Wouldn't it nice if you could take all the good qualities of your ex in the next

Well, to be honest, I wouldn't want to look for anymore further human bondage with anybody, because attachment would lead only to more and more suffering, and expectation always lets you down into further frustration. So, the best thing you can do is, focus on your self, and try loving your self more and develop a nice relationship with God. That's the only relationship which can be perfect, and ever-loving, and ever-joyful with nothing to let you down. God never betrays, God is ever-loving and ever-forgiving and ever-compassionate... If we could develop these qualities in us, then automatically, we won't look further for any qualities in anybody, because what we see in others is nothing but a reflection of our own selves. :) The only relationship on this planet I would be content with is my relationship with God. But unfortunately, I haven't been successful yet in developing that also.... But surely, my detachment is much greater in human relationships, even though I am in a relationship. Can't expect a human being to be the way we want them to be, but surely we can change ourselves the way we want others to be for us.

Taking good qualities of your ex for your next relationship is not bad. Actually it helps you to be more smarter and find a suitable partner that will be comfortable for you to move freely and express yourself. If you think there are traits beneficial for you and both, then go on. It will give you less pain and worries too. You will have an inner peace of contentment because that is what kind of partner you wanted to have. so Do if freely.

I have to be honest, I can't think of a single quality in my last ex I wold want in my current lady. Seriously, in retrospect I cannot think of a single redeeming quality she posseses. It was the single biggest mistake I have ever made in my life and I don't say that lightly. It was a rushed in to thing, I was stinging from a previous divorece after a 17 year marriage, I was STUPID. My current girlfriend has qualities all her own, things I never knew I was missing in fact. I am quite greatfull she has no qualities my exes do.