what important lesson have you learned from a family member ?

Saudi Arabia
December 24, 2009 7:03am CST
A very important lesson still kept in my mind is the one that i learned from my father.i was once so stressful for a long period of time due to the heavy class load.also lot of exams as well.every morning i got up.i was unhappy with an upsetting face ,looking at everything around me in an unfriendly way.until one morning ,my father asked me....smile!if you smile at everything ,everything will smile at you and goes your way.... then i remember my father and it's like it gives me an injection of energy..so i would say one of the important lesson l learned from my father.....hi...friends i want to share in with your answers!?...
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8 responses
• China
25 Dec 09
Be kindhearted.There style of communicating with others infulence me when i was young.
• Saudi Arabia
25 Dec 09
yeah....you are right ....in the life our gets more useful lessons from oyher people that not our family members.....good luck....
@artistry (4151)
• United States
25 Dec 09
...Hi OYGAK2005, This was not a great profound lesson of wisdom, but it did help me to make a wise decision. Although I am the oldest daughter in my family, my sister who is a little younger than I am moved out on her own before I did. When I finally moved out on my own, she told me not to pay a lot of money for my furniture, because I would get bored with it over time. I followed her sdvice, and she was right. In time I was ready to change things and have a new decor. So she gave me very good advice related to human nature and boredom as well as economics. Take care. Happy holidays.
• Saudi Arabia
25 Dec 09
hi,,,,artistry ...our some good lessons and nice advices get from our relatives is really our luck....and my old sister is for in the world a best sister....
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Hi, OYGAK2005. I have learned that never tell all of your business to someone. My aunt taught me this. And my father always told me to never give up. He would tell me that whatever me and my sister do, please don't smoke or drink. He says that once we start it will be hard to quit. I have honored all both of these requests. I did it because I don't want to get myself involved into this habit. I have learned so much from certain people in my family. My oldest male cousin on my mom's side once told me to just be yourself. I was just about to attend high school soon, and I did not understand what was expected of me and how I was supposed to act, so he told me to just be myself and I would be fine. And I did just what he told me. Many people did not like me because I did not fit up to their standards. But I liked me.
• Saudi Arabia
25 Dec 09
hi....cream i guess you have a good family circumstance....haha...may be that people you said don't like me,i thing actually really like you....however that your loves yourself is your a big side....good luck...
@bingchen (1119)
• China
25 Dec 09
i think that my mother teach me important lesson.my mother few care about me and be cooled with me,i know why she treat me not well,especially one thing she have done hurted me deeply and start my independence of life.although i met many difficluties and failure,but i could not request her help to me and adere to deal with it depending myself.so i make an independent character to face life's difficulties.i think that nobody can help me.the important thing i can finish it only depending myself.
• Saudi Arabia
25 Dec 09
hi....i am sorry ....and thanks your response . i believe you a staunch girl....and i hope you keep going and always full happyness pass you everyday....
@vandana7 (100302)
• India
24 Dec 09
From my father, I learnt that every conversation gives you something. Therefore, listen and reason using the content. He is right! In less than three days you can make out a lot about a person with just conversation!
• Saudi Arabia
25 Dec 09
hi....for many people the father may be their good teacher....goodluck ..and thank your response.....
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
25 Dec 09
The most important lesson that I have learned from my mother is that you should always be independent. It is hard because you do want people to be there for you; however, you have to know how to take care of yourself and cope with your own life. It is hard because I have seen that I have become very independent, but the part that no one tells you is how hard it is to be independent. There are times I just wish that there was someone to learn on for support especially when I get tired of being so independent. It is interesting the comment about smilling my dad used to say something that all the time, but it had the opposite affect it would make me not want to smile. I guess you could say it was my way of not giving my father what he wanted because he never gave me what I needed. It is interesting the self-defeating behaviors that we learn in childhood. The best memory that I have of my father is him always saying it was too early for Christmas music until the day after Thanksgiving. In addition, I can remember one time going shopping with him and he making a comment that it was too early for Christmas items to be in stores because it was before Thanksgiving day. These are things I remember every year. It is interesting the words that ring in our ears from our childhood. I think the lesson here is to take one thing at a time in life, and focus on that one thing until it is completed. I sometimes forget this lesson, but I always find myself reminded when I hear Christmas music before Thanksgiving. aireanna18 home page: http://www.xomba.com/user/aireanna
• Saudi Arabia
25 Dec 09
hi...aireanna i appreciated your response and you home page ...good luck....
@drakesuyat (1063)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
well, you have a great smile on that photo on your avatarbut kidding aside, i myself do have a looott of important lessons learned especially to my mom. but one thing i always remember is, "to gain others respect, respect them first". and its true, i am being respected anywhere i go coz i always make them feel that they are highly respected in any matters. merry christmas to you oygak2005
@lihocc (58)
• China
25 Dec 09
I learned honesty from my father.I learned my second language(korean)from my mother.