What should i do about this relationship?

India
December 22, 2009 7:17am CST
hey please help me i am into a relationship where my partner always gets angry about everything i do.If ever I am busy and can't able to attend her call or call her she just gets hyper...she shouts like anything.Actually she doesn't give me space that i need.She's so into me and my life that i can't even think of dumping her so i have no idea what to do and what not.Sometimes,she makes me very angry she always wants me to talk to her,ya i also want to do this but i have my career too.I can't sort this out,please looking for suggestions.
3 responses
@gerry101 (229)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Hello there, First of all do you love her and do you want to make it right? If your answer is yes then this is my advice. When women are inlove or love their man they want to be with their man always. Yes they can be very posessive and selfish. They always want their man to text her or to call many times a day. They can't seems to get enough with their man. If you love her and want to stay in this relationship then you have to put up with it until she becomes mature and secure in your love. Right now I dont think she's secure in your love. To make her feel secure you must text her from time to time and tell her you miss her, be romantic to her with words. Explain to her that you can't always answer her call when you are busy with work or in class. Tell her that when you have time you will call her back. Then when you can don't forget to buy her flowers or any small gift and give it to her once in awhile. Also talk to her and explain to her why you cant always answer her calls right away and also let her know how you feel whenever she goes hyper. At the end of the day before you go to bed talk to her and ask her how is her day and what she did today. Tell her that you need space and let her know what you mean by space. Relationship is like a garden. You have to tend it everyday make sure the flowers gets enough water and sun and pull out the weeds and get rid of pest. Also try to find a hobby that you both like to do together. Is it online games? Or video games? Whatever it is commit to each other to do it from time to time. Also never hide your feelings for her what you feel for her in your heart. Now if you are no longer inlove with her and you want your life back you must break up with her or else you will hurt her and yourself. Both of you will be unhappy in your relationship. When you do break up with her you must let her know why you are breaking up with her. My other suggestion is too cool of for awhile like a week or two and get back together again if breaking up is not a good choice for you. Communication is very important to every woman who is in a relationship. I hope this help. Good luck.
• India
23 Dec 09
thanks gerry i loved your response and it seems you are much matured nd experience one thanks for your advice.
@gerry101 (229)
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
Thank you yashdadude. I am a woman and I confess I was once so selfish and possesive and it choke my man. I had to adjust myself or else Ill lose him. I was doing exactly what your gf was doing and worst. We almost broke up and it was my fault really. Anyway Merry Christmas and prosperous new year and more success to your love life.
• United States
22 Dec 09
Well you obviously already know the answer to your question. Most people when asking these questions already know what the answer is going to be and I'm sure you do as well. Think about what you are saying. This girl is a nutcase and nobody wants to be with a nutcase. Just break it off now... like as soon as you read this message because the longer you wait the harder its going to be. And also why waste time on a girl that does nothing for you? Move on.
@babshish (1387)
• India
22 Dec 09
Hi Yash, sorry to say that but whatever background you have given seems that your partner is not mature enough and does not seems to understand you. Or may be she is too possessive about you. But in such situation you need to behave maturely and try to make her understand that you also need to look for your carrier and it will be beneficial for both of you in future. Whenever she is angry try to calm her down and make her comfartable first and then try to explain her the things. And still if you feel you have done whatever you can and still dont want to dump her, then you need to have more paitence so you can make her understand the things and of course this will take time, so prepare yourself. Else to be blunt take the practical decisions accordingly. Sometimes practical decesions are very hard to take but are really very fruitful in the long run. All the best from my site.