How long does it take for you to accept the death of a close family member?
By atebuds
@atebuds (187)
Philippines
December 21, 2009 7:53pm CST
I lost my mother last year. She was 94. I remember she and I were never buddies. She was always the strict one. After a mild stroke 5 years before, I started taking care of her. It was an answered prayer that we become close before she finally leaves. We became very intimate with each other and the bonding was miraculous. It has been 2 years now. Why can't I get over the fact that she's gone? I miss her so much.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
..hi.. losing a dearly loved one is really hard.. you can't get over with it easily most especially if you have things that always reminds you of her.. maybe, what you can do now is to continue with your own life, try to be strong and try to talk about her often.. this way, you will be used to talk about her with glee and thankfulness in your heart that you were able to spend sometime with her before she left your family.. It's natural that you'll miss her because of the memories you had together.. but eventually, you will get over that.. It will really take time.. don't rush yourself..
@atebuds (187)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
That would be nice, thank you. When we do talk about her, I try to be as jolly as I can. But you know, sometimes it sticks in the heart. :) I'm really trying to move on with my life. It has been very slow though, because I miss talking to her about my problems. And when I talk to her now, it's as if she doesn't listen anymore.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
..well, I do believe that she is just there listening to you.. so just express yourself to her and wherever she is, she will be happy that you always remember her.. just be strong.. God bless.. Merry christmas..
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
3 Jan 10
I am sorry about your mom. Time is about all that helps in getting over the loss of a loved one. In 2008 i lost my mother, father & my only aunt. That was quite a shock to lose that many in a year.
