People seems don't trust you, don't you hate it?

hi, dorissa, I think everything must have a reason. It's natural that people don't trust others easily. Maybe you trust them, but there is no need to demand people do the same. If someone doesn't trust you, it might be that you are not doing good enough to win the confidence from him or he is skeptical in nature. I know the feeling of being doubted, but there is nothing to complain about. Igore it or do better.

hi clorissa is she older than you, or have you perhaps without realizing it been a little slow at getting something done and she is a bit irritated about your slowness, usually theres two sides to every story and when you said whatever, like it was mumble under your breath it made me remember a page who took her time doing anything so that eventually others had to take up her slack, and whenever anyone asked her if she had filed certain books she came out with an insolent,whatever. I just wonder if its not that you did not do the work, but that you did not do it in a timely manner. I am not trying to be insulting but so often younger women and much older co worker women do not look at work the same way, and thus hard feeling arise from this. I would be so gung ho around her now for awhile that she would have to swallow her meanness and be decent to you.I take it she is just a coworker and not your boss. just be a bit faster then jump on her if she comes at you again.

I wouldn't rule out that it is a control issue as well. Many control freaks distrust people & second guess their actions/ work alot

Sounds like an annoying co-worker. If a person doesn't a trust me, I don't let it affect me too much. I know what I did and that's all that matters. Trying to justify my case 2 or 3 times is enough and after that, ignoring someone might be the best option.

Don't you feel tired to care so much about others thinkings and mood,moreover the person is just your co-worker?The relationship between persons is so marvorlous,there must be some persons that like you and trust you but some are opposite,it is called "chemistry",so some persons' not trusting you is a common phenominon ,you could not make this thing seriously,just keeping a good mood state to face that!

I will become angry if I met this kind of people because it's annoying and it's meaningless to work or live with them that I can't see the light of my life so it's terrible because I think trust is the foundation of human beings relationships.

I've been in this situation a couple of times and it really pisses me off. I have been questioned many times like that, I have given a silent reply. I do hold back my patience as long as I can, and I am pretty humble as long as I have to be. But if they really cross the limits, then I do have a sharp tongue waiting for them at the right time, and I do give a sharp reply. Sometimes, I really get hard on them, and make them know they can't take me for granted and better mind their behavior. You got to be rude when you have to be rude so they also realize what they've done. You can't be too polite and soft all the time. You need to learn to take a stand when you have to. I see this as a problem in many people. People just walk over them, and they keep quiet and do nothing about it. They just let others misuse them, or do whatever, and later they just sit and cry. But I've been questioned like that in one of my work places and also sometimes by my sister, a couple of times and it got really on my nerves and I happened to show my temper a couple of times. I do put people back into their place when necessary.

if she is just a co-work, and not a supervisor, what do you care. you don't have to prove anything to her anyway. nevertheless, trust is an earned thing. it isn't automatic at all. at the same time, you can't go around caring whether or not people trust you. only the people that matters in your life do you need to give the gift of being able to trust you. everyone else....who cares. i want my family, loved ones and my online co-workers to trust me. other than that, i am who i am, and i do what i do. that's honerable enough for me. this is because i AM an honerable person. not perfect, my honor and integrity is just important to me. the ones that are close to me believe in me. my online co-workers believe in me, that's all i need.

I think she wanted to make sure that you have done that job without any fail.It may be because she is the one in the answering position if something went wrong.You need not feel guilty about this.By the way,did you failed to do something told to you in the past?

hello clorissa, It seems that we have something in common after all. unfortunately, it is my mom who keep doing that to me when ever she asked me to do something, despite the fact that i am doing what she tells me to do, she still keep asking me if i have done it. but regarding that situation of yours in the office, i don't think you need to repeat your self in terms of proving that you did this and that. if i were in that situation i would have punch.

I also hate people who dont trust me because me, I easily trust anyone. But we cant blame them because they have poor self esteem that's why they didn't trust anybody.

Yes, I do hate that. But usually I try to give more understanding to those people. They may be just afraid of the bad consequence if you didn't do what they asked you to do. Maybe they would be fired for that. I agree they should consider more about your feeling. It they don't trust you, they shouldn't let you do that at all. So, they did ask you to do that, it means they DO trust you. Don't worry about their enquiry. If they ask you again, you may just say Yes. It doesn't take too much energy to say "Yes", right? I would do that, even if they ask me several times, and I would emphasize with intonation, so they would realize they have asked too many times. Or, I may first give a surprised look for several seconds, and when they started to think I didn't do that, I suddenly tell them "Yes, I suddenly forgot my wife's name, but I still remember what you entrusted me to do."

I have suffered a lot due to this phenomenon. This happens particularly when you are a new to some place. It has happened in my college! My friends won't trust me, thats hurting...How can I prove that I am indeed a trustworthy person? All these things have puzzled me in my life..But got used to it and this is a part of the game. So now, I trust people who trust me! The solution is as simple as that!