Do you share or suffer in silence?

I will only share a certain amount not everything I have gone through the loss of my House a few Years ago and so much more but it is something I had to deal with and dealt with there are certain things that I will suffer in silence and work out how to deal with it

WEll I shared my cancer and heart attack and my moms health here so I really do shre what goes on in my life I think alot of people do here its away to get it off chest and all freinds are so nice to respond with well wishes and prayers and energies

I suffer in silence unless I get absolutely desperate (not happened quite yet)I know the people I could share my problems with will only tell me about there problems which are WAY more important, so I listen to them and keep quiet.

There are many who suffer in silence. And, there are many who share, and there are many who drag other people into their troubles and they pull everybody else down into their sinking boat. It's good to share your troubles, but not good to trouble others with your troubles. By sharing, you may find some solutions. But the ones who not only share, but in a way command you to take part in their problems and involve you in a manner, where you also feel, you are getting trapped in their problems, those are the ones you must stay from. It's good to share, but not whine. I do share my problems, but I don't try to lynch on somebody to get a release from my troubles. I know that my problems are mine, but I just discuss for a while in a mature way, as in, how to find a solution, and once the discussion is over, I just say thank you and leave. But I don't follow up with phone calls after phone calls, which some of my friends do to me. I have this friend, who needs a Tarot reading for every damn reason and that really irritates me to the core. Some people just make it a habit to bother others for a solution, and for them to find a solution to every small thing is only a problem, and they are unable to handle even the smallest of situations. They can't even make the simplest of decisions. For me, I know I can make my decisions and if I can't, I do ask some people as in what I should do, but I try not to be a pain in the wrong places for anybody, which most of them do.

I am one who likes to share my emotional burdens, but as for monetary, I won't. I suppose it's out of pride that I wouldn't share, and the same goes with health, only certain few may know... Then again there are some thigns I will share.

postsecret.com is a wonderful site for sharing and secrets. Every sunday he puts up secrets he's been mailed over the past week. Years ago it was really small, these days its massive. I'd prompt everyone to go have a look.

I share my life with people, I share the good and the bad and I write about it, that is just me. I find many people but a negative spin on anything, if you share bad times, then you are whining, if you share good times then you are boasting. I ignore these people, I share my life with whomever is interested, I always have.

I prefer to chose suffer over sharing silence becoz one should have someone to share the secrets with and I dont have such a person in my life who is very close to me and with whom I can share things. So the only option left with me is to suffer with silence.

I have a friend that I share my problems with in life, thank god she is there and willing to listen. Some times it is like lifting a burden off my shoulders to just get it off my chest. But in return she is a very silent person, never says much about what is happening in her life, and when you do find out she has suffered in silence and you ask her why she didn't say anything she just says don't want to bother you with my troubles. I find she is down a lot, where once I get it off my shoulders, it makes life a lot easier to take. I think if she could just let it go and get it off her chest instead of holding it in and trying to deal with it alone, she would not be so sad all the time. We all need someone we can share hard times with, it isn't whinning, and oh yes I do know some of them, wouldn't matter if someone dropped a trillion dollars on them, they would find something wrong with it. I have to talk about it, even if it was to just come here and discuss it on MYLOT, holding it all in, caused me the stress that gave me the heart attack in 1998.

I usually in the past have kept silent.....I don't do alot of sharing unless it has gotten really bad....but for the most part...I don't share info like that...but I have a few friends that do share....because I am their friend so I think they need someone to vent to....and it's perfectly fine as long as they are really trying.

I do share my burdens with others if I feel they can help me and if I am not adding to their problems. I am a fairly private person but I cannot keep things that upset me entirely to myself. I think it is much healthier to share one’s burdens in the right circumstances, after all as you’ve mentioned, there are a lot of people who love to help but can only do so if they are aware of another’s troubles. I don’t necessarily expect anyone to physically assist me, just being listened to can do wanders!

I don't like to make my problems any one elses problems, so I guess I just keep them to myself. People have enough problems without mine being added to theirs. Just being able to talk with people about other things, and share camaraderie for a while strengthens me, so that I can then go and address whatever the issue is. It is said that laughter is the best medicine, and I find that to be true. Sometimes it's pretty darn hard to find anything to laugh at, but if you can it sure helps.

I think i tend to see myself as a sort of guarded person in real life only because i live with someone that finds it unexceptable to take to others about problems. I find my way to vent and not get any hassels from it at home is in my online life. I have some great friends online and they are good listeners. I think if you keep things bottled up inside for so long you start to feel like you are going to explode which will only cause you more problems in the end.

When I am in emotional turmoil, I share rather than stay in silence. I think this is common to women. Sharing what I am going though makes me feel better. It's not that I want someone to give me advice but I just need someone to listen to me. I tried staying in silence one time but that just made me suffer more.

To be real its hard to keep problems just by yourself. YOu can't hide the fact that you are suffering. IT will lead to heart attack if you just keep it. Me, when I have problem I keep it to myself I do not share to my family, but i share it to my trusted co-workers and some friends. I don't want the one add to the burden of my family. We already have really tough times and it is not just one problem but ample of it so I just keep my personal problems with myself. I can still hide it to my family although they will see me sometimes I am so down. But I can't keep it for long , after a day I will share it to my trusted friends in the office and when I already did I will feel okay. I believe my parents knows what i am doing.

Good morning, dear lady! The only place in this life that I am verbally prolific, is basically here....and even here, I try not to share the parts of my life that are dragging me down. I really, really try...on a day to day basis..to have an "attitude of gratitude"....be thankful for small miracles, and let the chips fall where they may! I would just like to impart one small example...I have the maintenance contract at a Sr.'s Home,....that includes shovelling the sidewalks. Last Tuesday...it snowed like crazy! First I was depressed, as I was in pain, with my hip...but turned on the deck light...caught some snow flakes..looked at them under a magnifying glass....and it sure improved my thots. What beauties, what miracles...snowflakes are! What a gift! Happy holidays & cheers!

It depends on how much sharing one feels like doing. Me I talk to flip'n much but that's cause I sit at home 95% of the week w/ 3 kids and very little adult conversation. Though I think it's nice to speak of these things online as sometimes it's nice to get somewhat unbiased opinions and a means to get ones frustrations out. Though, one must keep somethings to themselves but if it's bothering you enough that you have to spill your guts do so. Now the ones to be of concern with are the ones who are very dramatic and every word they utter is a giant PITTY PARTY!

I do share things w/some of my close friends but i try not to do too much of it because everyone has troubles.

i tend to keep things to myself and suffer in silence. i tend to suffer alone and solve it on my own which i found out is kinda bad stressful for me but i do not want others to be burdenedof my problems

Personally speaking, I find it very relieving to talk to someone about what's going on in my mind. I don't want to call them problems, because, there are people who dislike listening to other's problems. Maybe because they too, have their own and wouldn't want to burden themselves more. It's nice to share your troubles because you also learn from the other about their insights. When you like the idea, you apply it then to your life, and you get the results you want. Even if the other doesn't respond or give any comments, the mere act of pouring out your hurt is a therapy in itself for you. Don't you feel better after? It's as if you have unloaded a whole bunch of negative energy, and you feel positive again. I have a friend you keeps everything to herself. I feel it is selfishness. It's as if you don't want to reach out for help. No one can stand alone. Everyone needs somebody. I don't know, maybe they feel that you are intruding their privacy if you try to listen.