I was dumb stuck. The only thing I said is that "...you cannot make someone love you." He was hurt but I believe that it is the truth. Nobody can make someone love him.
But am I right? Is it possible?
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45 responses
@msjanet53 (16)
• United States
16 Dec 09
It's true, you can't make anyone love you. You can hope that they have feelings for you, but to actually "make" someone love you, it's not possible. Love comes from God.
Sorry, if your friend doesn't understand this. You have to have feelings for each other.
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@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
17 Dec 09
Yes its true but u can make someone love u slowly and steadly. You must have lots of patience and you can attract him/her but your constant attention. You can always talk with them about you as a couple, what futre will bring if both of you are together. What would be the long and short term goals etc. Or u can do it by especailly rememebring all the good times of their life. Getting up and going to bed talk with them and so on and so forth. The magic will work one day.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hi eddify,
It really takes a lot of time and hard work to create that magic. When can I make it happen is the question. I am afraid I may never get the answer. I am too shy to woo people around and make them fall in love with me.
In any case,I do not think someone can be made to fall in love. It comes naturally and cannot be forced.
@derek_a (10874)
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16 Dec 09
I can only answer from my own experience and that is that nobody could make me love them if I didn't already do so. I don't know anybody who has been forced into this. Love, is a state of being, that you realize. You can only be in love, not made to love. It just happens within your self when you meet somebody... or not.. - Derek
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@veejay19 (3589)
• India
17 Dec 09
You cannot make or force someone to love you. Love is a feeling, an emotion that is felt in the heart chakra. I also say that true love comes only once and at the first instance. After that it is just infatuation. Some people keep falling in and out of love at the drop of a hat.This type of love is not treu love. If you love someone truly then you will never leave that person in your entire lifetime.You can of course do your best in bringing a person close to you but you cannot make them fall in love with you.They have to feel love for you.You can take a horse to drink but cannot make it drink, as the saying goes.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Dec 09
Not often. I can see trying this and with the right person it might even work. I don't really think it is possible either. I think you can set all the wheels in motion but it is not normally something that happens. It takes the right smell, the right feeling, all of that to make it happen.
@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
17 Dec 09
i think it's possible. but i dont like this way.
love is a mutual feeling. to love someone who dont love u, is a painful thing. to be loved by someone whom u dont love, is a tired thing.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I don't think u can make anyone love u. No matter how much u love someone it's not possible.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
15 Dec 09
I don't know if you can actually make some one love you. However, you can tip the scales in your favor by how you act and what you say. All of us want to be loved and needed. Making some one feel that way will cause them to have good thoughts of you, which can turn into love. Basically treat them the way you would want to be treated. Care should be taken not to overdo it though, otherwise they could feel like they are being stalked and go in the opposite direction.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
16 Dec 09
Is there something wrong with your profile? I had to refresh the page 4 times before I could get a look at your profile. I guess, my net was down.
I just wanted to look at your age as I thought you were quite matured to have given such a great response. It seems I was right. Thank you for the response. I loved it.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
17 Dec 09
Hi Sagnik :)
Oh, wouldn't it be nice if we really could make someone love us? But no, love is not that way. We each feel it for someone or we do not. It cannot be forced.
However, I do believe love can be encouraged when we are kind and loving to others, we are more apt to attract love to us.
Karen
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@aulius111 (330)
• Australia
17 Dec 09
I do believe it is possible to make someone like then love you. It's all about showing them what they want to see. My friends call it tuning.
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
16 Dec 09
You can do that with your pets but not with human beings. No matter how much you bend backwards to impress someone with your kindness or whatever that person may tolerate you but you will not be loved in return. I have experienced it.
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
17 Dec 09
Geez garybao and what broom is that? can you please enlingth me?
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I dont think in most cases you can. However, I do think that in some cases when one person knows maybe that the two are meant to be then it can be possible for the other to "win" the other.
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@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
16 Dec 09
I don't think you can. I was crazy about this guy and heart broken when he broke up with me. I kind of kept at him and he finally said to me, "Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?" Hard to take, but it is so very true.
On the other hand, that same guy came back into my life and saw a different me. I was raising a daughter by myself. I was more independent, less needy. We started seeing each other again and now we've been married 12 years. Did I make him love me? No. I changed myself to be a more attractive person (I don't mean physical beauty) in his eyes. I didn't do it intentionally though. You can't change others. You can only change yourself and others will react to that change.
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@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
18 Dec 09
I have to agree with you. If someone doesn't love you, you sure can't make them. You can stand on your head for them and if they aren't feeling it it just isn't going to be there. Of course, there are different kinds of love and you can cause someone to love you in different ways but that is NOT the same as making someone love you. It is still something that is their decision to do and not something that you can force onto them if they don't what it to happen.
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@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
i think it's possible for anyone to fall in love with anyone, but to make someone love a person by force? i dont think so...i think the will has to come from the person him/herself. you could do things to give him/her a "push", but then again, that's just it..it's still up to them if they'll fall in love or not. let's just hope for the best for your friend...anything's possible (but not probable).
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,it is possible,if plan correctly,honestly..if have a true love,you can gain their acceptence by doing all the activities which they like...
Is is very much hapening in the society,now a days.what more others want for falling in love...they all i you have in you or i have try to have in you..leads to make others to love.
Have a nice time.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
Hi,thats fine Misterwit,i strongly support you in this matter..bye..but i don't know what Lucky will suggest you?????
I too saw many cases,meeting in the morning,if you are afford to take to movie,fast food centre on car/bike and see that your pocket must be filled with dollars..see the results.
Have a nice time.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
16 Dec 09
I agree that you can‘t make other person to love you. Even if some feelings can be manipulated, when it comes to personal tastes, if you dislike eating cheese nobody can make you like it. It`s exactly the same when it comes to like one person. It`s sad but true.
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