Forgiving those who hurt you
By coolcoder
@coolcoder (2018)
United States
December 21, 2009 7:10pm CST
When I was younger, I would hold grudges for years before I was finally able to accept what happened to me, that it happened in the past, and to truly forgive. I don't take quite so long now.
How long does it take before you know that you can truly forgive someone who has hurt you very badly in the past? Are you quick to forgive, or do you hold a grudge for a long time?
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
22 Dec 09
I've never held grudges. If I can't work things out with a person, I chalk it up to experience and walk away. There are just too many things to learn and experience to waste time and energy holding grudges. If we don't give people the chance to 'change' or move on, how can we expect people to do the same for us? Life is basically quid pro quo after all.
But that said, I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive my ex-husband for the way he's treated our sons, and that's a regret I carry, but I don't obsess over it, and I don't let it color my life either. Just don't bring me face to face with him ever again! LOL
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
22 Dec 09
lol
That's a great attitude. For me, I'm still having trouble forgiving my birth mother (I was adopted) for trying to take care of me for six months, and THEN giving me up for adoption. For me, you either give a child up for adoption right after the birth, or you don't do it at all. This is something I'm working on coming to grips with (and for the record, I really don't want to find my birth parents. It would not be a pretty sight if I ever did).
