Why its easy o say yes than to say no?
By bulastika
@bulastika (5966)
Philippines
December 18, 2009 3:10am CST
Guys why is it so difficult to say no? And easy to say yes? Especially if you know that person? the closer the person to you the harder to say no. Why?
I have an office mate that can't say no and every week he treat us simply because of the pressure we all put to him to treat us.
Me I can say no and they don't bother me.
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11 responses
@jensky888 (98)
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19 Dec 09
You always say no and never say yes.. ha ha ha .. Sometimes you say Yes for us to be happy.. Like on your Birthday you have to prepare foods for us.. Don't say NO you invite us.. Lets thinks that's our get together party he he he
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
I will say no to that..lolz..
Life is not same as before..
So..
Get it?
lolz.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Don't get you..what do you mean you can't reach me?
I have a cellphone and its always on..
Do anybody bother to text me?
@jensky888 (98)
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19 Dec 09
hahahah I expect that! you always say NO.. Whats New? Because you always think that you always the one who shoulder the expenses! Hahaha To tell you frankly even i have nothing I can treat also for me to say thank you! He he he Your right its different now because we cant reach you! Am I right?
@gunjanpri (603)
• India
19 Dec 09
Yes, its always easy to say yes but very difficult to do the work what you mean by saying yes. Most of the time people commit by saying yes and fail to keep it. Sometime people say yes to things which they do not approve or desire to commit. Therefore it is better if they say no instead of taking a burden.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Yeah..Your right some say yes and disappear..
Some say yes and pressure them self to deliver but if they say no in the first place they don't have a problem...lolz
But still its hard to say no that why they prefer to say yes.
Because they want to please other people..
Saying yes to other not only pleases others but them self to.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
lolz..I think your friend have no problem saying no at all. lolz
I think it depends on person personality.
The more aggressive you are the more likely you can say no directly.
@afiyanajav (37)
• India
18 Dec 09
HI bulastika
I think there could be two reasons for saying yes rather than no. Firstly, if you are in circumstances where you have to say yes for example at work, relative and the other would be when someone is dear to you and you just don't want to break their heart by saying no.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Yeah..But its like against your will sometimes right?
But rather than respecting your decision you rather say yes instead of no so that you don't get him or her offended.
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welcome to mylot
@bhav27 (442)
• India
18 Dec 09
actually it is harder to say no to someone who is very close to us like our friends or our office mate because we don't want to hurt them , we don't want them to be get hurt and we say yes though we wanted to say , take it an example , my friend asked my bike for a day i actually don't wanted to give her but as she is my friend i could not refuse her and even sometimes my friend ask my clothes and i don't want to give her but have to give her as i can't say no because she is my friend and no matter how much i am against in giving her things but i can't make it to say her that sorry i don't want to give you.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Okay..You treat her as a friend but do she treat you as a friend to?
Try to borrow from her to.
If its okay with her then take it as your advance beside your two are friends like?
Or even like sisters.
But if she can say no to you and you say yes all the time its a different story.
@alohagems100 (565)
• United States
19 Dec 09
That was my problems before esp if close friends and superiors. When I went to Japan and mingle with other students if different cultural background, I learned. Here in US too, there are people or co workers and frinds who likes to ask favors and sometimes it is good to see no. If depends on the situation. If you are not comfortable and feeling abused, then it would be a big NO!
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
That's my girl...
Yeah..Sometimes if you say no people will stop bothering you. But if you say yes. Then you will realize later that all people ask favor from you..
So at the start always say no..Even if its okay to you to say no.
Just to make them feel that you must be worth it to make you say yes to them..
Also if you always say yes and then you say no.
They get confuse why you suddenly say no and the will take it against you.
@animegirl334 (3263)
• United States
18 Dec 09
I think it is easier to say yes because it's easier to agree with someone than to go against them. I think subconsciously, people are always trying to make other people happy which is a good thing but we must think for ourselves too. That's my two cents on it. Happy mylotting.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Your welcome..
Yeah I think so..
And the shy factor also.
Also to make a long conversation short you will just simply say yes..
Because if you say no.. Theirs still a lot of convincing and at the end you will say yes..
@chadog (22)
• Philippines
18 Dec 09
I prefer saying yes most of the time because you are going to have a hard time when you answer no to someone. It may depend on the question but I rather say yes because its better for them to hear and they wont need to complain or ask you to explain why you said no the other way around :)
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Your right its really hard to say no. And especially if you don't want or want to make some bond with that person its like its an opportunity for you if you say yes than no.
And if you say no..Its a lots of talk talk and walk walk and at the end you will get irritated.
@SharonJohnson (459)
• United States
18 Dec 09
I don't like to upset people. I don't like to have confrontations either. So these are two reasons I have to say yes too. It's easy to want to see people happy.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
But are you happy when you say yes?
Its okay to say yes if we want to say yes but what if we want to say no but still we say yes because of some reason..
@antonylow (16)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 09
Hi bulastika,I'm agree than says yes is easy than says no especially is you know that person.I'm mostly says yes when others ask me to help them especially female.May be it is my weakness. I will help as much as i can.I believe that one's day we will need others help.If we always says no so,others will also says no to us.So i help or says yes as much as possible.I will feel happy after helping others so can says i love to says yes and help others.However i won't simply says yes,i will only says yes if i have time and no again the law.So some of my friend will call me yes man.I will continues to says yes and help others as long as i can.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Can I borrow money? lolz...
Yes your right it easy to say yes than no..
But do you say yes because you really meant to say yes?
Or do you say yes even if you want to say is no?
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Yeah..Its a burned of emotion..
I hate that..
Its like taking your free will.
But is it nice also to say no to that person?
If you say no and gives you a negative reaction then its not worth it your yes.