Family vs True Love

Granted that you are in a right age where you have a stable work, you are sure enough that your partner to choose will be for lifetime and are capable of making good decision for your own. I suggest that the best thing to do is "to follow what you really wanted in life" that is the best key to achieve happiness. Though your parents may go against your decisions, I guess that is the time they will realize that they have to respect also your decisions. As a way it is a give and take relationship. They have to accept that sooner, you will also have your own family and capable to build the kind of dreams you want in no demand order for them. If you can manage to give your parents such realization via open communications about the kind of man you want. then at least they will be aware of your views. You can choose your love without risking your family. It is a matter of setting their prides for the sake of your happiness. If they trust you in every step you make, then you do not have to worry much. all you have to do right now, is to make the most of time to fulfill you parents dream for you, in education but not in love. In time,it will be your turn for them to help you fulfill your dreams by respecting, accepting your wants and giving you all the support they can give. That is their role being parent. Take your time slowly. Focus on what you can be at the present toward future. This will lead you to many changes in life. Love choose no race.it is your own decision. no one knows the best of your happiness but you.

According to your opinion I don't think I belong to the type of guy you want. I don't know how old you were when you moved to America. If you were so young then, I can partly understand your choice coz you didn't get the chance to know a real good Chinese man. They are responsible, thoughtful, loyal and will treat your parents well. To the contrary, Americans are independent, actually too independent in my opinion. They don't treat parents as well as chinese do and even if you get married, they still care themselves more than the family, or you. If they feel not happy, they will leave you coz it is their happiness that matters most, while in China, men do sacrifices to make this relationship work. However, I am not influencing you at all. You have your right to choose "the one".

It is indeed a very difficult question for cannot simply choose between my family and my one true love. I love my family, my father because he was the one who took care of me when I was young. He sacrificed a lot just to give me a bright future and without him, my existence here in the world would have been impossible. Without him, I might not have the chance to meet the love of my life. And, I cannot just take all those things for granted. But yes, I am truly in love with my boyfriend now and fortunately, he is well accepted by my family. He is a responsible person. He is sweet. He cooks food for me and he takes care of me every time I am sick. And again, with all those things, there's really no reason for me to choose between the two of them. But, since you're question stated that IF my family doesn't like my true love, then maybe I would choose the love of my life since I am already of legal age. And, I believe that we can only meet one true love once in our lifetime. I don't want to miss the chance of letting him go and regret everything. I love my family and I know that if in case it will happen, my father will forgive me at the right time and he will understand the reason why I chose to be with him.

I've been there, hisxshorty. Believe me, all the resentment, anger, and hatred will arise. But you know what? No matter how hard it will be, choose your family. Well, of course, it all depends on 1)how old you are 2)the family background of your true love 3)how old he is 4)is he working... Those are just a few to consider. But whatever it is, just be careful, and weigh things very well. Don't rush into something you might regret in the end. Take care..