virginity, should it be discussed?
By chiumee
@chiumee (850)
Philippines
December 19, 2009 9:27am CST
the question pertains maybe to couples before getting married or at least before taking their relationship seriously. i have to add the last phrase "before taking their relationship seriously". i don't know how to say why. but i guess some of you may understand. perhaps if you think this question can also be answered by some other groups of people or some other beliefs, would you want to share it? bottom line is that how big deal is virginity?
4 responses
@Tbarker1010 (96)
• United States
19 Dec 09
Well I know for a fact that virginity is a joke to a whole bunch of teens and that they think its cool to lose it, however, virginity can be a very big deal, as my mother used to say to me, it's better that if you're ready, to find someone special who also is a virgin so both of you can experiment together. Someone you deeply love and the person who feels the same way. Virginity is a pretty big deal if you ask me...
@chiumee (850)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
tbarker1010 yes, it would have been very exciting to experiment if we can find this person and we can be sure about. and that if this person we can talk open to him or her about virginity. there may be other ways to find out surely if he or she has had experience before. i can't stand on one side actually because what kills my idealism is if you have actually found serious love to a person, would you still care to know if he or she is a virgin? and if not anymore, how will you not like him or her?
@chiumee (850)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
perplexed! i stand corrected. thanks for reminding me. i woke up finding my mind eager to post something i dreamed about. initially, i set mylot to this category making extra money. indeed, i got carried away. apologies to whom i may have offended. i didn't mean any insult to anyone nor to catch attention. thanks td_guru.
@Galena (9110)
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19 Dec 09
I don't think it really matters in a relationship.
it's the bond between you that matters, and anything gone before is in the past. when you love someone, you really couldn't find any concern over whether or not they are a virgin, just being who they are is all that matters.
@willowgirl (188)
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19 Dec 09
Do you mean perhaps that people give their virginity away too easily without thinking of the potential income opportunities?
You speak of marriage, perhaps you are thinking of a cash opportunity in this direction, maybe in paticular, like virgin brides etc, or maybe that people should be sure their partner has a sunstantial sum and assets before jumping into marriage? (Although in many parts of the world it is fairly easy to get married without being a virgin, esp if you are a guy)
I'm not sure what beliefs you have beyond the profit potential of virginity but some cultures do have dowry systems etc. Are you saying you think we need more of this?
