Meaning of friends to me here on mylot.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58678)
Delhi, India
December 22, 2009 12:55am CST
Hi dear friends!
Merry Christmas to all of you and a happy new year (in advance). I am here on mylot for pretty long time and have responded to numerous discussions. I see some of the discussions, which are related to adding/deleting friends here on mylot and these kind of discussions keep surfacing off and on. About friends, I have observed the following :-
(a) there are some users who just add you for the sake of it, I mean just to increase their tally of friends and would never participate in your discussions;
(b) there are some users, who add you and would sometimes appear in your discussions;
(c) there are some dedicated users/friends, who make it a point to participate in your discussions, as soon as they get an opportunity.
(d) there are some friends whose discussions you invariably enjoy and would take part in those discussions, irrespective of their reciprocal activity;
(e) another kind of users are who become your good friends and they invariably take part in your discussions, irrespective of the fact, whether you join them in their discussions or not.
(f) the best one are those who are your close friends on mylot and both of you make it a point to participate in each others discussions, without fail.
I am really lucky to have all the above kinds of friends and naturally I appreciate those, who invariably join me in my discussions and revert for their comments/counter comments. I feel indebted to them for their constant support. There may be some other categories of friends, which I may have forgotten to add. I would like you guys to add more categories for friends, if you feel like and which you might have observed, during the course of your journey here on mylot and the second and important question is - to which of the above categories do you belong to or could relate to.
Dpk
PS – this post is based strictly on my own opinion and it is not intended to offend any of the users. My due apologies to those, who may take it otherwise.
Merry Christmas to all of you and a happy new year (in advance). I am here on mylot for pretty long time and have responded to numerous discussions. I see some of the discussions, which are related to adding/deleting friends here on mylot and these kind of discussions keep surfacing off and on. About friends, I have observed the following :-
(a) there are some users who just add you for the sake of it, I mean just to increase their tally of friends and would never participate in your discussions;
(b) there are some users, who add you and would sometimes appear in your discussions;
(c) there are some dedicated users/friends, who make it a point to participate in your discussions, as soon as they get an opportunity.
(d) there are some friends whose discussions you invariably enjoy and would take part in those discussions, irrespective of their reciprocal activity;
(e) another kind of users are who become your good friends and they invariably take part in your discussions, irrespective of the fact, whether you join them in their discussions or not.
(f) the best one are those who are your close friends on mylot and both of you make it a point to participate in each others discussions, without fail.
I am really lucky to have all the above kinds of friends and naturally I appreciate those, who invariably join me in my discussions and revert for their comments/counter comments. I feel indebted to them for their constant support. There may be some other categories of friends, which I may have forgotten to add. I would like you guys to add more categories for friends, if you feel like and which you might have observed, during the course of your journey here on mylot and the second and important question is - to which of the above categories do you belong to or could relate to.
Dpk
PS – this post is based strictly on my own opinion and it is not intended to offend any of the users. My due apologies to those, who may take it otherwise.
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28 responses
@vandana7 (100609)
• India
22 Dec 09
I liked your avatar and it progressed from there into a good quality friendship I want for lifetime. I dont think participating without fail is feasible. Because that decreases the quality of responses. I cant possibly be discussing archery with a friend who is an archer out here, much as I might share his or her taste in music. That is the point. But at times I feel inclined to participate even in such discussions, to show some sort of - well friend, I know you are from another planet, but still I know that you are my friend, kind of thing. :)
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Vandana!
Thanks for selecting an avatar, at last. It is really looking very cute, like my baby.........lol
! Excellent choice, I must say.
Oh! It was my avatar, which did the trick..........lol! But I cannot survive, I mean I just cannot be a good friend only on the basis of my avatar, I need to participate in my friends discussions and should interact with them through comments/counter-comments, which I try to do. I agree with you that participating without fail is feasible (in fact I wanted to add a sentence after that with some exception, however, I overlooked). I know you cannot discuss archery or wrestling with a friend..........lol!
Many thanks for kick starting the discussion and be my good friend.
! Excellent choice, I must say.
Oh! It was my avatar, which did the trick..........lol! But I cannot survive, I mean I just cannot be a good friend only on the basis of my avatar, I need to participate in my friends discussions and should interact with them through comments/counter-comments, which I try to do. I agree with you that participating without fail is feasible (in fact I wanted to add a sentence after that with some exception, however, I overlooked). I know you cannot discuss archery or wrestling with a friend..........lol!
Many thanks for kick starting the discussion and be my good friend.2 people like this
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
22 Dec 09
Hi Deepak!! you have done a research about mylot friends lol .. I agree with your definitions.. yes we can find all kinds of friends here in mylot.. some of them are like they are part of our discussions and with out whom our discussions are incomplete.. I am lucky to have some of those kinds of friends here.. who are more than just being mylot friends.. I appreciate your effort of researching about friends lol..
.. I agree with your definitions.. yes we can find all kinds of friends here in mylot.. some of them are like they are part of our discussions and with out whom our discussions are incomplete.. I am lucky to have some of those kinds of friends here.. who are more than just being mylot friends.. I appreciate your effort of researching about friends lol..2 people like this
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Hi Chaitra!
Your response made me laugh.......lol! I just noted down few observations about different categories of friends here and converted those observations into this discussion. I did not go for much research work........lol! It is always a great feeling to read friends responses and share our views with them. Thanks a lot for joining us.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Dear friends like you always make me feel happy.
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@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
23 Dec 09
So I made you laugh.. I am happy for that to see my friend happy after reading my response..
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
22 Dec 09
c and f--If I am not mistaken we have this sort of mutual understanding DEEPAK! What do you think?-I concentrate normally on the topics started by friends and herein lies my priority.So , it happens this way unless the toic is something that I can totally not relate to.
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@vandana7 (100609)
• India
22 Dec 09
I too tend to do that. But at times, the discussion may have moved a page or two down. So what comes before me, I tend to pick from that first. Clear and then look for my friends. In general, I too seem to have developed my own friend circle. Initially, it was not my intention. I wanted to move across all groups. I still try that. :)
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Hi Kalav!
I would slot you in the last category, as you are there most of the time, in my discussions, provided you have seen the alert and you have time to respond and it is always great fun to read your responses. Thanks for being the first one to open the discussion.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
22 Dec 09
Happy Holidays! I only have two types of friends . Ther reral clopse friends like you and the occasional type. my close friends star great posts and trul care about me and others it sems. Ther occasional come in and out. We connect every once in a while . and that's okay. Because when we do connect it is fun.I weed out the " friend' yo I added but doesn't either start posts I can relate to or Never responds to my posts at all, or hasn't been active for more than 2 months.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I understand. These days my post are about the soap Operas I am watching and Ice hockey. I'm glad I can respond to your posts so we at least remain connected. Promise me if you ever leave My Lot that you send me a private message so I can give you my private email. Good friends are hard to find and harder to keep.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Sarah! I am overwhelmed to read your comments.. You see what is most important to me is my friends, rather anything else here on mylot. You can well understand my limitations in responding to posts related to soap Operas and Ice hocky, I am not much aware about both these subjects.
I promise that if I leave mylot, I'll keep you informed. Thanks once again for beign a wonderful friend.
deepak
PS - Please check your PM.
You can well understand my limitations in responding to posts related to soap Operas and Ice hocky, I am not much aware about both these subjects.
I promise that if I leave mylot, I'll keep you informed. Thanks once again for beign a wonderful friend.
deepak
PS - Please check your PM.1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Hi Sara!
I must appreciate that you invariable join me in my posts with your wonderful and meaningful responses and you have always been a source of my inspiration and motivation. Dear friends like you always are precious and without their responses, my posts remain incomplete. Thanks for being with me always and for all the favors. I know that many a times, I am not able to participate in your discussions, because I cannot relate to some of them (please do not take it otherwise.). I value your friendship very much and will continue to do the same. Happy holidays and festive season to you.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Dec 09
Hi Deepak,
Thank you very much for your nice wishes and I too wish you a very Happy Christmas (I think not in advance, Christmas is near).
I think you definitions are correct, some are just joining in mylot, adding some friends but failing to understand the importance of participating discussions in an appropriate manner. Some are starting many discussions in a day and failing to reciprocate to the responders and within a week or two they may disappear from the forum. But some are very dedicated and always makes a point to join to their friends and other member’s discussions. Those people are very serious in mylot. I too have some dedicated friends in mylot and I am happy with their attitude and support. Here I would like to express my gratitude to all of them including you.
(I think not in advance, Christmas is near).
I think you definitions are correct, some are just joining in mylot, adding some friends but failing to understand the importance of participating discussions in an appropriate manner. Some are starting many discussions in a day and failing to reciprocate to the responders and within a week or two they may disappear from the forum. But some are very dedicated and always makes a point to join to their friends and other member’s discussions. Those people are very serious in mylot. I too have some dedicated friends in mylot and I am happy with their attitude and support. Here I would like to express my gratitude to all of them including you.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Hi Sree!
Thank for your reciprocal wishes. You are in agreement with me that many of the users do not understand the importance and intent of adding a friend here on mylot and they do not revert for participating even in a single discussion of yours. Some of the friends add you and you just cannot relate to their discussions and don't get a chance to take part in their discussions. I know that you have a very good and dedicated group of friends, who join you in almost every discussion of yours to lend their support. Have a nice day!
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
(c) there are some dedicated users/friends, who make it a point to participate in your discussions, as soon as they get an opportunity.
"i always try to track down my friends topic...after reading and replying to my topic comments...i always go to friends started"
(d) there are some friends whose discussions you invariably enjoy and would take part in those discussions, irrespective of their reciprocal activity;
"if it is the same with my interests...i would surely participate..."
(e) another kind of users are who become your good friends and they invariably take part in your discussions, irrespective of the fact, whether you join them in their discussions or not.
" i do...i had few friends here in mylot,that i almost participated on their discussion,thu,they seldom participate or response to my discussion...it's fine with me"
(f) the best one are those who are your close friends on mylot and both of you make it a point to participate in each others discussions, without fail.
"yes,i always make a point to participate to my close friend's discussion,i always do..."
Happy Holiday
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Hi Jai!
you are always welcome! It is great pleasure to be see you in my discussions.
Many thanks for your wishes.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Hi Jai!
I am honestly impressed with your point wise response and this proves your dedication and sincerity towards responding to friends' discussions. We have become friends recently and I feel that once we have joined hands with each other, you are almost there in each of my discussions and it is great pleasure to read your quality responses. I know that you are particular about your friends discussions and you do your best to be there in their posts. I also try to respond to those of my friends, who are regular in my discussions, however, I skip those discussion to which I just cannot relate to. Many thanks for enriching the post, one of the best responses so far.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
thank you so much for the appreciation dear.
Wishing you a Happy Holiday this season
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Dec 09
hi dpk merry Merry Christmas and a most Happy New Year to you and yours. this is another great discussion from you as always. Yes there are a few who just w ant us as referrals and those i am now starting to deny, all others I usually accept as I like to have mylot friends here.I think you have captured the many types of friends we all like.like you I have a number of the various types and have learned to love them all.its such fun enjoying all the various discussions and sharing in and caring.It makes mylot a lot of fun for me.
usually accept as I like to have mylot friends here.I think you have captured the many types of friends we all like.like you I have a number of the various types and have learned to love them all.its such fun enjoying all the various discussions and sharing in and caring.It makes mylot a lot of fun for me.1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Hi Hatley!
Merry Chirstmas and a very very Happy New Year to you and your family. It is always gives me a sense of pride to see your responses in my posts, as you are a vetern here and would always come out with some meaningful and kind responses. Yes, we have all categories of friends here and we tend to accomodate them all. Thanks for such a remarkable response.
Deepak
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I think I would be considered as all of those. As there are some friends I make a point to get to their discussions, some I just read and wish I had something to say to, and others I just add instead of denying. I do enjoy your discussions and try to get to them as often as I can, I appreciate you,
Have a wonderful day!
Happy Mylotting!
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Hi SCG!
Undoubtedly, you are one of the best friends here, because you make it a point to participate in my posts, without fail, which makes me doubly happy. You see sometimes participation becomes more important than anything else, I mean even if you are there in my posts with some brief responses, I would love to see that. Thanks for everything and appreciating my discussions.
have a wonderful festive season and New Year!
Deepak
have a wonderful festive season and New Year!
Deepak@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Jan 10
I feel the same way as you, I enjoy reading and responding to your discussions and responses no matter how short the response! Have a wonderful day!
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I have almost 1000 friends, I respond to all their discussions. If they haven't been on for at least 4 months I will delete them or if they left after just getting here then I'll delete them. I've been friends with you for a long time, I love your discussions. Merry Christmas to you and a Happy New Year as well.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
24 Dec 09
Hi git!
I feel honoured to see your responses in my discussions. It feels great to note that you are almost there in most of my discussions, even if you are posting your concise thoughts. I am thankful to you for your participation and I believe that dear friends like you make this platform more beautiful.
MERRY Christmas and Happy New Year to you too!
Deepak
@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
HI, what an interesting discussion, my friend. To answer your question, i think i belong to category (e).I think that you have said or describe them all.You are among my good friends on here and i appreciate very much our exchange of opinions and ideas. The reason i enjoy it here on mylot is because of friends like you.Merry Christmas, dear friend.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Hi Sweeti!
You are the one who is always there invariably in my discussions to lend me support and to give me feed back through your interesting and meaningful responses. I always feel a kind of gratitude for your presence in my discussions.I am happy to note that friends like me prompt you to participate in discussions. Thanks for everything. I look forward to more participation from you.
Deepak
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@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
The same goes for me Deepak. Our interaction on here is really appreciated. You are one of my first friends on here to whom i have stayed connected. I am happy to have met you on here. Thank you, dear friend and Merry Christmas to you and your family.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Hey Deepak! You are the kind of friend that everyone would want
to have! You are a great person, a true friend and an all around
great guy who I am privledged to call my friend and I truly
mean that! We have had many interactions in many discussions so
we kind of have gotten to know each other which is what this
site is really about! I wish that there were others who could
experience what we have!
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Hi Opal!
I am really overwhelmed by your kind words about me and my posts. I feel that it is great friends like you who make my discussions 'more interesting' with their thoughtful and considered response. I find that you are there most of the times to share your views with me and without your participations, my discussions remain incomplete. I am also preveleged to be your friend and our association is pretty old here. Yes, it is true that what best friends should experience while interacting with each other, we have experienced here.
Have a wonderful festive season and New Year!
Deepak
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
22 Dec 09
I don’t remember how we ‘met’ Deepak but I have enjoyed your discussions since. I would say that I am between an "(e) another kind of users are who become your good friends and they invariably take part in your discussions, irrespective of the fact, whether you join them in their discussions or not." and an "(f) the best one are those who are your close friends on MyLot and both of you make it a point to participate in each others discussions, without fail."
I value my friends here on the Lot and I will always respond to their discussions first unless it is a topic I cannot relate or contribute anything to, which does not happen all that often.
Best wishes to you and your family for the Festive Season Deepak!
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Hi Paula!
I also cannot recall, how we met but what I can recall is you are almost there in most of my discussions. You always contribute your views in my discussions and it is great pleasure to read your wonderful and quality responses. I know that sometimes, I fail to participate in your discussions and I hope that you do not take it otherwise. I sometimes cannot relate to a discussion, therefore, I skip that one. Many thanks for extending your wishes and sharing your views.
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@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
6 Jan 10
Hi Deepak
I do not know to which catagory I belong to. Because, who ever responds to me, I will make it a point of giving comments to them, though if not immediately, but when ever I find time but definitely I will give comments and respond to their discussions also without fail. This is my nature. Though lots of friends are there in my friend list, only handful of friends are taking part in my discussion. Regarding your above discussion, what you feel and say is my feeling and word. Because it is true to my knowledge and I totally agree with you
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 10
Hi Vathsala!
I know about you that how committed and sincere you are towards your friends and you do not fail to respond to their posts and if they have posted responses to your discussions, you make it a point to post your comments. Thanks a lot for agreeing with my point of view, I made these observations after spending more than 3 years here on myLot.
Have a great day!
Deepak
@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
I think the meaning of friends here on Mylot is to help you by responding to your discussions that you start here. But I know people can become really busy and don't have the time. It would be nice if my friends would reply to discussion I started if I replied to one of their discussions.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Hi nij!
So are you playing the role of a good friend to the users who are in your friends' list? Thanks for sharing your views.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
22 Dec 09
You are very right, there are lots of different types of friends here in mylot. Even though I would love to be a close friend here in mylot, I know I won't have the time to keep up the effort. Therefore I hope the people I love and cherish here at mylot know that if I DO make a contribution, I make sure that it counts.
I wish you the best for 2010 and see you around 
.
.@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Hi cyberfluf!
You are a close friend for me here on mylot because even if I am unable to participate in your discussions, you are there many a times in my posts, which makes me happy. You try your best to be part of my discussions, as much as you can. Wish you all the best for 2010.
Deepak
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I think you have listed the categories pretty well. I too have been blessed with some very good friends here on the lot. And of course I have some friends on my list that are not that active but that's okay too. I realize that mylot is not the only thing in life. We all have to work and do other things. Some of us are quite busy in the literal world and can't get here as much as we like.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Dec 09
Hi savak!
Thanks for appreciating my listing of categories. I quite agree with you that there is more than mylot in our life and we also need to attend to our other personal business, therefore, sometimes, we fail to respond to friends' discussions. Thanks for joining and sharing your views.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
22 Dec 09
I think we all have all those kinds of friends. If I have to talk about myself, I surely do not post in every discussion of my friends because I do not like to post whatever comes to my mind. I participate in only those discussions where I can post quality responses and which are interesting to me.
Many may feel offended by my attitude but responding to a discussion which I know nothing about is really not welcome. I prefer to respond to a few of my friends. I do have some friends who make it a point to participate in my discussions and I am grateful to them for that. I am sorry that I cannot do the same but I will only participate if I find the discussions interesting. Thank you for starting such a nice discussion.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Hi sagnik!
There is no harm if your are choosy in responding to friends discussions, I agree with you that if one cannot relate to any discussion, there is no use of writing frivolous responses. It is always better to share our views, where we are well aware about the topic of discussion. Thanks very much for joining us and sharing your own thoughts.
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
22 Dec 09
I love to share my thoughts. It is just that in the offline world nobody cares about them.
So, I force my online friends to at least take a look at them. I am not sure I do them any help with my thoughts and views but I believe that I do the exact opposite most of the time.
So, I force my online friends to at least take a look at them. I am not sure I do them any help with my thoughts and views but I believe that I do the exact opposite most of the time.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
22 Dec 09
Hi Dpk,
I have also seen serval discussions on mylot that some mylotter would like to delete some of their friends who are not active or as of other reason and it is lucky that you could list a kind of category of your friends in mylot. I did not quite pay attention on the friends which kind of friends they are. Basically I will accept those friends who required to invite me. Now it seems that some of friends inviting me seldom reponded my discussion and sometimes I would like to delete them, but I seldom did it.
More friends invited, more help for your discussion as different guy will have different interest topic in mylot. I will not delete the friend unless he did some harm on me.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
24 Dec 09
Hi Dpk,There is a point here, I am not here for so long, but I can feel the situation you mentioned. I see that most of my friends are not active here. Since they invite me as their friends, and I think the guy who are positively inviting friends will have a lot of friends that they don't have enough time to repond every discussion of the friends posted.
@neelimaravi (1793)
• India
22 Dec 09
hi deepak, your explanation are absolutely right.. for me had these kinds of experience.anyway we have to take it as easy. thankyou for your wishes. you too have a great day thankyou.@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Dec 09
Hi Neeli!
Thanks for appreciating the post. As you would get older here on mylot you would also draw your own explanations like me about your bunch of friends. Hope you are going to stay here for a long long time. Have a great evening!
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@neelimaravi (1793)
• India
23 Dec 09
hi deepak, definitly i will be here till my end, i like mylot verymuch. this is the way to take out my feelings and shares with you and all our friends. thankyou for your comment,have a nice day.
@hoodwinks (157)
• United States
22 Dec 09
yeah I can see where your coming from. I am new here and am just making some friends they aren't really good friends yet. I send friend invites for people I like how they start discussions. as for me reading every single person response I can't do that there's just not enough time in a day if you want to make plenty of responds. I do read the start of the discussion if it is in detail. like yours for instance. well detailed and good opinion details.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
24 Dec 09
Thanks for appreciating the post. Hopefully, as you grow older here on mylot you will get many more good friends. Best of Luck!
