Her friend did that
By maximax8
@maximax8 (31046)
United Kingdom
December 16, 2009 7:59am CST
My friend went out for a day of Christmas shopping with another friend of hers. She got up really early and got a train at seven in the morning to arrive there before nine in the morning. She waited with her two young children in the cold rain. Her youngest was screaming and her older one was crying she told me. So my friend sent her friend a text message to say that she was going to a tea shop to let her young children have a drink in the warmth and the dry. Her friend didn't call or text her. So my friend let children finish their drinks. She came back to the place they were to meet and she had finally got there. Her friend was half an hour late. Her friend bought lots of Christmas presents and my friend completed the rest of her shopping. My friend bought a book and she bought a magazine. They went to have some lunch. Her friend read her magazine and totally ignored my friend. My friend was annoyed at her being late and ignoring her when other people chatted away.
What do you think?
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12 responses
@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
17 Dec 09
Wow, I am the only one who thinks that she might have had some reason for her behavior? I would never do that to my friend, but think about it for a minute. Maybe they fought for something, or she was mad at something but she wouldnt say. Still it would be better if she talked straight, but maybe she had something to worry about.
And, on the other hand, I would never stay calm and peaceful whille this happens. Why didnt your friend said something? Maybe she (the other person - it is kind of confusing to talk about two women, without using their names) was bothered by something and she wanted to be asked about it?
However, her actions were rude and I am not trying to defend her, but I dont think that we should make canclusions based just on what we have - it is probably just a part of the story, told by one of the sides in it
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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16 Dec 09
Hi max,
Well how ignorant can one get, if I was your friend, I would just tell her what I thought of her and walk out, this woman is not a friend, what is the point of it, once when I went out with a friend of mine, she spent most of the time talking or texting her boyfriend, till I threaten to go home and told her to switch the ruddy thing off, what is the point, she may as well spend the darn evening with her boyfriend, some people are so rude.
Tamara
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@dmrone (746)
• United States
16 Dec 09
Hi, maximax8! I don't think that i would be calling this person my friend anymore. If i am to be ignored, and not important enough to be on time, then i would not need the friendship. It does not sound like much of a friendship to me anyway. I would make no more dates to do anything with this person. I would find someone who appreciates my friendship as much as i appreciate theirs, and make my outing plans to do with this type of person. I really think this person is only in it for themselves and is not worried about anyone else or their feelings.
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
16 Dec 09
Hi maxine.
I wouldn´t call that person a friend nor go shopping with her. I´d rather go alone. I´m sure she would have had fun with her children if she hadn´t been anxiously expecting her friend.It would have been a nice outing instead odf a pain.
I often wonder how people call friends people like that. In spite of my miserable English, it would barely merit the word "aquaintance". Frinds don´t behave that way. When you come to Chile, I know I´ll let you have my room downstairs so Leo won´t have problems. It´s obvious. It´s also true that I will go on eating meat (you can eat all the grass you want
). But it´s rude to read at the tablew if you are with a friend.
Happy posting!!! HUG!!!
). But it´s rude to read at the tablew if you are with a friend.
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@chriszh22 (432)
• China
16 Dec 09
I would doubt is it one of my friend? Or I have no other friends in the world but only her left? Maybe I shall talk straight to her about her late and ignorant and end our friendship for ever. If I were the one who's late, I'll feel so sorry for my late, and will make up my fault by treating them a nice meal or something like that!
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
18 Dec 09
It sounds to me as though the friend that was late didn't really want to be there. To me, that's worse than not turning up at all. Did her friend give a reason for why she was late? If she wasn't confronted about this early on then it's no surprise to me that there was an atmosphere throughout. I would've been tempted to go home with the kids and left her to it, seeing it was obvious she wanted to be on her own anyway. Perhaps she didn't like the children being there? Wanted her friend all to herself, maybe?
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
17 Dec 09
I think her friend should have just not had lunch with your friend if she couldn't even be civil during the meal.
what is the point of being black-faced and not enjoying the meal? if she made up some lame excuse like she did not feel like eating lunch, they could both have had separate happy lunches.
@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
17 Dec 09
This may not be the answer you are looking for but I think that she needs to be more careful about when she takes her small children out. Why would she take them out in the rain to walk all over town?
As for the friend, it was rude to be late and to ignore her, but at the same time no one really wants to eat lunch with fussy children. Not even their mothers.
@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
17 Dec 09
I wouldn't like this one bit.
If it were me, I would have told the friend how I felt and I probably wouldn't get together with this friend any more if she's going to do me this way. I don't like being ignored.
That wasn't very thoughtful on the friend's part. Her friend should have texted or called her back and explained she was going to be late so your friend could make other arrangements. I'm sure your friend was very upset. I know I would be. Kathy.
If it were me, I would have told the friend how I felt and I probably wouldn't get together with this friend any more if she's going to do me this way. I don't like being ignored. That wasn't very thoughtful on the friend's part. Her friend should have texted or called her back and explained she was going to be late so your friend could make other arrangements. I'm sure your friend was very upset. I know I would be. Kathy.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
17 Dec 09
Thats what you call a friend? I wouldn't want a friend like that. To totally ignore her too. That is horrible and I wouldn't be calling her anytime soon.
@jiangsmsjiang (3)
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17 Dec 09
If I was your friend I would ask her friend why she was so late. since she didn't say any word about it, maybe she just expected her friend to speak out the reason by herself. but she didn't , so, I think there must be some reason. Maybe her friend didn't receive your friend's text. I personally think this is the really point ,namely ,whether she received your friend's message.if she didn't, all of her actions are resonable.
@allknowing (137801)
• India
17 Dec 09
It is assumed theirs is a longstanding friendship and this incidence could have been an isolated one. If this friend has the reputation of going about this way always then it is surely a matter for concern and it is time the friendship is wound up. There are these thoughtless specimens who think nothing of their rude behaviour.I remember an incident where I had joined some German classes. One of the students was already there and her friend walked in late but the one who was there in the class did not show any reaction. The truth was this late comer was waiting for this person who did not keep her date but came to the class directly. There was no apology offered.
