How do you make people like you?
By umer5222
@umer5222 (724)
Cyprus
December 19, 2009 4:38pm CST
We know that many people are different from us, their culture, tradition, their behavior does conflicts with us. Everyone wants that people will behave according to my wish, otherwise we say them naught or mental. We still do meet those peoples in our life, We do try to make people like us. How do you make people like you?
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16 responses
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
20 Dec 09
I think its naturally to want people to like you but i don't try to make them like me. I don't change who i am or what i believe so someone will like me. I am who i am with everyone i meet. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone if i had to change who i was!
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@louierrific24 (1114)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Just be yourself, don't change yourself just to please others. It's up for them to like you for who you are.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Dec 09
umer use the old golden rule do unto others as you would have
them do unto you. be friendly, courteous, and helpful also be
honest and trustworthy . you be a friend you will make friends as we all want and need as many friends as we can make. its worth so much to have people like you then you will not be lonely either.
Kindness and thoughtfullness will repay you with a lot of friends.
@Wizzywig (7847)
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19 Dec 09
I dont think we can MAKE people like us and I dont think we should put on a false act in an attempt to. Pretending to be someone you're not may gain you short-term friends but, when they find out the truth, they could become long-term enemies - partly because you are not the sort of person they would like and also, for the fact that you were not honest with them. People either like me or they dont... I try to treat everyone as I would like them to treat me but, of course, we all know that doesn't always work.
@allknowing (136099)
• India
20 Dec 09
Very good question. There was a time I would bend backwards to get people to like me but then I realised that I was overdoing it and my back almost collapsed!!I have now decided to have as few people as possible in my life which saves me from having to make changes in my personality just to have them in my life. I dont think it is more the merrier. And with the introduction of the virtual world it becomes much easier to interact and it is this world that keeps me going.
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@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
20 Dec 09
How about treat others the way they want to be treated?
I have always wondered about the slight difference between these two sayings. I think that sometimes it it not good enough to treat others the way you would like to be treated, because the others are different and they might not like the things you like and they would probably want to be treated in ways that you dont wont for yourself.
@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
20 Dec 09
Well, its all depend upon personality of others to impress them or do something due to which they like me . Some times I buy gift and some times I give advice ...
I use to talk nicely and listen them very interestingly ....these are my way to interact with those person whom i wanted to like me ....
Thanks ... :)
@sachii315 (488)
• Japan
20 Dec 09
Hi umer5222! I can't please everybody so I might as well can't expect everyone to like me. I tried my best to be good to everyone so that they'll be good to me too. But as usual not everyone will be good to me in return. Happy mylotting!
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
I actually don't know. Like you said, people are diffrent from each other. SOme may like a type of trait while others dont. FOr me, just be yourself. You can't please anyone anyway o just be who you truly are. It's hard to know what all people want. If they'll like you for you, then it's good. If not, then that's their option. WHat's important is that you are bing you and they will be liking you for who you truly are. It's useless to be loved and liked for false reasons. :D
@artistry (4151)
• United States
20 Dec 09
...Hi umer5222, I have a slightly different take on your question. I think we allow people to like us. That is if they choose to like us. All of us are not going to be liked by all of us and if you think about it, there are some people that you really don't want to like you, liars, thieves for a couple. :o) So we expose the good things and some of the bad about ourselves to the people we want to like us and then we let them decide. If they like you great, if they don't then they don't know what they are missing now do they? Take it easy.
@snafushe (791)
• Canada
20 Dec 09
Well for starters I don't "make" people like me, I don't like to force people to like me. I am straight up with the person and honest. I won't lie to you, if your doing something I don't like I will let you know. I earn peoples trust though not backstabbing them. I make people laugh. I am very blunt yet I never try to hurt some one. I am not a insecure person, so I don't feel the need to put some one down or stab at their confidence to make myself feel better. If you tell me something you don't want people to know I will probably keep it to myself. I like to have fun, I am a party girl. I am spontaneous and always up for something fun.
@monkey82 (12)
• China
20 Dec 09
I think that I shall find out our similar interests first.And we shall compare notes with each other on our favorite hobby.We can find out our common topics quickly in this way.I shall take great pleasure in offering him help if he need. All of people like warmhearted people.
@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
20 Dec 09
I am just being myself all the time and that is the reason why most of the people I know don't like me. However, the ones that do like me accept me as I am and when I am with them I don't have the pretend in any way and I don't have to put masks on my face. For me it is not important how many people like you. It is now a case when the more... the better. It is a case that weather people who LIE you, KNOW you. Because If you try to make somebody like you, acting as somebody else and not as yourself, there will certainly come a time when this person will see who you really are...
@neo_matrix (884)
• India
20 Dec 09
be genuine.your real self can get you along with people who can accept you.deliberate attempt to change some one's view point about you never helps in the long run .you should have the capacity to carry over the first impression so that it develops to liking.