Do you tell your partner/spouse how much you have earned or saved?

I don't have a partner.if I do,I won't tell him the money I earned for myself.I am currently single and I have my own bank account.that account is solely mine.all the money in that account are savings from my salary and other extra earnings.I would use the money for emergency purposes.if I do get married,there is a separate savings account for myself and joint savings account.

i kaka135 I haven't had any partner yet, just one boyfriend, but I never tell him. Also in the future if I married, I don't want to tell my partner about it. Well, anyone has his/her private room, and for me that room called "money". I don't know why, I just feel not comfortable thinking about it. I plan to have a join-account for a household matters and still I have my own private account. Just prepare for the worst and hey, I don't want to be the one who only get money from husband without doing anything. I want my own money to be spent for anything that I want

Again i think this is something that is unique to our culture. I would say that women in our culture tend to take money as their security. in some ways this hiding just shows that one is insecure. personally my hubby and i are transparent with both our earnings and our savings. we celebrate together when one of us gets a specific bonus amount. we grieve together when our savings get run down because of hard times. we budget together to make sure that we have enough for our kid and parents. i think this makes us closer as a couple. it strengthens our marriage that we can be transparent in the area of money.

You obviously have a great relationship with you husband and I hope that it's always that way! But the plain truth is that most men are always on the prowl and will leave you at the drop of a hat--or a dress. Having your own money means that you can survive after he spends all your joint savings on the floozy he's cheating on you with. You'll also have money to travel back to your mom or wherever if he becomes even more of a jerk and starts hitting you.

i dont lie to my wife. so i say everything. but not when i need to buy her a gift on cristmas, valentine and our anniversary that we celebrate every august. but the rest of what i save she knows it very well. i dont like to hide something like that for (you know women) it might start on something that i was not expecting.... har har har and i know you know what i mean.

I think person hide their earned is not feel safe about their marriage.So they keep some money with them in case there is something bad things happen. I and my husband have our separate incomes,but we know each other's account and the money saved.We shared the money we earn,and ask for advise when we need buy something for home.I think it's a confidence in someone ,we should treat our partner frankly.

My partner knows how much I get in my paychecks and they know round about how much I have in my savings account. Now, how much I have in my checkings account is a different story. It's just not something I talk about much. For one, it is my checking account. Two, well I don't see why I need to constantly discuss my finances. They don't do that to me and I don't either. Occasionally balances will be brought up but for the most part I try not to discuss it because I know that because they make less than I do because they are a student it's sometimes a tough thing to talk about.

I do not tell my wife how much money I make, but I do not try to keep it from her either. If she needs money, I will give it to her, although there isn't usually a whole lot left by the time I pay all my bills. She makes more money than I do any way, so I don't really feel guilty about not telling her how much money I have LOL

kafa135 my hubby and I were always honest with each other,we eAch knew what the other made and we had an account for the house, and a small checking account for each of us too, but I put a goodly share of my working income into the joint account as did my hubby.If a hubby and wife trust each other they will not hide anything to do with finances,why should they? we both acknowledged we each needed some personal money for ourselves to. money is the one thing so many couples fight over. they should not, really if they really love each other as it can be worked out.

Well first, the answers differ with partner and spouse. A spouse is a spouse. Someone you are dedicated too for life. If you are going to do that, then you do it. That means sharing even your earnings completely. You'll never have a deep real close relationship with your spouse if you are hiding and keeping things separate, and playing the her money, his money game. It simply doesn't work... or I should say it does work, but you'll never be that close. It's the idea of "we two, are one". If you are not "one" you are still "we two". You can't have that close deep "one" relationship, if you are living separate independent lives as "we two". However... alternatively, if you are just 'partners', if you are not married, and just boy friend and girl friend or something like that, absolutely not. I wouldn't share anything with them. Without the bond of marriage, that other person could clean out the "joint bank account", and skip town with another person, and there is nothing you could do about it. You can't divorce, cause you are not married. So no court is going to intervene on your behalf. Any debts you share, the other person could skip out on, and you'd own the entire debt. I heard where a lady got with a guy, and they bought a house together. The mortgage is in both their names. He skipped town, and she ended up bankrupt. Can't go to the court and separate the debt cause they were not married. She lost everything. So no, if you are partners I wouldn't share anything.

It all depends on what type of husband you have. If he can't save money, then you have to think of emergency fund for you and especially for the children's future. If he's stingy, then you will have to save a bit every day so you can buy yourself something nice. If he's the unfaithful type, you have to save a lot secretly, so if he leaves you, you will have some cash in hand to survive. But if he's the honest and responsible type, I don't see why you have to keep money secretly. It will only hurt his feeling if he finds out you don't trust him.

Will, this is a topic. My husband knows what I make. some spouses are very controlling when it comes to money. It depends on your mind set. If the husband isn't letting you purchase things for yourself with the money you make then maybe, you may want to keep some money hidden or re-examine your relationship. Anyway, I believe to keep information hidden is to harbor mistrust in a relationship which will damage the relationship in some way later on. sometimes I take a twenty to put into savings and not tell my husband but I'm not keeping that from him. He knows that I do this on occasion, not to mention he can see it in the bank account.

I don't disagree in keeping independant accounts in addition to joint accounts but there shouldn't be a reason to hide earnings and their amounts from a marriage partner. That denotes mistrust in a relationship.

i dont know about anyone else - i was married for 8 years to a man who hated my daughter, verbally and emotionally abused us and when i would get child support in the mail - he would take the checks saying he was using it to pay bills, after all she uses electricity too. meanwhile he works at a car part factory for like 18 bucks an hour and im struggling to feed us and get her school and personal items. i divorced his sorry behind 4 years ago and before that i had to hide the money i would get so he wouldnt take it. i am in credit card debt now because of this. and it makes me mad to see him on facebook now , saying he recently married again and THIS time he found a woman who knows how to treat people! it steams me because he seems to be the only person in this world who thinks i am a horrible selfish person. ok ive vented - -sorry. lol

In fact I give my wife all the money I earn. The look of happiness on her face is the greatest satisfaction I can get. But one thing is that we spend together.

The only time I ever don't tell my husband what money I have is when I plan on using it for something, or to surprise him when he thinks we're broke. But normally I just deposit any money I make into our joint bank account and don't hide anything from him. His co-worker however has a secret bank account that the wife knows nothing about. He uses it to go out drinking with his friends when she's not around.

I don't see any good reason to hide the ammount of money I win from my partner. He knows how much I earn and I know how much he earns. I don't thing it's a good thing for the relationships to have secrets from the beginning, as that creates a feeling of non confidence.

I thoroughly agree with you. You are marrying your partner for life. You should be able to share everything with them. My husband and I have never carried any secrets from eachother. Especially Money. That is the root of all evil. My brother and sister in law kept seperate checking accounts and never shared eachothers money. They took seperate vacations also. Of course that marriage didn't last too long. If you are serious with your marriage then there should be nothing to hide. I think the only reason you would be hiding money is in case there is a seperation or divorce. Isn't that a great way to look at starting a marriage. Share it with eachother so you can have a long and happy/loyal/honest life with one another.

hi kaka135 we have our joint accounts,so its either me or him can check it online to know how much is our savings. I don't know how much he's earning but it doesn't really matter to me,. I do keep my own money that separate from our joint accounts,and he's aware about this. we don't have to hide money matters from our partner., good for us we are doing the right one.:)

I think that a wife never hide money from your husband.Spouses must to understand on all accounts because if don't will exist many miffs.