what about men/men women/women in church?

The Bible is clear about the fact that God is against homosexuality, so the fact that churches will allow homosexual couples in their congregation makes me seriously question whether or not that church truly preaches the Bible and the message of Jesus...

I assume you are speaking of homosexuals. I have a cousin who is gay, so I've had to "deal" with this in prayer. First off, I am a Christian, and I owe Him my all and all! It is true that it's not my place to judge any person. According to God, all sins are the same ..... He looks at a lie like a murder .... It's all the same to Him. In church, I do not avoid someone who I suspect is homosexual, but I also am much more comfortable speaking with someone who is heterosexual. Is that bad of me? Yes, because my God calls me to reach out to those in need, and those are definitely in need of Him. He will deal with each one, whether in this life, or in the afterlife, and it is not my "business" to know. I treat everyone with as much kindness and consideration as possible.