Why are some people so vindictive?

Hi dear! Let the vindictive people be vindictive. It is not possible to change them. They are brought up in such a fashion that they are taught that being vindictive is good for them. However, in practical realities of their lives they forget that love, affection, kindness and forgiveness is more important than being vindictive. I just fail to understand the mentality of those people who are such. I myself cannot be vindictive, even if such negative thoughts travel in my mind sometimes. If I think rationally, I would like to forgive those who are vindictive to me and would pray "let the Great God may give them some common sense, so that they could improve." I also wish you a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! I am awaiting for some gifts, chocolates and cake from your end..........lol! Have a great day! Deepak

Hi Mimpi, Merry Christmas to you dear. Thank you very much for your nice and lovely wishes. But the gifts are yet to reach. Forget about those people dear, let us have fun and enjoy.

I do not detest them but always pity them.How can someone waste the precious life by being vindictive and turn a blind eye to the wonderful things that lie abundant in this beautiful world.How can one choose to be the stupidest?Poor things. And I am waiting for your wish of Chocolate to come true Mimpi. [b]May beautiful moments and happy memories surround you with joy and (chocolates) this Christmas. Wishing you good times, good cheer, and a very Happy New Year![/b]

Hi mimpi1911. It is because of low self esteem. These type of people make others feel bad because they are not happy with their lives. They don't know how to be nice They feel if they have it their way then it is all good. But it is not. I don't like to socialize with people that are vindictive. If I see a person acting this way, I will distance myself from this person, pronto. The last thing that I want in my life and around me is vindictive/negative people.

Hmm, are you trying to get my attention with that post mimpi? Maybe you're trying to make me actively participate this holiday season.? With the offering of "Lots of gifts, choc'lates, cakes and lots of love." I cant say the same about the vindictiveness present in other people out there. I really dont know what to do about them. I just try to get out of their way if I can and if we ever do cross paths I would stand up for my rights. Hope these people stop being Scrooge at least for the holidays. Merry Christmas.

Hi mimpi.. even I have seen some people like that.. who always try to say some thing or the other thing on every matter and make others hurt and unhappy.. these peoples sometimes even discourage others.. what I feel is we should beware of this people and be as away as possible from them to keep our self happy and enjoy our life... Happy New Year Dear..

Most people that are vindictive are unhappy. They don't see life in the happy sense that you do. They are miserable, and they take it out on everyone around them. It's sad, because the way they behave pushes people away from them, and they desperately need other people in their lives. It's like just when they need people most, no one wants to be around them which makes the whole situation worse.

I have often asked myself that question. My ex is being very vindictive. I think because I made him leave our marriage. He wanted to stay, for financial reasons, not because he loved me. He cant get his mind around that and I guess its the same for other peiople who are seeking revenge and being vindictive. I think sometimes people just cant see both sides, and they feel life or someone else has treated them badly. Basicly I think that it is a personality disorder.

I know what you are talking about *wink* *wink* and I agree. I did buy chocolate today, not for others but for myself! I bought two kinds of chocolate cake and chocolate candy too. Yayyy, me~! As for those vindictive people although they may be in our prayers, perhaps Santa Claus will not bring them ANY chocolate.

Vindictiveness is a sign of insecurity and jealousy. If your have achieved something that this other individual would like to achieve but has been unable to, he or she will do whatever is in his or her power to bring you down and sadly, sometimes they are successful...It is a shame but these types of folks are everywhere, some are even here! The best thing to do is take the higher road and send them a prayer that they will one day take a good look at themselves and decide it’s time to change. Merry Christmas to you too, chocolate...Yum!!

You are right nice! Yes,let us forget all the hatred,all the pain and make our life becomes happy and full of sunshine, our devotion out of love,friendship and treat us in contact with people.Merry christmas!

some people are really like this , may be they are unable to forget what happen with them in past so that's why they are like this , i will take example of me and my sister , she is very vindictive as she never forget anything happen in her life and this result in many fights with many people whereas i never remember anything happened with my life so i never fight with any one and mostly i am friendly with every one so it depends upon everyones nature , there is no ones control on this behavior of the person.

people are born different

Some people are just plain miserable so they also want to make other people's lives miserable. That way they wouldn't have to feel so sorry about their own lives. lol. Have a meaningful Christmas, mimpi. ^^ ~sb

The reasons for thier vindictiveness could be a sense of insecurity or in some cases because they have vindicted by someone. Either way i would say it's not the way to be. They don't get too far by trying to bring down people around them. It only causes thier downfall. You are right Mimpi, they should learn to enjoy life more and get the best out of sharing, encouraging and looking at things with optimism. It's the holiday and christmas season and it's the best time to spread the cheer. May they see the brighter side of things and learn to enjoy life more. Merry Christams and a very Happy New year to you too. The plum cakes for me please...

Mimpi it will never change there will always be People like that about no matter what but they have to live with themselves, they will never find Happiness because they have decided to be bitter all their Life Happy New Year to you to hugs

hi mimpi my dad used to say of a vindictive person he is soured on the milk of human kindness. I have known people like that that are soured on everything that they want to make you act like them. Life is really just about what you can make it, I know we all have some problems we cannot solve right now so smile, be happy any wary and you will start to feel happier. Merry Christmas to you and yours and a very Happy New Year too.

These people make themselves and others soooo miserable, and unnecessarily. I've always felt that somewhere deep inside, they do not like themselves, and hence they just allow themselves to be mean spirited and take that self-loathing out on others. Wish you many Christmas blessings, too, Mim :) Karen

So many people nowadays focus on the past or future that they don't see the 'present' in front of them. Thinking about hate or anything negative only leads to more negativity and depression. I agree, life is meant to be enjoyed, loved, and fulfilled to the fullest. People need to start thinking about doing good things for people or the good things they've done for you. All the best.