How to tell my best about the love i have for her?
By shivamkapila
@shivamkapila (764)
India
December 22, 2009 9:05am CST
please tell me the ways about how to tell my friend that i love her so much even we use to go for outing and spending lot of time together as well..Even she was also expected me to tell her about the feeling that i have for her but i felt shy and hesitate for the same ,,,please tell me the correct way to go about and tell her that I LOVE YOU
7 responses
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
It's kinda funny sometimes that we ran out of sweet, romantic, and affectionate words in order to express our love for our special one. But most of the time, its meaning faded when it is not followed up by actions. Love is too expressible. Whatever we say, we all end up saying "I love you". But proving it is a great challenge.
As for you, expressing love for her will be sweeter when she least expect it... Good luck!!!
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
My apology, I am kinda expecting that you already have a girlfriend.
Well, they sometimes that the biggest mistake you will commit is to fall in love with you best friend. Some say that friendship is the best foundation of love.
You should make it clear for her that your love this time is differ from the love you've had for her before. She might misinterpret what you feel for her. You might care so much, but she's might expect that, that care is because you are her bestfriend and not because you truly love her.
It is very difficult situation to be in. But by doing this, you should take a risk and be ready for the next consequences. Lucky for you, if she accepts it but be aware if not. As for how to tell her, I think it's as simple as having enough guts. Be man enough to admit what you feel or else you might lose her the other way. I mean, you might lose her if you don't tell her because she might fall in love with the other guy. You might also lose her if you tell her because she might think you ruin your friendship. So, a heart-to-heart talk is what you needed to make things clear for both of you. Good luck!
@amandaauc (82)
• United States
22 Dec 09
You should definitely tell her how you feel. You'll feel a great weight lifted off of your shoulders! If you guys already spend a lot of time alone together, maybe just take her somewhere romantic, and just tell her. Or drop her off at home and hand her a note telling her exactly how you feel, if you feel as though you can't get the nerve to actually say the words. Good luck!
@shivamkapila (764)
• India
22 Dec 09
well that is my main concern about how to tell her about the feeling that i have for her ...even i am scared to lose such a gud friend of mine who cares me a lot
@missweety (626)
• Latvia
23 Dec 09
Hello! These are just words but the feelings are most important :) If you really feel it and you know that you are with all your heart and your soul into other person, then you can do something nice to other person, it doesn't matter how or where...
it can be just under her window night time when everyone is asleep, you can take dozens of candles, make a heart of them, sit in the middle, give her a phone call to look through the window and tell her in a phone, that she is all for you :)
...or just take her to a restaurant, arrange with the waitress when you order a champagne glass she has to bring out roses for your friend :), you can put a small card into roses saying that she is all for you...and just make a small tost like: For us!!! or something like that. It can be a very small thing, you even can start like "you are everything for me" and then if you have courage you can go forward saying "I love you"... I would sugest starting with some small nice things, floweres, restaurant, candles etc...and then if you can, then you can say - I love you!!! Good luck!!!!
@anotherxidentity (1434)
• United States
22 Dec 09
If you want a romantic way of doing things why not take her out to a really nice dinner and then during the dinner say that you appreciate her being your friend and you absolutely love hanging out with her and all the time you've spent together has really mad you see the true feelings you have of wanting to take things to the next level and just ask her how she feels.
But if you are too shy to do that why not write her a handwritten note saying all the things you want to say to her but can't and just start the letter out saying I've been meaning to tell you all of this for awhile now but every time I look at you I get butterflies and the words can't come out. I dunno something sweet and slightly cheesy but it gets the message across.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
22 Dec 09
Well I don't think you should start by saying I love you. Telling someone how you feel should be gradual that leads to a comfort point where the words I love you come out naturally without hesitation. So I think you should start by talking about your friendship and state that over the years you have developed feelings that are more than a friend would have. That should send a clear message without being too difficult for you to bring to your mouth. If the word feelings is hard to say than start by using examples like in such and such movie the two were best friends and at the end they discovered they love each other. Then say that that's happend to you with your friend who is sitting right in front of you or the one you are talking to etc. Be that direct so that he/she doesn't get a picture of someone else. Does this help?
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
I had the same experienced but its the opposite, my close guy friend was inlove with me before. We worked in the same company when we first met. We're also in the same age thats why we get along easily. He was a sweet guy but he was attached with someone else when we met so thus preventing us from falling for each other. At the time he was having problem with his girlfriend I was the one who comforted him and sooner I felt that he was falling for me. I never took advantage of his feelings for me eventhough he was such a nice guy I wouldnt dare to take him away from his girlfriend. Time passed and they finally broke up. Within those times, my ex-boyfriend was already courting me and I already fell inlove with him because my close friend havent got the courage to tell me how he felt. I knew by his actions that he loved me but I was waiting for him to tell me so I can hear him say those three words. But he never said it so I totally fell inlove with my ex-boyfriend.
So as my advice to you, tell her how you felt before its too late. And whatever her answer will be you must accept and respect it.
@jodylee_04530 (1097)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I think words are just words without having actions behind them. To tell a person you love them is indeed difficult. I think it is important to know a person very well before knowing if you do love them. Ask yourself some simple questions. What is her favorite flower/food/candy? What does she like most about you? What do you like most about her? Glorify some part of her when telling her that you love her. Give her something she holds dear to show her that you understand her wants and desires. Let her know you love her with your actions and the words will easily fit in... Best of luck to you!
