Divorce

i dont have this experience.but i dont agree to rescue this marriage,although your husband's sister situation is very bad,she must think about her two children and rescue this marriage,but i find that divorce would not bad thing.because i grow up in conflict from my parents.my father could not be willing to divorce with my mother,he afraid that broken family can hurt me.but i find that i am unhappy to live and feel alone and hurt my heart deeply.everybody have different opion to divorce.i dont know how to do is right.

hi kekexin. well just give him some space, maybe he needs a little more time alone to overcome the sadness. just try to understand. as for the other couple, let them decide for their own.,they're mature enough to settle things like this. but still try to talk with your husband,try to comfort him. I hope things will be alright after tonight.:) God bless.

Hi kekexinfeng, I think you should leave them alone. Everyone involved is hurt at the moment and are in no position to deal with your kindly help. I unerstand that you really want to help and assist, but I think they should and need to deal with it them selfs. Divorces is not fun, and can be ugly. I have been divorced my self, lucky one for me I must say. But for others it is not. So just stand buy and when the time comes and they need help you can be there to assist.

kekexinfeng, People just have their own way of dealing with their own depressions. Just allow your husband some space here as he deals with his feelings with his sister's divorce. Trust that he will talk to you when he has come to terms with himself. There's no need for words as your presence around is sufficient, just let time takes its course here. Take care and have a nice day.

I don't have experience here,but I would say if your husband needs some alone time to grant that to him because it has to be painful to watch his sister hurt so much.But, maybe try to do something nice for him before he comes home from work (if he works) tomorrow as a surprise...I hope things get better for you. Also, keep supporting your husband's sister.She needs it now more than ever, probably.

It seems your problem has a two side, one is about your sister in law and his husband in their divorce suit,second is how your husband deal with you in a different manner. Maybe you can not do anything about the divorce suit since that involves a personal situation between the couple, the wise thing you can do now is to talk with them and advise if they can still settle the problem themselves outside the court for the sake of their children.I believe they are both mature enough already to know what they really wanted. As to the problem about your husband, I think he is unreasonable and immature. Yes he is having a problem because of his sisters situation, but that is not enough for him to be acting that way without talking to you, it is not you who caused the trouble, unless he wants a divorce with you too.