please advice: the step i am going to take
@pushpendra_kumar29 (98)
India
December 18, 2009 2:01pm CST
I am in love with a girl for the past 10 years.Both of our families do feel there might be something between us,but they are not sure(confirmed).the girl dad is forcing her for marriage.even they searched two boys for her.i am an engineer,but right now due to recession i am not working.
so the step we both have finalized is that we would run away.but the thing is that i have to start from the begining.i.e. we are not taking any money from our parents,so i have to arrange money for household things,clothes etc.
secondly,i cant live without her
i know about the life challanges,that we both have to face.
still love prevails all over.
do you think i am taking the right step?
2 responses
@blablablu (221)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 09
Okay, based on your username I guess you are 29 years old. What about your girlfriend?
First things first, are you really sure about running away? I think that will have more bad impact than the positive one. You will have to face the judgement, not only from your parents, but her parents also. And not forget to mention her and your relatives, friends, colleagues, etc. I don't really recommend running away.
If your problem with their parents is the money, you have to make them sure that you can provide their daughter needs and you can guarantee that you can fulfill your job as a husband for her. And you have to prove it to your parent too. How? Well, you have to figure this out I think.
Have you tried to talk to both of your and her parents? What is the result?
@pushpendra_kumar29 (98)
• India
19 Dec 09
I am 21 years old.she is 20. I didnt talk to her parents,bcoz she thinks if we talk to them,her father would kill both of them.if not me they would kill her.
since they are more richer than me,they can fix her marriage as well.
@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
18 Dec 09
Have you tried talking to her family/father? It sounds as if you are a well educated person that will be able to find work but are as many caught in the current economic squeeze. If he will hear nothing of this and the two of you can agree that a modest lifestyle is acceptable then you should be with her. But know that if you do run away together it could mean the end of her being able to see her family as well as you being able to see yours.
@pushpendra_kumar29 (98)
• India
18 Dec 09
Yeah dear,we both thought over it.bur cant find any solutions.
we cant live without each other.we are taking this step,having a thought that once we are married and have a child,then we would let our family know,might they can understand us better not for our sake but for the love to their grandson.
