STILL potty training
@camomom (7535)
United States
December 22, 2009 5:50pm CST
Our 3 year old is STILL potty training. We've been doing this since she was 1 1/2. I am just at my wits end about it. I have tried all the suggestions that everyone has given me and she just doesn't want to use the potty all the time. Some days she'll go on the potty 2-3 times a day and other times she won't go on the potty at all for 2-3 days. She was doing pretty good until her younger sister was born. It's to be expected for a child to regress when a new baby shows up but this is nuts. Her sister is almost 19 months old now. Our biggest problem now is that she's enrolled in preschool and is supposed to start in February. If she isn't potty trained they won't let her in. We are all looking forward to her going. How can we get her to use the potty all the time in less then 2 months?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
I suggest you start training the little one and she might follow if not talk to the doctor about it.
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@camomom (7535)
• United States
5 Jan 10
She has a doctor's appointment this week, I'll have to remember to ask him. The youngest one actually wanted to sit on the training potty this weekend. she kept saying potty and pointing at the bathroom. I let her sit on it with her diaper on and she went in her diaper. She wouldn't stay sitting long enough to trust taking it off of her. That is probably the best idea I've heard yet. Thanks Hon.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Dec 09
Two months, huh? I think you need to make a list of all the things she has to look forward to if she goes to preschool. Talk to her about it. But, you have to go potty like the other preschoolers! Do you take her with you with you go? Is she preaised and giving added playtime or such when she goes? Short of disowning her I would say she will come around when she is ready. Here's some links I found that might have something you hadn't tried or thought of in them:
http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/potty-training/tips/potty-training-tips/
AND
http://www.pull-ups.com/na/big_kid_central.aspx?WT.mc_id=PUG12
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jan 10
I have heard down through the years that sometimes you have to wait on them. One day it just happens. Patience is something we all need to work on at times.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Maybe if you give her a good reason to then she'll do it? It's only a guess for every child is different but to give you an example, I went to Florida to get my God daughter for the summer and her middle brother wanted to go too so I let their mom know it was alright then later the youngest wanted to go too but he wasn't completely potty trained yet so she wouldn't let him go but promised him that if he went to the potty like a good boy then he could go next summer. From then on, he went potty on the pot all because he wanted to spend the summer with hubby and I. The following summer, he was completely potty trained and came to spend the summer with us and now all of them want to come every summer. lol We love kids and so we get them or their mom brings them up almost every summer. I'm sure you see my point but I don't think you want to use that example but say your little one wants something in particular. You could tell her you'll buy this for her when she completes her potty training on the potty. Maybe then she'll do it.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
5 Jan 10
I'll have to find something good that will work because none of the other reward idea's that we've used have worked. Thanks!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I didn't get into the bribing that some parents do with my kids. My son was a little over 3 when he was finally trained. He knew what to do, but he was being stubborn. I took the this is what you are supposed to do, so you just need to do it approach with my daughter. She was fully trained at 2 1/2 years. She is almost 3 now and has been trained for a good 6 months now. I guess it really depends on the child. Since it seems to be regression, Maybe explain to her that she cannot go to school unless she uses the potty all the time. Make going to preschool seem like a really big deal and a really cool and fun thing to do. She might just take the bait.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
5 Jan 10
We've been trying that approach too. She really wants to go to school because her big brother is in school but she just doesn't want to use the potty. She was doing SO good until her sister was born. We've even tried the "let her wear real panties and wet herself", that doesn't work either.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Dec 09
Don't put her in a diaper or a pull up at all, just underwear. She won't like it very much if she wets or poops herself.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Hi camomom. I also have a 3 year old and I think I could say that we've been successful in training him. It has been 3 or 4 months now since I last bought a pack of diapers. We used to bring him for a few hours to a babysitter. There were other kids there too. Much older than he is. I guess he picked it up there, that there is a time and place for potty.
Is there any other older kid that your 3-year old can emulate? I think if they have someone older kid to follow around, and tell them, it'll help to teach them.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
5 Jan 10
My step son is 8 but he doesn't live with us full-time. He's only here every other week. He also wouldn't be comfortable with helping. He has privacy issues. If he were a girl, he probably wouldn't have a problem helping her out but because he's a he, he won't.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Bribes worked best for me. With my oldest it was stickers. She was eager to do it so it wasn't really hard. With our middle one she was stubborn. There was no point in trying till she was ready. I didn't want to force her, so I asked her and she always said no. I was babysitting another boy and as soon as I stopped she was ready and started going, but it still took bribing her to get her to do it. With her we used tootsie rolls. I kept a bowl of them on a shelf and she got one every time she went. She was a little over 3. My son is almost 2-1/2. He is doing pretty good, he likes to be praised a lot and of course he has to have a piece of candy. Hey whatever works lol.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
5 Jan 10
We've been doing the sticker thing too. Sometimes it works others it doesn't. Maybe I just have to try a different treat. Thanks.