Would you send your old-aged relatives to the home for the aged?

In our country we respect the elders and do as much as we can to help the old age relatives. I have never seen any old age relative being put to institutions to take care of them. So, I will never do such a thing. But practically speaking, I cannot take care of everybody. I can take care of 3-4 persons at the most. I think institutions are good for those who have no relatives at all. If they have someone, I think they should be taken care of. It is so sad to watch them live without any relatives in old age homes. It is so depressing.

Hi dorisday1971,Yes that is true,some countries were doing like that.But here in the Philippines it is one of our filipino culture to care for our olds,Besides,it is written in the Bible to take care of our olds in their last days.Either parents or relatives.Never to bring them in the institution for the aged.Thanks,God Bless!

My mother is 80 and still going strong. She drives everywhere, even on long trips, and takes many bus trips. She would hate living in a nursing facility, and I can't see that she'll ever be willing to go there. Besides, her best friend was in an assisted care facility for awhile, and she moved out. She's 86, and she said she just couldn't stand living with all those old people any more. She gets around just as much as my mother does. My grandmother was in a home for a couple of years when no one could care for her any longer, and she was miserable. I'd never send anyone to one of those places if I could help it.

I am going to look at this from a different point of view since I am one of the old age relatives. My feeling is that I don't want to be a burden on my family. As long as the home I go to is a good one, I'll go.

I wouldn't do it. I ask myself, what if it would happen to me? What would I feel? Well, I would be much happier spending the rest of my life (what's left of it), with the people I know, people that I'm close to and those who I care for. I don't want to grow older with strangers, it's like a very lonely experience. So I wouldn't do it at all.

There are both pros and cons to this.I would hate to see my relatives end up in an Old Age Home.I would like to take care of them. But my resources are limited and I can only take care of my parents,not others.But on the other hand, good Old Age Homes have come up where if enough money is paid, good care is take of old people.It is better for older people to reside here if resources are not a problem,than be with their relatives who treat them as useless junk and barely tolerate them.

In my situation, we had to send both my parents to a nursing home once they began to forget where they lived or how to do simple tasks any longer. Both had dimentia and eventually they couldn't live on their own any longer. Both my brother and I just couldn't take care of them since it was dangerous for either to live in our homes. Non-violent, caring parents can change into unpredictable parents who want to rebel. I didn't want to do this to both parents, at different times, but had to in order to keep them safe and secure. It haunted me for years since I wasn't positive it was the right thing to do. Felt at times like I trashed both my parents. Then I realized it was the best thing to do at the time for their safety. If I had to make a decision for another relative who had no children, it would depend on the current status of the relative. Would need to make sure the relative was safe, warm, feed and comfy.