Is it right to avoid confrontation?

As for me, I reaaly do avoid confrontations. The aura is getting more sad as you talk things more. Saying sorry and I forgive you is enough for me but my gf elaborate the mistakes like she or I have done and that is really awkward for me

There are times when confrontation is necessary and others that are just not even worth it. Also the main factor for me is how exactly I will handle the confrontation and will I have to deal with this in a worse fashion if the issue continues to grow. I always find that addressing things before they come to a bad thing then it can actually benefit both people.

Hi care! Opinion would differ on this issue. I would like to give my own opinion and what I do. I do not believe in confrontations, even if sometimes it is necessary because I believe that confrontations lead us nowhere and our 'ego' is such that we don't want to 'submit' before others. Confrontations lead to bitterness and ill feelings. I better avoid it and would ignore the fellow, who is hell bent upon arguing/fighting. Good Post!

It depends on the situation. For me, confrontation means being true to yourself. If you want to get answers or ask questions then confrontation is the best solution. However, some people avoid confrontations because of fear. But it is okay, there is nothing wrong not confronting your lover. Maybe because you feel it is best to be silent.

Yes there are no hurt feeling when the truth about the matter is discussed between the opposing parties and, maybe, there will be no yelling that is going to happen when a confrontation is done. But there will be no closure which would bring true peace between two persons.

hi care, there are things to consider if you will confront someone or not. If you think and you are sure that you are in capable of confronting someone, for example the person does something bad to you and has no reason to that,then thats the time that you have to confront him/her to let that person know that you are in capable of defending yourself and ofcourse to warned that person not to do that thing again. But, if in a certain situation that you are still in capable of confronting her/him but you know that its useless to do that because he/she will just keep on doing that thing, well i think you better not to confront that person. Do not waste your time confronting those persons who are unethical and insensitive.

i usually speak my mind out.i prefer to solve a problem at the grassroot before moving further.i think not all confrontations are bad.they can clarify lot of things at times.

hi careguarden I also like to avoid confrontations as it took my blue star ten with a reputation of 99/100 down to a five overnight as two people did not like my discussion on s moking being unhealthy and stayed up all of one night minusing every thing I ever posted. I complained to mylot admins and they found the two trolls and kicked them out. but they only put my star back to an eight then I worked the last few months and got up to a nine. so in mylot its not all that safe to get into too many confrontations on discussions.

If the confrontation is for the good, then it is surely good. Positive confrontation is a healthy confrontation. It has many good effects. It can give you a debating power which can help you in your life anytime. Constructive confrontation, I will say is a need, because, through this you can find a solution to a problem too. A debate is nothing but only a confrontation, if you take it in the positive sense. I don’t know if confrontation is a word that has to be taken in the negative sense or not because all the synonym words like quarrel, disagreement, argument, conflict and row don’t sound too good to me. But as you said, some people do tend to avoid confrontations. There can be reasons galore for this. They might not want to see them make a fool of themselves in the public, or still others might think that they lack the confidence etc.

I avoid confrontation as much as possible but sometimes it is just impossible and you do have to confront someone but I try to stay calm when I have to confront someone.

My experience tells me the more you let things linger, the worse they get.Running away or turning one's back does not solve a problem.There are times when you have to face the problem and call a spade a spade before matters get out of hand.But then confrontations on everything is also not required.One has to be a judge of a situation and see what kind of action is required.

I avoid confrontation as much as possible. I believe that cooler heads should prevail and people tend to say hurtful things when they're angry. I think it's just a normal reflex for people to hurt back and this usually happens in confrontation. The thing is, hurtful words can no longer be taken back once uttered. Which only ends up with the other party getting hurt and will hurt back in return. On the other hand you feel guilty over the things you said. In the long run, confrontation only leads to more separation instead of making amends with each other.

Their are real life situations that needs confrontations in order to have a better release of feelings especially if the person is an introvert type or those who are used to collects pains in their hearts and cannot find another way to release them but only through these. thereby they can release their angers. Some uses confrontation for an advantage of getting even for any discussions that will tend to lead nowhere, AS much possible it is better to avoid confrontations but take in consideration first the person who is involved and will be affected. IT may have a good effect and some may have bad effects.

I would prefer to avoid confrontation. However, confrontation is a fact of life. If you don't do it the feelings get bottled up and you get to the point of exploding. So may opinion is - get it out - get it over with and move on. Silence is a killer. mentally and physically.

careguarden, Confrontation in a relationship is inevitable and unavoidable. Though it may seem unpleasant, hurtful and bringing out the bad in us, I feel that it is not all that bad at the end of the day. I feel that confrontation helps us to resolve differences more effectively and efficiently by bringing both parties out into the open to address whatever conflicts or issues in the relationship. Avoiding confrontation is different from avoiding being malicious, vindictive, callous and violent during a confrontation. By observing the latter, it would make confrontation positive and purposeful to both parties and most of all the relationship. I hope you will remember to be positive with the words of Helen Keller here, where she says: “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.” So, take care, have a nice day and compliments of the season.

i think that it is right to avoid confrontation.as you said,some people hope to be quite,i am one of some poeple.i find that then we have confrontaion only a little thing,i could not hope that it could effect my mind and work and life for a long time now,this is not valueble,everybody have many thing to finish everyday.why did i waste my time to confrontaion?so i rather aviod confrontation in my life.

I don't like confrontation because I don't like people saying nasty things to me.. If i can avoid it I will, in the same way I don't particularly like constructive critcism because its confrontation of your qualities. But I think if you need to confront someone about a situation you should tackle it in a tactical way rather then jumping into a argument

some situations needs confrontation some don't so it all depends upon the situation u r in at the time

it really depends on the situation. because sometimes confrontations can be really frustrating. well if the mistake was bearable and tolerable, the best thing to do is just tolerate. well, for me its really best to avoid these kind of things.:)

I think it depends on the situation, there are some situation where is confrontation is necessarily. do not get stuck with the things that depresses you,it will only ruin your mind., If you think you are doing the right then better to confront than to burst out of anger.