2 days to go and no presents. getting a little worried.
By wonttakelong
@wonttakelong (3555)
United States
December 22, 2009 6:06pm CST
Every year for Christmas my husband always goes overboard when shopping for me. He gets mad when I buy him presents because he doesnt want me to spend my money on him but he ALWAYS buys me stuff. Here it is 2 days till Christmas and there are no presents for me from him under my tree. What gives? Is he not getting me anything this year? Is he waiting till the last minute to put them under the tree? What if he doesnt get me anything? I got him something!(for the first time in a long time)
Should I be worried? Am I just getting myself worked up over nothing?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I honestly don't know what to say wonttakelong.
Here's wishing that maybe at the last minute just about your hubby will surprise you and you'll find presents under that tree of yours. He didn't get any kind of pay cut or anything did he? Money seems to be real tight for many of us and things just aren't the way they used to be with all the economy crap going on
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@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
23 Dec 09
money was tight before I went back to work
now that I have an income helping him with the bills we are doing ok financially
which is only to say that we dont have to rob Peter just to pay Paul every month
we arent rich but we have a little breathing room
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@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
23 Dec 09
hmm... so have you already bought his presents? are they under the christmas tree?
i guess he must be keeping you in suspense. happy guessing!
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@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
23 Dec 09
yes I have bought wrapped and placed his under the tree already
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I'm betting he's gonna surprise ya, girl. Maybe something you've had your heart set on and you think he doesn't know about. Know what I'm sayin'? I pray he comes through for ya. Specially after reading the other responses. It upsets me seeing couples drift apart. Specially since it happened to us as well but finally sought marriage counseling. I'll never forget how I felt....
He better come through or I'm gonna be kicking some serious butt!
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
23 Dec 09
My hubby was like that as well, wont. He left us but after a few months apart and within days of the final proceedings, he begged me to take him back. He was ready to do whatever it took to be together again. It wouldn't hurt for you to go at it alone and see what transpires. If he has friends/family who know or see whats happening, would be a good idea if they could lightly suggest marriage counseling as well. Kinda just in general convo mention it to him. If he really loved you...really cared..he would do this for you both. The idea just has to take time to settle in...
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@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
23 Dec 09
he walked away from his family years ago because they tried to get too involved in his life
he is a very stubborn man
I stopped holding out for miracles a couple of years ago
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@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I have suggested counseling before and he absolutely wont hear of it
he refuses to EVER go to a therapist
things werent great between us before I went to work because of the financial stress he was under
but now with me back at work its like we dont have any time together at all and when we do see each other we dont seem to have anything to talk about anymore
I dont know maybe I am just being an overly sensitive woman but I feel like this road is heading down the wrong way.
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@AngryKittyMSV (4317)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I don't know, but I see this as the perfect opportunity to share my sob story. A few weeks ago hubs said he'd give me money to buy the children gifts. He still has NOT! Last week he said we'd have to postpone Christmas (WTF???) when our daughter already KNOWS when Christmas is and her birthday is a week later. All I've been able to do is go to the dollar store to get a few (and I mean FEW) little things so that she's not waking up to NOTHING on Christmas day. Everytime I see toys on sale I want to cry because I can't GET any for my kids! Shoot, I'm crying now. I mean times are tight but JESUS you'd think he could have spared SOMETHING for the little kids here?
There was one thing in particular she REALLY wanted, and one of my net online friends even found it for under $212 but when I checked my bank account, I didn't have twelve bucks, I only had $1.88 . I am finding myself seriously depressed and I pray that she won;t be too sad on Christmas morning and that she'll like her little dollar store toys. I got some matchbox cars for our son, he's two so I can get away with that and he loves his cars.
I even have a $10 gift card for toysRus that could have been used towards something if he'd just helped me out a LITTLE, the thing expires at the end of December.
Usually when we sty home for Xmas I make all kinds of snacky food to nibble on all day, but not this year, the food is all too damned expensive.
Sigh. Sorry to ruin this thread, needed to vent.
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@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
23 Dec 09
oh honey I am so sorry that you are having such a rough Christmas time
and believe me, YOUR presence NEVER ruins any of my discussions
If only I could reach through this screen and hug the snot outta you
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@AngryKittyMSV (4317)
• United States
23 Dec 09
There's a whole lotta snot now, still wanna hug it outta me?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Aww--Kitty I'm so sorry about this..don't know what to say, but want to give you a big virtual hugs.
And crap don't tell me how expensive food is now. I went out grocery shopping today and got SOME things..didn't even get everything today and nearly fell over when the total was done..and remember I'm buying groceries just for me, and I'm not talking about anything fancy smancy type food just basics. I'm on benefits as you know and my money just doesn't stretch for the whole month
Here's hoping your hubby comes through somehow
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@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
23 Dec 09
Hi
I don't think you should get worried.Afterall,Christmas is all about sharing.
Like you said that every year he has spending money on you and does not want you to spend money on him.
I think you will get over it.May be he is planning a surprise,But I were you I wouldn't be bothered much and go with the flow.
Afterall,there are lots of things to be done for Chrstmas
Merry Christmas!!!!
@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
23 Dec 09
this year has been rough on our marriage
we have drifted further apart this year and he has not been acting like he has over the past 10 years of our marriage
I am really worried that the lack of presents is symbolic of something else
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