help me!!

What is right or what is wrong is relative to everyone who sees a certain situation. Even in this situation, you would receive different opinions regarding this situations. However, when it comes to the end of it, it is you who would decide whether what you did is right or wrong and your basis is your own moral standard. However, I were to give you an advice, the first question you need to ask is whether there was really no reason not to meet his sister. If you just did not feel like it, I think it would not be that good of a reasons considering that your husband had been asking you to do it for a long time. Nevertheless, if what you think you did is righ, no one else in the world has the right to judge you or tell you that what you did is wrong or right. :) Moreover, meeting her may only cause problems if you do not get along with her because you did not want to meet her in the first place. However, as I have stated from the start, decision is up to you. What you believe is right is what would shape your views. Happy mylotting!

Hello bingchen, you must go and face your husband's sister and family. You cannot keep refusing or keep saying excuses just to avoid his family. Time will come that you will need to met them and get acquainted with them...and this the right time to start to mingle with them. Be proud of yourself,you don't need to avoid them,they are your husband's family...and your kid's family too. This is the right time to break the ice between you and your husband's family dear... and i am sure,they are well educated people to treat you civilly too. Good luck and have a nice weekend

Is there a particular reason that you avoid meeting his family? Is it just his family or strange people in general? Why? If it has something to do with his family or their religous background, or cultural background if you are from another culture I can understand your reticence but otherwise, most families meet wives before they even become wives, while they are still engaged. The family will start to worry that you don't like them or something if you don't meet them eventually. Maybe your husband could bring one or two of them home to meet you and you could make dinner for them. Maybe a smaller group will make you less anxious. Then you will have met part of the family and they won't think that you are avoiding them. Do you suffer from some type of social anxiety disorder? If y ou do I can completely understand how you could feel completely overwhelmed by meeting his whole family at one time but otherwise it seems strange to me and probably to them that you don't want to meet them.

bingchen dont hide yourself away, face your fear and be proud your husband wants you to meet his family.look at it as a tribute to you that he is proud of you, you owe it to your husband and yourself to meet his family.they will not bite you and you need to learn to get out of your comfort zone now you are married. love your husbAnd enough to put away your fear and go to his family it willnot hurt you at all, not going will hurt your husband and maybe even your marriage. You did not marry his sister and if she And you do not get along, just Avoid her but do not hurt your own husbAnd. bingchen I think down in your heart you do know what you should do. so do it and make yourself feel better About you. good luck.God bless.

You need to be more civil with your husband family a this is the way to let them know more closer and a chance for them to know you well. Never hesitate as it only once to happen and it a time to befriend them after all you love your husband no matter what comes your still his wife and should be proud of each other never to be ashamed when you think you do nothing bad the have to face the situation than running away from it. As long as you think and feel you have done nothing wrong then meeting your husband family would should not worry you. You must need to feel and act as normal as you are and try to have a good conversation with them would eventually erase all your nervous feeling.

Now, can we really disown the family??? Everyone gets nervous meeting the family. Go give them unconditional love and kindness. Know that it's hard hating someone who is loving you.They will love you. GO IN WITH HUGS!!!

lucky enough,, anyway, are u divorced?

I think that you should definitely go and visit with your husband's family. Your husband knows a good thing when he is got it and he is very proud of you. I know that you may not be comfortable in the situation, but I also feel that going to see your husband's sister and family would help to bridge the gaps that there are between yourself and the members of your husband's family. I hope that you do decide to go for it and that you have a wonderful time.

You should go and meet his family. Tell your husband to tell them that you are a very shy person, so they won't expect too much of you. Just be there and be polite. it's not good to hide when you're married. Your husband loves you and is proud of you, so stop worrying. your husband is part of them. They raised him to be what he is today, so by coming to see them, is your way of appreciating your husband too, and what they did for him (and for you).

hey girl be proud of yourself because your husband is proud of you. HE wanted to bring a harmonious relationship with your families and he does prevent misunderstanding and bad impressions from both parties. You must face it with strength because this one of your role as his wife. It is normal that people who never been acquainted before will have that feeling but go over it. Just prepare yourself. Act naturally just as your self for you to be comfortable. Talk to them nicely, be a good observant too about their actions and whatever good things you can pick so having a good communication with them. after that, you will be relieved from all worries and fears.

I woud suggest u to go and meet his sister. LIfe is short and dont act in any form to bring hostile relationship for others. Give a try to meet her and adjust with yourself.. !!!

When you marry your husband, you accepted and love him for what he is. By marrying him, you also accepted his family. So why not meet her sister? It will only take a little courage on your part to open up a little more. The one that would benifit it most is you and by doing that you can make your husband happy and proud of you. Goodluck!