What did she ever see in him? Why did she marry him?

It saddens me to hear such comments because corny as this may sound it is not looks that make one fall deeply in love with another; I’m talking about real love not spontaneous lust. My own family is very critical on looks, which is interesting because they are no oil paintings themselves! I grew up always trying to look prettier, because I figured that would have been the only way I would be loved by my parents; I know now that they are not capable of love, but that’s for another discussion! My mother would be one to make a comment like that, superficial and shallow. It makes me so sad because as much as I admire good looks in males and females, it is not a personal achievement; looks are something you are born with. Being a good, kind person is a personal achievement. We may not all have the choice to choose how we want to look but we certainly have the choice in regards to who we want to be!

Reminds me of when I was 20 and I was at the beach with my boyfriend and this other guy gave me this look like "why are you with him"? Well sorry, but kindness wins over looks any day of the week...

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GwpR2-9EvsQ

I actually think it is pretty shallow thinking and prevents the person from so many possibilities. There are some very beautiful people lurking behind some of those plain packages just as there are some pretty ugly people lurking behind all those pretty wrappings. You just never know. Also looks are quite apt to fade in time or sometimes even quicker in the event of an accident or certain illness. People that base their relationships on looks are really limiting themselves.

Yeah its like it was just said, looks shouldn't matter, it shouldn't matter whether a person is unnatractive or skinny, or short and fat, its what's inside that counts. As long as the person is beautiful on the inside is what matters, its as the old saying goes, beauty is only skin deep.

Hi this is BS.When did looks become a defining factoe for marriage. Where then do you put values, spirituality and the persons character.

yea,you are right!what a snob!marraige does not rest upon physical appearances for BEAUTY LIES IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER and as you know opposites does attract!

Some people fall in love and marry...it doesn't matter what the person looks like. They were attracted by something in that person but looks obviously were not important. Good looking people can be vain and self centered but not all good looking people are this way. Good looks could maybe intimidate a plainer person but again, this will not always be the case. I knew a stunningly beautiful, from top to bottom woman who was married and they had about 8 children...she kept getting pregnant...happily. Some would say maybe..."why is that beautiful woman having so many kids? She could be a model (or some such drivel). Different strokes for different folks. Two things....bottom line -1 We each have our personalities, preferences and opinions. -2 Some people should mind their own business.

I am not really sure why alot of people do this. I think some of them have a very low self esteem and they settle for less than they actually deserve. I think alot of them like to feel power over the plain person also.

Hi Hatley, well marriage now has a lot of criterion. I could think of being practical which means in need of money or to have a better life. Another is misery, in which no other choice. That's the one who accept. Third is REAL LOVE. Love doesn't look at all the adjectives that the mouth, and the eyes sees to describe people. It is the heart that decides for that act. Thanks! Happy day! =)

Well if I was going to be completely honest, I would have to say that most very attractive people aren't very nice, some of them can be, just like people who are not as attractive...I think it depends a lot on how a person is raised and how they view themselves..and a lot of attractive men out there these days don't really want to settle down any time soon and get married, at least that's pretty much how a lot of the guys that I know where I live feel. I suppose in their eyes it's better to wait because when men age they tend to become more attractive, so if they wait longer, then they think that they will end up with a young girl ten years younger than them, and won't have to be saddled with a woman who is their age and looks it....at least that's how some of my guy friends think.

I don't think it should matter.As long as the heart is beautiful,the person is beautiful.If the heart is ugly, the person is ugly.

Hi Hatley You know dear I was told the same thing when I married my husband now. I think that looks has nothing to do with it at all. Your heart tells you who you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Oh yeah Im sure we all want to look like the beauty queen or the handsome prince but we have want we have. To me looks is the last thing that I look at. With my hubby it was his sense of humor that got me to notice him and want to learn more about him. Those women was being very nasty on the matter. They believe in looks and the truth be known they probably are not in love.. Great discussion and have a great day my dear. Keep smiling.

I have heard this said about people also. Society teaches us that we are supposed to love someone attractive. Physical appearance might play a role in the initial attraction. It's how the person acts and treats his partner that matter. You might be attracted to a man and then when you get to know him, lose interest. Things probably work better when it's the other way around. Sometimes money has a lot to do with it also. If a man has a lot of money it makes him more attractive to some women.

Cannot understand that. I married my husband because he had dark almost black hair, brown eyes, came from the same background as me, loved Floyd Cramer music, loved country and western, and we could just talk. So maybe the men that these women married had all the qualities they wanted but not the looks. Sometimes you are lucky and get the whole package, and sometimes you only get two thirds. I cannot see what she is complaining about. They could have married a Handsome Harry who was a louse. Or a Hideous Hal who was also a louse. I had to put it in so people will know that not all Handsome Harries are creeps and not all Hideous Hal's have the milk of human kindness.

for some people choice of life partner depends on many factors rather than just physical appearance.it might be something about the real self of that person ,which they found deserving enough to be their life partner. few of the men/women marrying plain looking guys had insecurity feeling and felt that plain guys would be more loyal and homely.

I think we have all made or at least thought the same thing at some point however I would never say this about anyone based on their looks. Anytime I have ever made the comment I don't know what he/she saw in whomever was always spoke for a very serious reason. I hate men that beat their wife's and I have made the comment. I have never and will never judge anyone for their looks. This is what God gave us and we need to accept peoples appearance for what it is. Just my opinion Hatley. Happy holidays my dear friend.

Hi Hatley, well marriage now has a lot of criterion. I could think of being practical which means in need of money or to have a better life. Another is misery, in which no other choice. That's the one who accept. Third is REAL LOVE. Love doesn't look at all the adjectives that the mouth, and the eyes sees to describe people. It is the heart that decides for that act. Thanks! Happy day! =)

We watch movies and read books about the beautiful princess marrying a handsome prince. So most of us give too much importance to physical appearance. There are people who give more importance to character of the other person. Or it could be that the man was very rich.

I think looks do help but that's not what is important in my opinion. I'm sure you've heard that saying "pretty is, pretty does". I think that is so true. A pretty woman or a good looking man can ruin their looks by the way they act. The opposite is also true. If the woman is not very pretty or if the man is not all that handsome but if they are very sweet or you like their personality, you tend to change your mind about the way they look. I also go for intelligence, too. Kathy.