How much privacy do you require in a relationship?

I think there has to be a certain amount of privacy kept in the relationship for it be able to remain intimate. I just kind of think it kills the romance when your farting around each other and using the bathroom with the door open. No matter how close you are some things should just be kept private, for the sake of your intimacy. Guys like a little mystery anyways. Also I think women/men should keep their grooming and hygiene on the down low, I mean what guy wants to know his wife waxes certain parts of her body or uses some kind of other personal hygiene product. It's just icky. I hate to say that we can't all be completely comfortable with each other, but some things should just remain sacred!

You know, for all the people out there that complain they don't have enough privacy...and the magazine articles that always tell you what TO talk about and what NOT to talk about with your spouse...I cannot imagine having that kind of relationship where certain discussions are unapproachable. My husband and I have an extremely open relationship with one another. With us, the less the privacy the better, really. We're together 24/7 and can talk about anything. Usually if one of us has to go to the bathroom we'll go and even leave the door open...simply because we know each other well enough to know the other won't look in and make fun of the situation. We respect that the other is human...if he wants to know who I'm emailing, it's most likely out of curiosity. I'll simply tell him rather than asking him, "WHY? Don't you TRUST me?" I think that's just asking for trouble. Our privacy revolves around what the other is comfortable with. For instance, I hate when people watch me when I eat, so he simply doesn't stare at me because he knows that. Obviously that's not really a privacy issue, but it's the same way with privacy situations. I don't like getting dressed in view of him simply because I think it's awkward looking. If he's texting someone, I'll ask him who...but this is because he only texts his family and whenever he can get ahold of them it's a miracle. Both of us have a mutual knowledge and respect for the other...we know that if one asks a question, there's a reason. Neither of us start arguments to argue, so we don't take offense in answering questions most people would think were nosy or privacy-invading. I can talk to my husband about feminine problems and get a more caring response than if I had talked to my own mother. We just have something special between us where nothing he could say or do or vice versa will turn the other off. Obviously some bathroom visits require a closed door...and some phone conversations where I'm talking to my troubled best friend she'll ask me not to tell anyone about her problems so I'll go in the other room...but for the most part, my husband is who I go to about every single thing.

LOL well let me put it to you like this....my husbnad and I have seperate bedrooms and neither of us would dare snoop in the others...He isnt allowed into my purse without my permission and I wouldnt dare look into his wallet...He has a passcode on his computer and I have one on each of mine LOL.....so yea I guess privacy is a big thing still..

I am a person who requires space which I suppose can be interputed as privacy. I need to be left alone to accomplish my daily list of things to do but I require very little phyical privacy. In my opinion, physically couples unite when married but think they should maintain a measure of their own individuality. The mix is difficult to blend but if done successfully creates a married that can endure the test of time. Yes, seperate but not apart is what works for me.

There is not a whole lot of privacy in my marriage, and never really has been. The only times I really want privacy are when I'm doing things I think are a bit gross, like popping a zit, brushing my teeth, shaving, things like that. There's only 1 time my husband requests privacy, and it's for a similar reason. But I mean we will take showers together, and be in the bathroom at the same time, not really much of a problem. I do also like privacy when I'm on the computer, and I'm not really sure why. It's not like there's anything to hide from him, I just feel a bit odd. I do talk about him a lot and even though most of it isn't bad, I just don't feel comfortable if he were reading over my shoulder while I was typing something personal about him, even if he didn't care that I said it. KWIM?

Interesting discussion because you actually mentioned the only thing I do keep private from my husband and that is any time I am in the bathroom - not when I am washing though say like in the bath or taking a hower but, just when I am using the toilet - my saying is this ''toilet time is private time!'' I always use this motto as I feel it is a time when getting rid of bodily watse is not something I want to share with anyone!! However I read my husbands email, he reads mine and also everything else is open to us both - hte only time I keep anything from him is when I am buying surprise gifts!! lol

I don't need a lot of privacy, if I get a text message for example and I am busy with something else I will ask my boyfriend to read it to me. I don't care if he reads it, same with e-mails. On the other hand, I wouldn't be comfortable if he would read my messages all of the time, because the messages are adressed to me and 99% of the time have nothing to do with his interests. For example mail from college, etc. I don't close the bathroom door for my boyfriend, like I said I need little privacy. When I am doing make up however I do ask him not to walk in unexpected because I am worried I might stick the eyepencil in my eye . We have a very small bathroom and the mirror is directly next to the door.

Like you, I want to be left alone in the bathroom and that includes the shower or bath. My purse, my emails, my snail mail are all off limits to everyone and that includes my children and other family members! One thing I always considered an invasion of privacy as well as very inconsiderate was when my former husband would watch television and turn it so loud that you could hear it in every room of the house and even out to the road, about 200 feet away!

I don't need the kind of privacy where the bathroom door has to be closed, more like stay out of my things, and ask permission first if you need to get into them. Probably because my brothers used to steal. My thoughts are private too unless I choose to share them, so don't push me if I don't want to reveal something!

I wouldn't dream of checking anyone elses phone/emails/mail so I wouldn't expect anyone to check mine. Anything that I dont voluntarily share is private as afr as I'm concerned. I think I cherish my privacy far more now than I did at the start of the relationship. Maybe, when you've been together a long time, there is so much of your life that isn't private that you feel more protective over the things that are. I feel a strong need for my own space and privacy.

I guess it all comes down to TRUST If you partner is cheating on you in the name of privacy then of course that privacy is not legitimate. When there is trust in a relationship each partner can allow the other . some privacy for their own "me" time but as long as they also spend some quality time with you.

Invasion of privacy is always been a problem in a relationship. I remember before when I was still with my ex-boyfriend, I always joke around him to give me his cellphone. At first I was just teasing him but later I was fed up because he always refused and tell me where's my privacy? Dont you trust me? I reason out that if you were not hiding something from me, why wont you let me see yor phone? After the quarrel he would let me see his phone when I asked. When I browsed his videos I was surprised to see that the contents were videos of me. He took video of those times that I was mad at him, when I was singing at work or just any silly things that I did. Sometimes I would also open his bag for curiousity but he wont get mad because his kinda used of it. For me looking through cellphone and other stuff is no big deal but not to the point that other person will have to go through my things everyday as if accusing me for a crime I didnt commit.

We don't have many things seperate. I don't go through his phone and he doesn't go through mine. I don't get in his wallet, etc. But he will come in the bathroom when I'm in there or in the shower. As we have 4 kids, getting to go to the bathroom alone really just doesn't happen for me anymore! LOL I think if you are wanting to spend your life with someone, then you have to trust them enough to let them in to all aspects of your life.

I guess you need not to hide something in a relationship. You must be transparent. On the other hand, I'd prefer some space. Seeing and having quality time with my partner for,maybe, three times a week. So that there will always be the "I-MISS-YOU"' factor. A little time apart won't hurt as long as you remain honest and faithful.

My husband wants to know everything that happens, so he allows me very little privacy. We've been married 33 years now, and I've pretty much gotten used to him questioning me. He doesn't mean anything by it. It's just in his personality to need to know.

I'm a really private person and I need lots of space. I don't lie or hide things from a boyfriend but at the same time I do not want them looking thru my e-mail, reading what I write or checking my e-mail. I find things like that insulting as if they don't trust me. I was married for 10 years to a man that I never once went into his wallet or or anything even when I had reason to believe that he was lying to me.

Hello! It seems that your topic in this discussion is very interesting. Privacy is also important for a couple. For me i'm married for 14 years now and still we are in harmonious relationship because we respect each other. For me this is privacy, RESPECT! Yes i will not read his cellphone and even e-mails. Likewise he did it to me too. You know when i was still single, i am a loner person, i want to go shopping alone, watch movies and even traveling, i really love to be alone. But when i get married, things really changed because i have already my husband and the kids. But i really missed those days in my life. But what i do now is that sometime, after office hours, i will go to the mall alone just to have window shopping. Thanks to my husband because in our house we really respect each other, he will not look to my wallet, my bag and even when i used the computer, he will not even mind me. So, in our relationship we are in good understanding because we respect and trust each other.

Hi jessp: for me privacy in a relationship means that your partner must respect your personal notes and all the things that are supposed to be only yours so he or she should not read what i don't want that he or she reads without my permitions. For the rest of the things, I think that depends on what the couple defines of privacy. I know that some persons can share very private things with their couples and that's ok, but as i said that depends on everyone's feelings. Thanks for asking us this question. Hope you are having a nice day. merry Christmas/ Happy Holidays. Take care. -Alvaro.

I love complete transparency in my relationships.I neither hide anything from my partner nor do expect her to hide anything from me.It kind of builds trust and affection between the two according to me.Also the closer the two people in a relationship are and the more they share themselves with each other,the stronger the relationship is.When you become extremely comfortable with each other,you cannot live without the other person.The upside obviously is development of a strong bond.But the downside is that you end up becoming too dependent on your partner and have a tough time in her absence..:)

My privacy is thinking about the deepest question and I can not share with others because others IQ is too low ,I am alone,I always get confuse about my high intelligence.