complicated?

eh ..I think that in this world there must be the other part for you is looking for you too .and it's must be the rigt one .falling in love with someone has all ready with someone is not so good maybe you can try to give up him and look for your MR.RIGHT .don't feel upset you will find your HALF and i don't think it's HIM.. so good luck don't be so sad..

Oh God... there it goes again... My life seems to be coming back to through various means... and now it comes back through you. Well, this is the exact situation I faced and suffered for a long time. I fell in love with someone way back in '02. She got interested in me too, and she was the one who was already in a commitment, and have a tough time with him, until she met me and got confused all the more. There is nothing wrong or right about this, it's just a push and pull we all face in our lives, and some attractions are just attractions and we misunderstand them to be love, and the true love which passes by, we fail to recognize them. It's a very very complicated situation. But yea, I was in love and just waited silently for her till she decides if she ever wants to be with me, and commit herself to me. But one thing, she never broke her loyalty to her ex. But finally, after waiting for 6 years, she did decide to come to me. My suggestion is, just go with the flow, and watch your feelings. I had a strong inner voice which asked me to wait for her and I did. But not many people are lucky enough to listen to their inner voices and just follow their impulses and end up making mistakes. But we must all be careful before we make our final decision. I suffered a lot in this process and so did she. The mind, and the heart is so complicated... we can never tell what may happen this very moment.

I think you should find someone else because if he loved you as much as you love him he would leave her and be with you. There is no excuse of why he wouldn't want to be with you and only you if he did love you as much as you love him. You sound like you have a lot of love to give so go love someone who is gong to love you the same way you them.

It happens quite often that people fall in love with people who are already in a relationship. Nobody can deny that. It is wise not to fall in love with a person who is already in a relationship. But love is blind and can come to any one at any time. Let us hope we don't fall into this kinda relationships... What about both the persons are already in a relationship novelcai? minus into minus will it be a plus?

Yes, I fell in love with someone who's committed but that's because he did not disclose earlier that he is already in a relationship. When I found out the truth, I ended the relationship immediately. I don't want to be involved with someone who is a cheater. I feel that I can no longer trust him. I also felt that he can also cheat on me anytime, like what he did to his partner.

i think im in that situation now,but not that love,i can still love her as like mi hermana.big shame, the girl didn't think this kind of love exists in this world.she have just cut communication with the poor boy.hehee.who didn't wanna give him some time to prove it ,to prove it really exist.so sad.

HI, are you talking about fall in love with a man that's already in relationship with someone else? well, for me NO. I've never been fall in love with someone is already in relationship before but I have someone is falling in love with me, which I already in a relationship. I told him that I want to be friend with him more than anything else... A good friend. It doesn't mean I hate him but I dont want to make any mistake and break up my family a part, even I am not really happy with my husband... but I do this for my kids. I will try my best and even more to make myself like him back as I used to and no matter what he had done to me... I still love him as I used to. And hope other man would understand about this

Loving someone that is committed already is really complicated and at the same time exciting to some..there are people who loves to go to a relationship that is complicated they find it challenging. They want challenge maybe they want to prove something to themselves or to other people. Yes i already experienced that kind of relationship the guy is committed but we also see each other. From the start i knew he is in a relationship. When i was younger i thought i won't experience that kind of relationship because before i was so idealistic i want to do the right things always..but when you're in that situation already you wont be able to think straight because all you know is you love the person and you are willing to do everything just to be with him because he makes you happy that's all that matters. but of course as days, months years go by you'll realize that you don't deserve to be the second best you'll also look for someone that you can call your own..in my case i was able to go out of the relationship maybe because i love myself more and i want to respect myself again. i want to live normal again even without a guy at least i am happy because i know i''m not hurting someone anymore. i don't deserve a guy like that and his girlfriend doesn't deserve to be cheated and He doesn't deserve to have 2 wonderful women loving him...:D happy posting!:D

What is wrong i wrong and there is nothing that can make it right. What is the future of your relationship with someone who is committed? Is he going to leave his wife for you. If you were married to someone who was dating another woman how would you feel? Men will do a lot of things to keep girlfriends so he may be very caring now but that does not mean he would not leave you.

hello novelcai! Welcome to mylot! Love itself is complicated so don't make it more complicated by going with attached man... I know it is hard to fight what you are feeling but even though it's hard, it is possible... You are right we know what is right and what is wrong. I do believe that if you dn't what others to do unto you don't do unto them as well... And also, never trust a man, that has history of cheating for you will never be sure of him not doing it to you as well... much more he knows that you are game with it for you have accepted him despite of the fact that he is with somebody else at the same time...

No... I avoid being close to individuals who are committed. I do not want to be label a home wrecker or as the person on the side, who the he cheated with, everyone knows that it won't work, because what goes around comes around. If he left her for you, then he will surely leave you for someone else. I would not want to fall in love with someone who is already in love, there is too many men in this world, than to be worried about one that is taken. I care about other's feelings and I would not want anyone to do that to me. It actually happened to me, it really blew my mind how a person could be that insensitive toward another woman, knowing what its like to be hurt. What God has for you it is for you. Wait on the Lord. He shall find his wife. You do not have to steal him from someone else, he will find you.

i try to fall in love with my writing self. however it is hard to fall in love with. it is exasperating. and i don't love it! i take breaks and question if i love it. sometimes i don't. i'm not a real writer as i am committed to so many other things already. but it does make me happy. it is strange to compare writing to a lover, but it is there, and i compare it. it is also easier than a lover in some respects. although i do have a lover that is real, and do not normally consider writing like this, i simply like it.

Love is love.it doesnt see whether the person is already having affair., complicated things happen in our life.when we know that the issue is complicated straight forwards ness is very important .However we have a heart that doesnt think all and everything.it just falls in love without any reasons.Failure in love is also as sweet as success in love.

It's the other way around. My ex still has a feelings for me considering he is already commited to someone bound by marriage. Though they are not together at present as what he told me, I could never entertain such a forbidden feeling. He choose his life to be that way, so what he can do is make his relationship right or free himself legally.