A date with a celebrity, would you allow your partner?
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
Philippines
December 22, 2009 12:23pm CST
I am just wondering... what if your partner won a date with a celebrity, would you allow him or her? Will you give your blessings and wish him or her to enjoy and have fun?
Definitely, if the said date is not with the celebrity, there will be no question asks... The answer is a straight NO! Then what makes that date different? Is it because, you are secured??? You are 100% sure and safe that the celebrity will not take your partner seriously? No next level or anything???
Well somehow, those dates are just for shows... But what if your partner is too attractive and/ or very interesting would that be a different story?
Personally, I am a very jealous person, I would definitely not allow my husband to have a date with anyone even if its with a celebrity... NO! Even for shows... Whatever it is, whoever it maybe, that wont change still, IT IS A DATE!
So what is your stand and view about this? 
So what is your stand and view about this? 8 responses
@angelsmummy (1696)
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22 Dec 09
I wouldnt either. Like you I am a jealous person and just because they are a celebrity doesnt mean they are any different form me and you, other than the huge paycheck! There is no way I will allow him.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Absolutely right angelsmummy! They are also human beings like us... it is like allowing your partner as well to exposure herself or himself to temptation... Then what, tell her to go and have some fun??? 
@angelsmummy (1696)
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22 Dec 09
I trust him but I wouldnt want him to go on a date with anyone else! I wouldnt go on a date with anyone so why should he?!
@Wizzywig (7847)
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22 Dec 09
I can never quite understand questions that ask if we would ALLOW our partners to do whatever. I do not own any other person which makes them free to do whatever they like with their life that does not break any laws. I wouldn't even expect to be asked my opinion, far less for my permission??? Similarly, I would not expect to have to ask for permission to do what I wanted to do.
@Wizzywig (7847)
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22 Dec 09
There is a huge difference between considering someone elses feelings and asking for their permission to behave in a certain way. Being married does not stop me from being an individual, nor should it stop anyone from having the choice to run their own life. (Its different if there are young children involved who may be adversly affected of course). I think its very important for both parties in a relationship to have separate interests. I'd hate the thought of just being absorbed into a single being. We are two people in a long-term relationship, not a single entity.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Hi Wizzywig! It is always fair to ask permission to our partners... especially if you are married already. You don't run things alone anymore. Both needs to consider each other's feelings... It is not "I do my things and you do your things".
Thanks for sharing you views.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Does asking permission means controlling to you? When we were kids we use to ask permissions to our parents, it is more on showing respect and being sensitive to ones feelings. Well if that is your perception, I respect it.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
26 Dec 09
I have also same problem I can not allow my girl friend to go ona date with a celebrity because I feel inferiority and I think this is a natural thing and as i know celebrity are expert to motivate some one and that date may cause for fight in between us in future or may be their strong relation will create from that dating
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Yes exactly... Is it a wrong thinking? My only concern is, why go on a date with somebody else? Aren't we enough for our partners? What is the difference of that date to other dates??? Whereever you look at it... it is still a date... and celebrities are ordinary human beings like us....
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Have you read any magazines or watched the news lately? So many celebs cheating on each other, and making moves on people because of their celebrity status, thinking they can do whatever they want. I'm going to go with no frikin way. I know if the shoe was on the other foot, my girl would tell me no way.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Well celebrity or not, everybody is capable of cheating... and definitely I would not let my partner be expose to any temptations... It is good that you are thinking about your girlfriends's feeling redhotpogo. Thank you for sharing!
@clarkbody (141)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I don't think it would be my place to tell my friend that I forbid them to date anyone, celeb or not. However, if I felt that this person was not right for my friend, I would share my concerns and allow them to make the final decision. As far as giving my blessing, I would do so because I love my friend and I wouldn't want something as trivial as a date put a strain on our friendship.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Well if they are just your friend, then it is okay if they date celebrity or not. But if he is your partner --boyfriend or husband than that is absolutely a different case I believe.
Thanks clarkbody!
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
i think it depends on a lot of different factors. i have to know what type of date it would be like if there would be cameras because most likely they wouldn't be able to hide anything from me if that's the case. i would also have to assess first how much my partner like/ admire that celebrity. if my partner is the type that would leave me if he gets with that celeb, then I'd definitely not allow it. if my partner has made me feel secured that i am the only on for him and that it's no more than just a date, then i shouldnt worry. a huge part of it really depends on the level of commitment you have with each other and how much your partner has made you secured.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Hi calai618! Well the feeling of security matters most... If you are secured enough that your partner will not be emotionaly involved to that date, I mean he or she will not take that seriously then I guess it is okay... But it all depends on how you will both handle the case emotionally and mentally...
Thank you for responding calai618!
@codris (781)
• Italy
22 Dec 09
NEVER! he can be the richest and most famous man on the planet but if he try to get closer to my girlfriend i'll take his face and consume it on the asphalt. and if he try a secon time i'll kill him. i don't make problems, i just do what i need to do. I'm gelous, and if a man, every kind of man, try to do something to my girlfriens that will be his worst and last day on this earth.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Wow! You sounded very angry! 
You are definitely a very very jealous man and emotional too! Well like I said, it doesn't change anything, whether he or she is a celebrity or a plain citizen... that is still a date!
I absolutely, empathically understand your feelings codris! 
You are definitely a very very jealous man and emotional too! Well like I said, it doesn't change anything, whether he or she is a celebrity or a plain citizen... that is still a date!
I absolutely, empathically understand your feelings codris! @AmberRain (59)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I would let my partner go. It is a one in a million chance. It is one date. On top of their being cameras every where, it tells your partner you are not secure in the relationship. How is your partner going out on one little date with a person that would not give them the time of day otherwise any different then letting them go out with their friends? They are more likely to get into trouble with their friends. Their friends are more likely to cover for them. So do you let your partner go out with friends and have a good time? Do you go out with your friends an have a good time?? We all need time away from each other and out with friends. I personally haven't been out with friends in over a year. And I know it sucks.
