Have you ever been disappointed in your friends? Thought they were better...?

I had this friend once, but I don't talk to her anymore and it's mostly because she was like this! I would say something, and she'd laugh as if what I said was completely ridiculous. Now my real friends will laugh or giggle if I say something outlandish, which is fine b/c I laugh at myself too :) But this girl would laugh at even the smallest thing I said as and ask me if I was kidding as if I was an idiot. My real friends thought it was funny but understood when I told them silly things. So needless to say it wasn't hard for me to stop seeing this friend and eventually I don't even have contact. I would hate if friends did what yours did and shot down or argued with your ideas. My real friends and I have some different opinions, but I never fight with them over it. It's their opinion, doesn't change mine. If the situation with your friends happens often, you might have to say something to them about it and how it makes you feel. If it was a one time deal, I'd let it go and see what happens in the future.

Yes, I have been through that and actually I am very disappointed that many times, my judgement have failed me. It's very devastating especially when I related such matters to another close friend of mine and she will be so upset with me for I had again got myself hurt, and at something which she had warned me previously. However, time and again, I always ended up in such situations and I am also upset with myself all the more for not being able to stand up for my own view. Sometimes, things felt so terrible that I started to question my own thinking ability. I am still trying to deal with it but actually what I do is to stay away from them as they really made me think that I am the fool when it's just a majority winning the minority situation

Yes, yes, and yes. Many of my friends have disappointed me, especially the ones who got pregnant as teenagers. I thought better of them because they kept saying that they would wait until after college, and then what do they go and do? My mother friends and my friends all had bets on who could get pregnant last. So far, I am winning this bet, but not because I want to. It is down to one of my friends and me. She is going into the military, so she will not have children anytime soon, but there are a lot of men in the military, so who knows?, and I am on the pill, in college, and I have way too much going for me to tie myself down like that. My friend and I are 24 and 25 (she is 24 and I just turned 25). All of our friends, and I mean every single last one of them, has children already, or they are expecting in a few months. I think that having children is wonderful, but not this soon! We all said that we would wait. We said that we would party first, get settled, and live a little before we decided to have children, and it just did not happen that way.

yea.i got caught between a friend battle..accused of all kinds of crap i didn't do because i wouldn't "choose a side",only to be rewarded by being stabbed in the back by all three and the knife broke off. i am highly disappointed after all the time i knew them they would have done this.. but there is no point now.if i can be accused like they did after i tried to help all involved,time to say goodbye.

I had a friend who I really trusted ,I mean I would trust this guy with my life .At one point he was in a bind and asked me to help him out .Now I didnthave a lot of money ,only money to take me back to the next month but he told me that he would be gettingsome money when teh next week came and if I lent him the money he would give me back when got his money .When the week in question came I realised that he made no move to give me back my money and by that time I really needed the money .I had to go to him and ask himfor the money and he said he would give me back a part of the money .I was really hurt by his action

Oh I have had two - three nasty friends...I do not consider them friends anymore and I have cut off all relation and ties with them. Theynearly spoiled my life and I still cant forgive them...since that incident, I do not get very close with friends, I maintain a distance, so that they more tehy hurt, the less I get hurt...

It happened something similar to yours. We were talking about a television station. It was obvious they were against the television station that I was talking about. When I first brought up the topic , three of them in unison started to say something bad. I asked them if that accusation was proven but according to them that was only a rumor, so it haven't been proven so I believe there is nowhere they can accuse that television network anymore, but they keep on sharing me something, all that is bad about that television network, since I was the only one spoke up for that network i lost,for the reason that they don't want me to enter any single word, they just keep on talking. So I just keep quiet, when they saw me like that they started to change the topic. As they are forcing me to change my mind over that network. As for me even if we are friends we do have different taste in everything, I respect them of what they want but why can't they do that for me. Since then I never share everything I want to them. and I never hang out with them since then, I was disappointed.

Not all people are understanding or supportive in nature. Such qualities can also be found in our friends. I have been used to that. Now you also experienced it. Its just that we expect our friends to be like us. However over time we realize that they are not and learn to accept it.

Arguments generally occur among friends.This is common with my friends.Every time we argue more and there is no point of disappointment.But no one tries to change my opinion.But in other issues I don't like their attitude.sometimes they go to their hometowns even without saying a single word to me.They go some picnic places without telling me.I don't know why they do so?Anyhow I got used to such small differences.No one is perfect.

Yes, it really is said when a friendship is totally ruined by just having a different opinion on a subject. IT kinda sounds like your friend is really stubborn and want you to agree with him/her. We aren't all robots and are entitled to our own opinion on stuff.

Yeah, not only with friends but family members and everyone I knew. Disappointments are facts of lives and I don't think no one will argue with it. Its a felling and we all are subjected to it. And its normal for all of us. Not the feeling we wanted but still a felling that emerged from time to time.

When you have friends, you always want to think the best of them. Sadly, they are still human, and will still disappoint us sometimes. It happens to all of us, I believe. I have had quite a few disappointments when it came to my friends in the past couple years, so much so I no longer associate myself with two of them. They both became very selfish, and decided their boyfriends were more important than everyone else, and as such would only talk about themselves or their boyfriends, and would refuse to listen to you or let you talk when you had a serious problem. I find it okay though, because it tells me who my real friends are. Sometimes, you have to understand why they do what they do. Sometimes, you have to talk to them about it and tell them that it really sucked you couldn't express yourself openly to them, as they wouldn't let you. Perhaps they would listen if you told them how much it really bothered you that they did that.

Ya i have.......................... i have a so called friend........... i will not say his name bt can say this that the meaning of his name is also friend in 'bengali'....... i am not really dissapointed with him............... but i am totally angry with him............... coz he has literally backstabbed me........ he tried to take away my love from my life.......... he tried to make me alone in life............ he told many lies to my friends so that my friend desert me.......... what will i do??????????? help me.................

yeah my one friend that I grew up with would say things about what I am doing in my life and would try to change my opinion by knocking me down. I hate it when my friends do that, don't tell me what I should be doing just support me make recommendations not knock me down. all for all he is not incarcerated at the moment and he is doing 2 1/3 to seven years in prison, some much for him tell me to go out and do something and got caught up with his BS. got charges for insurance fraud, gran larceny, and a few other charges. not only that but he was in the military guess no pension for him.

yes, how could I forget my best best friend who is far far from me due to some quarrel about a third friend coming in between us. she is to blame as she did not care about the friendship between us and gave more importance to her other friend. I hate her for that , when ever I think about her, I wanted her to be with me forever, we used to eat in one plate , we were so good friends but now every thing is over. she was surely better than before is compared to what she is now.

yes actually i ever disappointed by my best friend once since she is a person who do not keep her promise and always lie. i fed up with that and i also lied her once that's on her wedding day i did not showup but i told her i will. wish this thing can help her to keep promise and act as a man of her word later. other things about this friend is just fine .

Yes I had a friend well so I thought was my friend. And turned out not to be a friend at all! I was always there for her when she neede money or food or just to have someone to talk to but then when I let her borroow money it took forever to pay me back and when she did it was not all there so I didn't say anything at all! I just never let her borrow again. Another thing is she acts like she is a f'n queen and knows everything and doesn't know anything and runs around saying she is broke all the time for so long and before they shut my job down she worked there but they fired her because of her loud mouth and attitude! And every Saturday she would come up there begging everyone for money but yet she always had new clothes for herself and little girl and always have something in her hand like Jack In The Box things to eat and drink and god knows that place is not the cheapest! So I just stopped answering her calls completely! And when we had to make so many sells per week I helped her with a sale and told her the only way I will give you this sale is if you give me back the money for it on payday but of course she acted like I don't know what your'e talking about but everyone else knew. And I also never got paid back for that either. I let har borrow a movie one time and when I asked for it back she's like I don't know what your'e talking about. I just don't talk to her anymore and the last time I did I told her all you care about is yourself and not others that you call your friends! So don't talk to her anymore!

We can have different idea about one thing and discuss with your friends. Sometimes we can not prove who is right absolutely. Friends need understand each other. If you meet disputed idea and were angry you should calm down. When you are feel better you can discuss again.

I think that's why we call them friends. We expect a lot yet we know we shouldn't yet things happen and we forgive and forget. We all are different in our ways of thinking and understanding and we never find people who will always agree with everything we say. So this is a part of life and something that doesn't needed to be dwelled upon. If you can accept them for who they are. They just might do the same for you:)

when i was realy in need,and turned to a friend i thought she could help,but she said sorry to me,that wil disappointed me deeply,i felt helpless,so most of time i helped myself,but i would hate that guy,we are also friends