I think this one is going to get a lot of different opinions

He always ate like that. It only started to annoy her when he annoyed her. If he learns to eat politely he'll still annoy her. How can anyone be expected to live with someone who is the annoyance.

The response of the counselor is a little surprising, but it makes sense, especially if there are not really any other issues in their marriage. If she was asking him to change a bunch of things or he could not change his eating habits due to a physical condition, then I think it would be a different matter entirely. If that really is what is bothering her and he can change it, then I do not see what the problem would be, especially if it was that big of a deal in their marriage. It might seem like a small thing, but I really dislike it when people open their mouths and chomp while eating, because not only does it make a disgusting noise but also you can see all the chewed food in their mouths. It usually turns my stomach and makes it difficult for me to eat. If that is her issue, then I can totally relate, and it is something that would be difficult for her to overcome but something that he could easily fix.

The counselor is of course right in one respect. It IS easier for her husband to mend his ways as she is already irritated and cannot easily change that fact. However, the very idea that she should find this, of all things SO irritating tells us a couple of things: 1. The husband does very little wrong... 2. The wife is easily irritated or wound up about some other aspect of their relationship which just surfaces as this irritation... My wife sometimes tells me off if I make a noise eating - why cannot this woman do the same? Sounds to me like the two parties have drifted apart somewhere along the line and forgotten why they are together in the first place. Makes me wonder if I could earn the same money as this counselor I wonder how many wives here on MyLot would happily change their partner for one who did nothing worse than eating in an irritating manner...

I have a friend who eats with his mouth open and speaks with food in his mouth. He takes a tiny nibble of something he's never tried and shovels in stuff he likes. He spits out things he doesn't want. It's disgusting and I will no longer have him over for dinner. I still feed him occasionally but not while I'm eating and not where I can see him because he makes me want to gag. If he asks me something while I have food in my mouth I make a big thing out of chewing and swallowing before I answer so he gets the hint. He doesn't. So now, I tell him to close his mouth and not to talk while he has food in his mouth. I don't think he will ever change and neither will the husband in question. I don't think the woman is making a big deal about things at all. That would be enough to destroy my marriage. Bad MsTickle. I'm so glad I'm not closer to my friend.

I bet she heard him do that before they were married, If people could just realixe u can't change them after u marry them they would be alot better off. I had the samr problems after i married , not the chewing thing but others. That's why i am not married now. They wouldn't chane to suit me. That has been over 30 years ago & according to what i hear from his sister he's still doing the same things that drove me nuts, lol.

I feel that they both should try to work something out on both sides. I mean come on, some people have little ticks that they have had for years and some of them do not even know they are doing it. The guy I live with chews on his fingers constantly and spits it out on the floor. Annoying? oh yeah, I have talked with him about it and it is a habit he has had all his life and he just can not break from it. I just try to block it out of my mind and sometimes say "i hope your not spitting that at me". He apologizes and tries to stop doing it. It only last for so long, all I can say is for them to try and work it out. If it keeps happening then they should occupy themselves in the other room. Like his chewing, if it irritates her that bad, go in another room and do something. It is not difficult to find other means to distance herself for the little time he is eating. If they want to eat together, I don't know, listen to music or the television while eating. Maybe that will drown out the sounds.

He needs to stop. Mr Croc occasionally is a noisy eater and it drives me mad. He has managed to change, if it's something that irritates, it's the irritator that should stop.

Perhaps the husband has ill-fitting dentures, or needs dental work. This Post leaves a lot to the imagination. Where was this woman when they were dating? Did the husband eat like a pig then? Why didn't it bother her at that time? If this is something that has happened recently it may be fixable, but if it has been an ongoing thing this woman needs to get over it. Perhaps she can serve his meals in the dining room while she eats in the kitchen.

Marry the counselor. He's got all the answers. Annoying little twerp.

Well it wouldn't hurt for the husband to change, I mean he's probably looking like a fool in public if he's doing that. See, the problem to me is the doc is expecting the wife to tell the husband "Well, the doc says you have to change, not me!" I mean, honestly, no matter how you put it to your husband, he's not going to change because you tell him to. How long has this wife already been trying to change her husband's habit? I'm sure she's brought it up to him thousands of times. So how does this doc expect to get the husband to change without the doc confronting the husband himself?

This type of thing can drive a marriage into the ditch! I’m going through a similar situation because of my husband’s snoring and my lack of sleep! It has driven us to sleep in separate rooms and my husband has tried everything from over the counter spray and nose clips to spending the night in a sleep clinic. Of course sleeping in separate rooms has created other problems as you can imagine! These irritations seem trivial but can lead to serious problems if left unattended. I think the solution is to recognise the problem and make the effort together to resolve it. In the case of the woman annoyed by the husband’s eating, I guess he should make the effort to eat more politely and she is going to have to ease up on it a little although that is probably impossible for her!

if she really loved her husband then she wouldnt have gone that long.In this world nothing is so perfect so it would be upto ones mentality of taking the things into their view.If they can see the positive things then life would be happy else you half of your life would be completed dedicated to criticsing others which would do no good to her.I think she got to speak to her husband that she really doesnt like those sounds so that he can control those sounds which would be good for both.gud day.

She should discuss it with her husband and tell him it upsets her. If he truly loves her he will try to mend his ways or even suggest that she finishes her food first so that he can sit 'peacefully' and have a ball of a time. If he likes to eat the way he does why should he be deprived of that pleasure

I really believe that the best thing to do is to talk to your husband about this and hopefully he will listen and try to stop eating that way. It is a habit and habits can be broke.

I was at my client's yesterday and she wanted some gum, that I picked up for her. She happily opened it and started chewing. With her mouth open. Noisily... I asked - maybe should say, snapped, if she could chew with her mouth shut. "I wasn't aware I was doing it" she said. It probably is that the husband had NO idea that he's doing anything annoying and might be willing to change if he loves his wife.

This is why I'll never get married . This way, my partner won't have to stand my "annoying behaviours" if they would occur sometime in our relationship. At least no judge would be involved

hi dawnald I think the sqeauking whell gets the grease, so wife should tell her husband the truth, that his eating is driving her crazy. after all it becomes torture after so many minutes. tell him. work with him and a counselor if necessary. little things can really annoy so much.

I think it needs to be a compromise - maybe the husband could try to change his eating habbits (especially if they are the type where he chews with his mouth open and all the grossness) But if its a case of a dental issue then its harder for him to change.(for example i have a friend who has a gap between their lower teeth and upper teeth in the front you could stick your finger between her teeth and not get bit - orthodontics helped that now its a pinky finger not your thumb but she still makes more noise eating that people with out a gap) She could try and be a bit more understanding. Leave when hes snacking (not at meal time its not fun to eat alone) so she doesnt have to listen.... I know my sister says hearing other people eat drives her nuts when shes not eating too so when she has to listen to others eat she either leaves the room or just joins everyone with snacking.

I just read a great article on this which said when a partner is pushing your buttons, step back and view the problem as a challenge. A large part of the partnership is growth on both your parts. Hubby just drives me up the wall with several things he does and he knows it. Well I've decided to drive around the block instead of up the wall, that way I have time to come back with a new view point before I just react. Blessings

Did he not make these chewing noises before they got married? Can't see him changing from being quiet to making a load of noise overnight, so to speak. Maybe he's had some tooth work done and it's gone wrong. My father-in-law makes a noise with food because his teeth aren't the greatest. Fortunately, he's quick like my hubby. Thank God! :-0