Do you hide anything from your family...?
By maezee
@maezee (41988)
United States
December 22, 2009 9:55pm CST
...in fears that it will make you a "bad role model" for your younger siblings or relatives? Or even friends?
There's only one (or two) secrets that I don't bother allowing my 7 year old sister (who looks up to me) to know. Firstly is that I'm a pack-a-day smoker unfortunately. She's so impressionable and I feel bad. One of the reasons I want to quit is so that I can feel like I'm being a better role model for my sister (although she doesn't know that I smoke, of course). She also doesn't know that I drink, occasionally, either. Her mother is an alcoholic, and that's why it's especially important for me to show her that I'm not like that (and I'm really not, I drink occasionally - probably twice a month - with friends. But I still feel bad).
What are some things that you keep from your impressionable kids/siblings/family members, so that they feel like you're a good role model for them?
2 responses
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
Yes I also have withold secrets from my mom who could hardly notice it when I was having problem with my family because I don't want to add burdens to her because of my problem. I just want to solve it on my own.
@mariah_5 (97)
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23 Dec 09
I don't like to hide anything from my family, even if I wanted to,I cannot.I don't have any small children in my family so, it becomes easy for me to share black shades of mine with them.I always feel guilty and avoid direct contact with them if I have let them by doing a wrong thing,it may not be a big mistake, but it feels bad and makes me uncomfortable and I cannot be normal until I spit it out,no matter what the consequences.My family supports me unconditionally and has immense faith in me , that's another matter.But if it's a bad news or an incident which upsets them and is nothing to do with my doing, then I would always keep it as a secret because it would make them sad.But if you are having siblings or children, who are much younger to you,it's always better to hide your bad habits or bad deeds.But we should also be aware of the fact that, if it's bad for them then it's certainly not good for us.I know, it's easier said than done, but please give it a try, It's time to make resolutions, as the New Year is round the corner. I am trying hard too.so, all the best!
