I do not know how to face her.
@Sylvia00167599685AG (75)
China
December 15, 2009 10:38pm CST
She and me were once good friends as freshman,sophomore or even junior,but after the internship during the Cantone Fair in 2009,we are not frends any more. During the Canton Fair, we were partners,which means we needed to coorperate each other.But much to my disappointmen, she ignored me and did something hurt to me just for earning more money during the internship.I can not accepted what she have done to me.We are in the same class and we can see each other everyday.But whenever I saw her,I will think of what she had done to me during the internship and feel very sad and angry. And now I alwasy feel very pain. I do not know how to face her. It is very hard to say a word to her. If you were me ,please tell me how to deal with it. Thank you very much.
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10 responses
@GUNNARdeng (6)
• China
17 Dec 09
hey,sylvia.sorry to hear that.i dont think she is worth being a friend of you.first of all,she done someting to hurt you just to earn more money,which is not what a sincere friend should do,though sometimes people may seek for their own benefits,that isn't friend's deeds.second of all, after doing something wrong,she didn't apologize to you or give you a elaborate explanation. so i consider that you don't need to make the whole thing spell out,it's up to her. by the way, is there a chance she hasn't been aware of the hurts you got, if not,just let it go,my friend.treat her like a usual classmate.no more,no less.and you will have new friends to come. wish you all happiness
gunnar
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
17 Dec 09
There is only way to deal with such an issue ,you will have to face up to her ,talk to her .You are obviously hurting and need some sort of closure.I think you need to face her and tell her how she hurt you ,trash out the issue and have it out with her and see how it goes.Maybe you will fight and quarell again but then that is the best for you to move on.I think the way to go is to try and forgive her and lay this issue to rest after talking it over
@abhi_bangal (5533)
• Ahmednagar, India
16 Dec 09
Your feelings are the most understandable Sylvia. It is a part and parcel of your and our relationships. If you are writing this discussion, it means that you have very strong feelings for her. You say that you see her daily and your emotions of sadness and anger spring up. Right? Out of this, the sadness is very bad and unwanting. No one wants this type of a relationship. But you have not exactly said why you are no longer friends. That might be a pothole in answering your question. I have read it and know what your problem is. But if I had known what your problem was and how you talking with her stopped, then I could have told you something. It is difficult to say without knowing why you stopped talking. Remember, had you said anything to her, which she felt bad about.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
Hi Sylvia00167599685AG ! I understand how and why you feel like that. Like you said, you treated her as your GOOD friend, the act of her is hard to accept and digest... Ignoring you and worst hurting you for the sake of getting more money is really hard to understand. If she values your friendship truly, she will not do such things...
Let it go, she is not worth your time Sylvia00167599685AG! Just be civil to her... Treat her as one of the people around you... that's it no more no less...
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
I suggest that you move on with your life. She's not worth it. She's someone who only keeps looking out for herself, for her own good. You'll meet new friends soon, some who are better and more loyal. In life, friends come and go but only true friends stay. It's your option to let go those who are obviously not worth fighting for.
@tina256 (190)
• China
16 Dec 09
ok ,i want to say ,don't be too confused on it .to be frank,i would wonder what is the thing she have done to hurted you .
i think it was not simple ,right?cos there is rare man will care more about girlfriend' s fault . broadly speaking,man will forgive women in a short time except the woman have done something worst .
ok,if you don't know how to do.just relax your stree about her,ask yourself clearly, do you really care about what the wrong she have done? or just talking with she.
i always find communication is the best way to solve problem.
have a good mood.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
..hi sylvia.. your feelings is understandable since your friend did something wrong with you.. maybe your friend is ashamed already that's why she or he is not making any move to get close to you again.. As you've said, you always feel hurt every time you see your friend, yet you still want to talk to her.. for what? to continue your friendship or to clarify things that happened before? you should put your head high in my personal opinion.. don't back down as if you were the one who made the mistake.. if you want to talk to her, then maybe you could send her a message and invite her for dinner or for a snack.. you need not do that personally.. you can just email her or text her.. I think an email will be fine because you can elaborate there what you really want to tell your friend.. unlike if you are face to face from each other, then you won't be able to speak very well since you are covered by your emotions.. Maybe, your friend has other reasons why she did those things to you.. Misunderstanding is one way of testing how deep your friendship is.. if you're really friend, then she should have apologize and tell you her reasons..
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
16 Dec 09
Hi,there,dont worry again about this,this girl in question doesnt worth your friendship.I mean she ignored you and hurt you instead of cooperating with you,so she is not a good partner.Giving that you were good friends,appearantly she didnt treat you as a good friend.My advice is that get rid of her and try to do better than her at school.One more important,try to let her know she is not important to you.
Cheers!
@123Chai (10)
• China
16 Dec 09
If you really care about her,care about the relationship,i think you should spell out.I believe it is better than torturing yourself.it is a good choice for you. if she does not care at all,she is not worth for you to feel sad.Of course you do not need to split chums with her.Since you two are in the same class,you can just keep the student relations.I think friend is far more differet than classmate.ALl depend on youself~
@theonehush (959)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
hey.. sorry to hear that.. but then again if that girl did something to hurt you and humiliate you, then i guess she's not your friend at all.. if she values your friendship why would she do such a thing?? i mean what kind of friend will do that?? i dont think its right.. you should talk to her about that.. tell her that you got hurt or something..and if doesnt listen then i can really assume that shes not a real friend..