What will you do on that moment when you face your loving one who got married?

@skalijnp (147)
India
December 18, 2009 11:19pm CST
Hey myloters, this a cute question for all of you. You love some one very much. You can't see him/her since long time. Suddenly you face him/her at a certain place with her husband/wife. What will will you do? What will be in you mind? Will you walk towards him/her to talk to him/her? Will it not be the most hurtful moment of your life?
7 responses
Marcia_ice
@Marcia_ice (26)
• China
19 Dec 09
Hi,skalijnp,I hope you don't have to face this heartbreaking situation.If it were me and he loved me too,I guess I would walk away.If he never loved me and just take me as a friend,I would walk towards, say hi to them and give my best wishes . They have married,you can no nothing but bless.
skalijnp
@skalijnp (147)
• India
19 Dec 09
All right Marcia, I said that both of you loved each other. Then what will you do? you answered that you will walk away. According to me you should not walk away, you should walk towards, and talk to, and wish you best wishes.
Marcia_ice
@Marcia_ice (26)
• China
19 Dec 09
Hi If we loved each other,that's just loved,the past.I don't think I can face him with smile or wishes in peace.He made the choice,not me.Maybe when many years pass over,I can talk to him.Now what should I talk to him? Wish with a broken heart?
skalijnp
@skalijnp (147)
• India
19 Dec 09
Marcia, don't be upset. If you are a real lover then you will always want the person to be happy forever. It is the fact in this birth he couldn't be yours but if your love is true then in the next birth he will be only yours surely.
esjosh
@esjosh (912)
• India
19 Dec 09
This is not Cute Situation. Anyways I pray that no one have to face such a situation. But If time make me to face it,,, I will make sure that she is getting married with someone else not by force. If she is then I will blast the reasoning "force" And if she is married happily then I will be with here as "just a friend" forever.
skalijnp
@skalijnp (147)
• India
19 Dec 09
GOOD THINKING. I appreciate your feelings. But somewhere you will find yourself alone when you will close your eyes and spread your hands to hug, you may be failed.
esjosh
@esjosh (912)
• India
21 Dec 09
Hey Skal, Thanks for the reply. But I would bare the situation of loneliness rather than the condition where my loved one is only physically with me. But her sole is voyaging somewhere else. I just pray to god, this may not happen to any one in life.
Frederick42
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
19 Dec 09
I would feel very happy to see that the person I loved is now happily married to a person who she loves. True love always allows the other person to be happy, no matter what. If I want my lover to be always with me or marry me, then my love is not real love. it is false, possessive love.
skalijnp
@skalijnp (147)
• India
19 Dec 09
Yes Fredrick, you are absolutely right. I appreciate you feelings. If we want our lover to be always with us or marry us, this is not true love it is selfishness. We should always think that if we are real lover we should want that our love to be happy forever.
larish
@larish (2237)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
It will definitely hurt me. I would just pretend that I am happy for the both of them. I would be careful that they will notice the hurt I am feeling. I will make sure that I would be as cheerful as ever.
skalijnp
@skalijnp (147)
• India
19 Dec 09
Wow that's a very interesting thought. I also do the same. Whenever I become sad I also become careful that any one can't notice my feelings.
maria1081
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
At certaint point this situation happened to me. But the story is quite a bit different. I came face to face with my ex-boyfriend after being separated for two years. When I met him again he wasnt with his wife but we were with our friends and co-workers who have known us for many years. They are all waiting to see our reaction, as if they were watching a film and enjoying it. On the other hand, we both felt akward specially him since he admitted that it was his fault why we broke up. Seeing him and talking to him face to face gave me a feeling of relief since I have prove to myself that I dont love him anymore.
skalijnp
@skalijnp (147)
• India
19 Dec 09
Wow! your feeling is is correct, I am thinking about your boyfriend, why the relation were broken up? Do you really feel that you don't love him anymore? What have you seen in his eyes about you on that day?
nia_lovers
@nia_lovers (1)
•
19 Dec 09
i will feel hurt. i cant face him at certain place with his wife. i will avoid to meet him coz i will not ready when i see his face. maybe it's so childish but i just not ready to meet him again.it's a hutful moment that i never imagine. i am not so easy to fall in love with someone and if i fall in love with someone, it's mean will deeply for that.
skalijnp
@skalijnp (147)
• India
19 Dec 09
Your feelings are matching with mine quite. I also feel hurt that some one that I love more than my life, how can she be other's? But another side I feel happiness somewhere else thinking that she is happy with her husband. I want her happy anyhow, if she is with me or not.......
ishme4nowz
@ishme4nowz (679)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I think I would definitely feel hurt especially if I still had strong feelings for him. I can't do much except to just greet them normally and hold in my feelings. In my mind, I wouldn't really know what to think of. I think so much would be going on for me in terms of my emotions and reactions to what I just saw that I don't think I'd be able to maintain a straight thought in my mind. I would reluctantly go over to him and greet them just as old friends who haven't seen each other would. I think it definitely would be the most painful moment in my life to see someone I truly love with someone else.