christmas (tat) number 9 - all the lies

Hello, Judith. Well, I did the Santa thing with my kids when they were little, mainly because it was expected. And I used to enjpoy the sherry we left out for Santa. One year, when there was a particularly aggressive campaign about drink driving, the kids said perhaps we should leave milk for Santa, as they didn't want him arrested for being drunk in charge of a sleigh. I'm afraid I was really naughty, and told them that Santa only goes to houses where sherry is left out for him, and anyway, he's magic so he never gets drunk on the sherry - it's like us mere mortals drinking water. A couple of years later, my son became a bit cynical about Santa and I levelled with him and said yes, it was Mum and Dad who brought the presents, but did he really want to spoil things for his younger sister, and shouldn't we let her believe in Santa for a while longer? Well, they always wrote a letter to Santa, so I wasn't expecting one from David. However, he'd written, 'Dear Santa, I'm 8 now, and I don't really believe you exist, but I'm writing this letter so my sister can still believe in you. I know it's Mum and Dad who really bring the presents.' Then at the bottom, he said, 'Just in case Mum has got it wrong, I'd really like a bike this year. I hope you can manage it, and that the reindeer work well tonight.' Talk about hedging your bets! I don't think it did the kids any harm - it's nice for them to believe in make believe as part of their childhood. But that's just me being an old softie.

Why Virginia, there is TOO a santa. And that clashy patchy glaring sweater granny knit is TOO beautiful on you. And you of all people know that come spring, the easter bunny is TOO real and true blue.

did you say demi god ??? well arent you a merry person, yeah lets not let our children have something other children believe in this time of year so they can be ridiculed by other children because some parent has a problem with christmas, who's next ?????? the easter bunny.

Hi there little bunny, I don't agree with the lying about Santa either. It's a pretty cool story for sure and one that my kids just loved. I did let my oldest daughter believe in Santa for a while but quickly learned the error of my ways when she compared herself to some her wealthier friends and wondered if she had really been so bad. They'd gotten all the things on their list and she did not. I came clean with her on the truth right then and there. My other 3 kids were not led to believe that lie and I think it was all for the better. I love your all your little Christmas tats by the way.

We told them about Santa and when they didn't believe any more, we didn't push the issue. That's about it...

I tell my children about Santa Claus with a clear conscience, because I still believe in Santa Claus and get gifts from him. In our family, Santa Claus represents or personifies the spirit of giving, so we can believe in "him" our whole lives, because we believe that giving to others makes everybody happy. I do not think that is bad, or even a lie, although the label of Santa Claus might be fictional. We all still get stockings from Santa Claus that are filled with small presents, which are bought by all the adults for each person and then just wrapped in Santa Claus wrapping paper and put in the appropriate stocking. This is a tradition that has been passed down in our family, and I think it is one of the best traditions that we have.

jb ye old blue bunny oh yes over all this hoopla christmas season I smile and when asked how are you, I lie, oh I am fine, over and over, how is your Christmas, great wonderful, liar me. No I am not really fine and my Christmas time is not really wonderful at all,not when I am not where I want to be, and my son out of work.no I am not happy happy happy at all. sweet little lies is right. no I do not think we should really push this Santa Claus thing at all. Really it is not SantaClaus day it is the day we honor Christs birth. Some little white lies may really be kind as like not telling your best friend when she asks if you like here new outfit, oh that stinks. I want to keep my best friend, so I say instead I like that color on you, and that is the truth, I just omitted the part about liking the outfit.well the color dis look good on her but the style did not. So my lies now during this Christmas season are just to assure others that I am happy,happy, oh so happy. and I think Yuck.

Well, just so you know the other side.... one can be resentful of NOT having the santa theory celebrated and enjoyed, and so in retrospect, one could decide they are DEFINITELY going to celebrate and enjoy santa so that one's child does not MISS OUT and come to have the same resentment. I mean, OBVIOUSLY as an adult, I understand that santa is not a REAL PERSON. Neither is the Easter Bunny, the tooth fairy, and other assorted figures we make up. It doesn't bother ME that adults use these in ways to enrich childrens' lives. It never offended me as a child to have a chance to believe these were figures to believe in for a certain period of time. In fact, I think it makes childhood more fun. What is childhood supposed to be if not fun? Don't tell me adulthood is fun, PARTS of it are but cripes, the responsibility.... To me, ruining these beliefs before kids are old enough to stop believing on their own is exactly like having a bad day and telling Aunt Rita that you really HATE the sweater and telling your coworker that you re-gifted whatever you gave them. It's rude and unnecessary - but a lot of people think it's KIND to be truthful. That's not the type of truth that was meant. Oh, as for lies I regularly tell? Maybe that I'm busy when I'm actually not. It cannot be proven or disproven, plus my idea of busy may be different than someone else's idea of busy. Since it's perception, just like opinion, it cannot really be right or wrong, so it's not actually a lie. I think maybe I also tell people that I don't mind or I have time - when I do mind or I don't have time - but it depends who I'm talking to. There are times when the other person really needs my time, so I will say I don't mind or have time because I realize they need me then more than I need space....

I used to tell the Santa fib when my kids were young, but like most fibs, it got found out. I used to enjoy the holiday vicariously through them, but as they got older I started to feel more melancholy & hypocritical...which led to banishment of the it on the whole. No tree. No lights. No stockings. I still get the kids small gifts, because it sucks not getting ANYTHING when everyone around you is profiting wildly. Happy Festivus!

Hi jb, well Thea junior never believed in santa for a moment,or the tooth fairy, or god, or any other of these fictional characters, so I never needed to go round telling lies. I suppose I'll do the lying about food being delicious when it isn't and forced on me, and I won't tell them the truth that I've wrapped it up to dispose of it, fed a plant or chucked it over the nearest wall. That would be bad manners.