the steps of divorce and the emotions of it

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Are you getting a divorce? Are you scared of what is ahead? I am divorced and there are alot that took place in my emotions during the divorce . WE had to take a class for divorcing parents that helped and its all true. there are many differnt emotions that are going to take place. Frist the announcement. have you told or heard the "I want a divorce" or "I think its best if we get a divorce" i been there. My husband at the time came home late from work after being married for a year and said "honey i want a divorce". I was stund and scared and mad and all these emotions ran threw me at one. the person who wants the divorce has an avantage he/she knows its coming. the first emotion is shocked. Even tho the person who wanted it has an avantage by knowing its coming it shocked them when they found out thats truely what they wanted. They just didnt tell you for a while to make sure and let the shock from them goes away. I Know the person who had no idea they are thinking how can this be? or i dont get divorced , not me. Its a scary world during this part. the next step is bartering. I could be a better wife or husband. I will do whatever you want from me as long as we stay together. felt like this. Trust me trying to barter to get them back doesn't work. They already made their mind before they told you. After bartering is anger. Anger is a secondary emotion. Anger is prestent when you are hurt , disapointed, scared. This part of the emotions of divorce you will take out your anger toward them. This is the part you Threaten with lawyers and such. After anger is depression. You are depressed about being diovrce and it most of the time throws you back to one of the other steps or emotions of divorce and this said my a counsler is perfectly normal. IT is normal and to get past the divorce you may bounce to one of the earlier steps inorder to move on. After depression is finialy aceptance of it. At this point it no longer is the main thoughs when you wake up or go to bed. This is usually after a year it takes to go threw all this. for the first year is hard to to with out that other person threw all the holidays. Some it could be more than a year. After you finally quit thinking about the divorce and get yours self together and think about your self and any children you have and is happy then you are ready to find another special someone to remarry in the furter.