Do rude comments ever get you down?

I know what you mean,I got a negative response on mylot and someone was very rude about my discussion a few years back and I actually stopped coming around for a long while. Then a few months back it happened again on here,where someone was just flat out rude and harsh towards me. I don't know why it gets to me but it does. I mean no matter what you are writing you are putting a piece of you into it and to have someone come along and crap on it so to speak hurts.

Oh of course, I think every body(well anyone with real feelings) has had a time when someone else's remark hurt their feelings and got them down. It sounds to me like this person that made this remark is just jealous that you are able to do this and they are not. And that is how I always look at it because in my opinion is that is the only reason someone feels the needs to put down another...too make themselves feel better and because they are jealous of what you may have or be doing. I would just ignore people like that because you don't need people like that in your life...just keep doing what you are doing because as long as you can live with yourself and be happy that is all that matters...

Communication is my major in college and for me I think I've gotten use to all the negative comments that can come around with what you are writing about. The thing is you have to have a strong backbone in that type of line of work and even though you might only call yourself a commenter, you are actually a blogger. And nowadays with the media changing bloggers are considered journalists of some sort. Of course you can call them credible in a lot of sense since most of what they write is opinion based but they are held to certain standards as well. The thing is not to let it bother you but if it does then perhaps you shouldn't be writing. And I only mean this if it causes you to start having negative feelings about yourself which might turn into depression. Now when you talk about deleting comments - you shouldn't. The thing is letting those comments stay will allow other people to know you aren't backing down and that you believe in your work. I know one article I wrote about separation of church and state and the importance of it caused my grandparents to tell me that I was going to hell. And instead of letting that go, I tell people about it and I laugh about it cause I know that I was right about what I was writing and people aren't always going to like it but that doesn't mean I'm wrong.

Sometimes I do feel down when I get rude comments. But most of the time I take it as a challenge. Negativity sometimes gets me hype up to do the best I can to prove these people wrong. Yes, they do get me down but I live with the saying you can't please everybody all the time.

Well it happens my friend Its either they are envious of u or they just dont have anthing good to do, or both! But with a little patience, you will soon get the attention of the good guys and in time u will have them constantly in ur page,bonding , interacting with you through your writing. Don't give up,,there are still good guys around.

almost same incident happened with me. i am managing a comunity in one of the social networking site. we were discussing on the language of our community. out of nowhere one member gave such a negative feedback on the forum and everyone pounds him with lots of reply. finally he losses and written an apology letter to everyone.

Hi Vivasuzi Yes they can bring me down but then I sit think the only reason they are being so rude is because they are Jealous and because they can hide behind a screen so I just ignore them now Because believe me they would not say this to your Face I would just ignore it if I where you as you are obviously very good at writing and this is irking the Person who has left you the rude Comment

Unfortunately the anonymity of the internet seems to make some people believe they can be rude and unkind, in truth they are cowards and are lessening themselves. In today's "me, me" society rudeness is the norm. Don't stop doing what you love and enjoy because of a couple of idiots. If some one is rude to me, I ignore them. I take what they say with a grain of salt, they are entitled to their opinion and I'm entitled to my peace. I especially don't pay attention to anything said online. You are right to delete unpleasant comments, letting one unpleasant comment get to you is giving in to the sender who is a bully and a coward, he/she feels powerful by putting another person down, don't give them that power over you. Jesus said, that if someone strikes you on the cheek, turn the other cheek. Being the "higher" person gives you your dignity and peace.

I had some very rude comments when I started a discussion on another site. The discussion was about my friend from India who had sent me a present. I never received it though, because someone had opened the envelope and removed the present. In my discussion I described the situation, and someone told me what a stupid cow I was since I opened the parcel and instead of taking it to the postoffice to complain. I guess I should have done that, but I was too fast, and I just opened it. Some of the other comments were very pretty rude, too, and someone got extremely mad at me, because she felt that I was accusing the postman of stealing, and she found that unfair. When I get rude comments like that I tend to get sarcastic or superfriendly. My reply was something like: "Thank you verý much for your kind words and your support". Sometimes I regret my sarcasm later on, and I feel that it would have been better to just ignore the comments, but when I get angry I sometimes write things that are stupid or immature. I guess I should learn to control my temper in those situations!

I think people like that go on commenting web sites just so they can put others down.I belong to youtube,I disabled all commenting on any of the videos I post there,because there are always jerks that put an insulting comment just to hurt my feelings.It's like they have nothing better to do.Here on mylot I won't insult anyone,if I don't agree,I don't say it in an insulting manner.I don't mean to hurt feelings ,I try not to,I like to say what my true opinion is of something.What that person commented to you is very rude.I ignore the rude comments and report it,I don't know if it helps to do that.People need to learn to say there disagreement in a better way.

Nope, and expect more of them in my articles. Got over 250 articles posted in other sites and most of them have positive comments. But there are also those who have negative one and the "rude comments". I never deleted them and turn it as a positive one. If the comment is "rude" but still within the topic of the article, then let it be.

hi Viva,When an Elephant walks down the street stray dogs just bark at it ooz they knew that the Elephant doesnt get scared of those when compared to normal human being.so its upto ones nature to take the good and bad comments.That person must have be a $crap in that site who is so jealous of your recaps so he tried to show his hatred through his comment and he couldnt dare to leave his name too.You really shouldnt take those seriosly and go on with your Work Viva.good day.

Its ok to hurt a little but it doesnt mesn that i'll be down. Nope....I'm bigger than that. My motto is " care about what people think or say but do not concern yourself with it" what matters is what I think about myself. If I think i'm pretty and you think i'm ugly you have issues with your own self. I'm beautiful and I know that. Let's chat about this comment now, why did that person see the need to even write that comment and not even leave his/her name? My opinion, she/he has issues with his/her writting skills. Its got nothing to do with you. Dont concern yourself with it, this is her way of dealing with her issue. Be happy that she was so impressed with your writting skills that she had to compare herself to you. You are so damn good and you know that!! Whatever you wrote is helping her deal with those feelings of inadequacy.....dont you worry.. In another discussion, i posted a comment and this dude comes back with a sarcastic comment, i didnt bother myself with what he wrote i continued and came to this discussion. I'm glad i'm helping him deal with his issues.

I've encountered so many people being rude online- for one, I have a blog and in my blog entry I was talking about how I missed my father who was deceased and how I wished he could have seen me in shows and I wondered if he was proud of me (I'm a stage actress.) An anonymous person commented and basically said that he and God would both be disappointed in me for "parading around on stage" and all these incredibly hurtful, mean things. It was unbelievable that somebody could be THAT rude! And of course their name was anonymous...coward. Bottom line is I was pretty upset about it, but in reality I had to realize that it was probably somebody who was jealous or had nothing better to do than to be negative and they were probably unhappy in their own lives. I'm happy with what I do, and that is how I got through it!

One of my friends from myLot said a very good thing to me when I was pissed off from a rude comment on myLot. She said, "You can not make everyone happy." So, even if someone is pointing to our work then I would say that it's there way of thinking and we should not be worrying about them. We should always give attention to the good comments not the bad one. Specially if the person is not mentioning his or her name!

Hi vivasuzi, it's so uncalled for isn't it and it's rather depressing to think of these saddos out there who wouldn't be worth our real life attention at all, but behind their screens they can invade our space. I had two very rude comments on here yesterday which were totally uncalled for as the name calling variety which I just don't engage in. Today it looks as though war has broken out on there as my friends naturally support me. I just hope it doesn't cause the whole discussion to be deleted. I always say I'll just respond with a and really should make myself do it.

Well I agree completely with the other guy. You really need to JOKE joke... not funny... (hugs) Here is something I found out just a few years ago, and I find it to be consistently true. Everyone, and I mean everyone... is insecure about themselves. Me, you, that guy, the rude people, the happy people, everyone. This is why people are rude. Makes them feel better about how they can't do what you do. This is why you are so bugged by negative feedback. Makes you think you are not as good as you are. Ever meet that one guy who can't help telling about how great he is? In reality he is the most insecure about himself, and him pretending he's got it all together is his way of fighting that insecurity. So what about you? How do you deal with it? First, is to realize that it's there, but what do you do about it? Notice that you are doing the classic fight or flight response. You either delete it (flight), or respond back (fight). This might help you, it sure helped me. Step one: realize there will always be critics. Always. Micheal Jordan had critics. George Washington had critics. Bill Gates has critics. Albert Einstein had critics. Dave Thomas had critics. Every good or successful person on this planet has had critics. Jesus had critics. So if all these amazing people, current and past, had critics, there is no reason to assume you and I will not. Right? Just letting that sink in, whenever you get negative feed back, will help. Step Two: Determine if the criticism is correct. Whatever it is, determine if it's true. This means, objectively looking at yourself, and making a real effort to determine the validity of the claim. Step Three: If the claim is false, simply ignore it. If the claim is true, learn from it, adopt it, change yourself, and improve what you do. So why ignore it, instead of fight or flight? Well since we already learned in step one, that you'll always have critics, if you fight it, then you'll be fighting your whole life. If you flee it, you'll be running away your whole life. So ignore it. I remember working for a company, and about mid-day I was chatting with a co-worker, when a guy from the other department walked in and told me I talked too much. I stopped, and considered. The entire time I had been chatting, I was still working. My production was comparable to anyone else there. Further, for the entire morning up to that point, I had been listening to head phones and not chatting. So was his claim correct? No. Now I could have a fight with him. It was ironic that this guy told me I talked too much cause he was always talking (insecurity. Made him feel better to accuse me of what he did). But if I had a fight with everyone who criticized me, I would have fought with people every week. If I ran away, I'd have lost nearly every job I've ever had. Instead, his claim wasn't valid and I ignored him. On the other hand if the claim was true, I still had no reason to fight or flight, because I was simply talking too much, and needed to shut up. Similarly, if someone makes a valid criticism, just accept it, and work to improve so that claim is no longer true. But don't give up. If babies never tried to walk again after falling down, there wouldn't be an upright human on the planet. We have to accept constructive criticism and move on. In this case, obviously the person is wrong, and I wouldn't even waste the time to delete his ignorant comment. One final thought. These 'three easy steps' are not easy at all. The first one alone is difficult to master because we really want to believe that we can somehow please everyone, and we can't. Learning how to not come out swinging at everyone, and not running away from everyone, is difficult. Fight or flight is our natural response. But you can do it, and don't give up.

Yes, rude comments get me down. Since I am very sensitive person ever. And always had the feeling of quitting again and again. But if somebody write rude comment on my discussion, I would just simply response for their comment and thank them anyway for giving time to stop by on my discussion. They are not worth to fight back and such a waste of time.

More than the positive comments, the one negative comment does hurt a lot. But, it is always good to take the good comments a little seriously and ignore the bad comment. I like to motivate myself this way.

Nope, the comments are just other's opinion, especially thr rude comments. I think we just do the things we would like to do, I never affact by other's comments or words, rude comments could make me think more deeply.