what am i to do?

hey caramel, sometimes we don,t choose who we love it just happpen.sounds like no matter what you do you still love this person.if you love him and he loves you go ahead and make the first move it,s ok.i hope you and your ex can work it out sounds like there is love in the air.have a merry christmas

Maybe you should start by texting him, ask him out for coffee or something. :) I think that that's non-threatening and may work. :D Try it! Let us know if it worked. :D I'm a sucker for love stories. I'm a one-man woman type of girl and I hope it works out for you!

Well from what I see from your post you seem to be pretty much very in love with your ex. I am just unclear about how you two got separated. If what separated you was others not wanting you to be together then I think that doesn't matter if you both love each other. I think you are just fooling yourself finding love from others if you have not move on with your ex. I think you cannot find a space of love from your heart if you cannot get over your ex bf. What you should do is to clear this partnership with him. You can ask him what is his intention with you. I do not see anything wrong with that and I do not see that as making the first move. I think knowing what is his intention for visiting you or if you have other plans of getting together to make things straight. From there I think it's either the relationship will blossom or not. At least you know where you are standing.

Actually its a good thing that you feel for him and he also feel for you that was the reason why he brought his dad so all he wants to do is take the relationship to another level.If you love him then do for him.

Hi Caramel, so it is and ex of 5years? There should be no problem in striking up a conversation seeing how you two know each other a great deal. How have you been? It has been a long time? You look good.....I am sure that could be some things to kick it off. I understand how you feel towards him, but do you know if he feels the same way towards you? Make a friend date with him and make plans to do something out in public for the afternoon and see how that turns out. Knowing how you still feel for him after trying the dating thing, I would suggest to try that and see if you feel he wants you back like you want him. Who knows maybe he will make the first move, but I would not jump right into it. I would take it slow as if it was the first time you two met. Maybe after all this time being apart he feels he does want you back. If that is true then I am very happy for you, for we all need love in our lives. So take it slow and if you want to make a move first I say, make an afternoon friend date, somewhere where you will be in the public eye, nothing romantic, you have a past with him so you know how the romantic part of it is like. Try it out as friends and let nature take it's course.

Hi Caramel, I would be cautious, is the problem for you splittin up going to be a problem again. I say be cautious, cause if your still harboring feelings for someone, that may override any common sense. It's so nice to bring back the memories with a hug. Memories, maybe that would be the door to open, good memories. But take your time and be aware of why these feelings are there and that it's a two way street. Ask about friends of that period that he may know or an incident, a date. I hope this works out for you, go slow and easy. Good luck and merry Christmas!