One-sided love ......

Fortunately I have never been in that terrible state eshaan. I hope I will not get hereafter I am not going to play the love game any more. How about you?

I think that is a useless thing if you stay devoted but the other has no feelings at all for you. But love should not be treated like that because this is a matter of happiness that any body must be kept... Life is nothing without love...

I can feel the pain in myself even when I have not experienced such a thing. but such tragic happened with me in friendship where my friend broke my heart and made some other girl as her best friend.

I call this the unrequited love. It definitely hurts to have unrequited love totally and especially when you love with your might, heart and soul; only to find out that the other party does not love you at all or have feelings for another person. But it's definitely not the end of the world and when I was devastated last time during situations like this, I just put on my head high and went on in life even though I felt a heavy heart.

Hi Eshaan, You are right, but sometimes things are not in your hand, you cannot love the person with practical reasons, it is if your heart likes that person, you start loving him/her without knowing if the other has the same feeling for you or not. And LOVe to me means that the person I am loving should be happy even if I am suffering or in pain. But in todays life its like give and take relationship, and whenever there are expetations and the other person does not fulfil it then it hurts. So if we don't keep expetations and have a platonic feeling then there would not be any hard feeling. But yes if some one gives any kind of commitment and then avoids you then it is one of the worst thing to happen and it takes really long to come out of such relationship. In such situations I personally suggest that be practical and think in each and every ascept and take the decisions. These decesion at first might be not comfartable at first but in long run you will be definately happy. Just my views.

with your idea i can surly say that "one side love always stay as one side only ". so if you love some one you should tell your feelings ... am i clear my friend???????????/

I am lucky to never have this happen to me. I have had what you would call crushes, btu that wasn't love or devotion. I am now in a mutual relationship where we love each other very much and are very devoted and loyal, so I am very happy in terms of my love life. Could get a little more action, if you know what I mean, but that's secondary.

One sided love...So painful! I have been there and done that and for a time I thought my love was returned only to find out that was not the case...It is easier to see in retrospect sometimes that our love affair may be one sided but as we grow wiser we learn to see the signs much earlier and not remain in a hopeless situation for too long. The unfortunate thing is that we cannot force another to care for us the same way we do...

well i am never be a part of one sided love....one sided love can be achieve its goal..both sided need to be agree on this

I believe that in love " it takes two to tango" meaning not one side only. Still, a matter of choice, if you love the person so much, even it is one sided love, you are willing to sacrifice.. You are said to be strong when you are able to tell all your likes and dislikes in a relationship to make it known and be aware off. No matter if it lead to argues. still you are able to voice out what you wanted than never. Who knows, things may change the next time around. I have some friend who experienced a one-sided love. The relationship did not last. Sad to say but after they have separated ways, then she was speaking all her pains. When the person she was referring is not anymore there to listen to her. I think, that a one side love will never give a healthy relationship. You will feel like a butterfly enclosed in a tight cap jar. Relationship is for two people not only for one. It works for two sides to unite and have a single direction. If the love is one-side then it is like a beam object, one side is on the upper direction and one side is on bottom direction. If the relationship is unhealthy for you then better think again and work things out. Because you are no different to any single person out there. Advance happy new year~!@@

It is hard to let go of this but I wonder if love is one sided, is it really love? If we are loving someone who doesn't feel so in return it's a form of emotional sado masichism in a way. I've been there but I found the strength to pull away. Your "love" will die eventually, probablly more quickly then you think and you will be left wondering, what did I see in them?

I can understand since i felt it... I just wanna say this... "I know you're the existence of my happiness, but i have to let go of you now.. co'z in the end, you'll be the reason of my sorrows, for not loving me back..."

because love has a powerful hold on some people! I am one of those sad souls. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and give him all I can. I do anything he asks. He however makes me feel like he only loves me 1/2 heartedly. He complains when i ask him to do things, and some things he wont even do. He's very selfish and it mostly because he grew up gettin everything he wanted and was spoiled and allowed to do what he wanted and when he wanted and nobody made him be responsible. But like my counselor told me, I can't say that he doesnt love me. Love is different for everyone and they all show it different ways. just because he doesnt do the things i do for him and think he should do for me, it doesnt mean he doesnt love me. i even read a book about it. some people for example do chores to show they love someone while others buy gifts. it doesnt mean as much to my bf if i buy him a gift as much as it does if i take the trash out so he doesnt have to.

nice topic my love was a one side love and i propose her after 10 years and wondered that she accepted my proposal. still we love each other a lot

Yes, I have suffered and it had given me a big complex which took a long for me to recover. One sided love is the worst thing that can happen to a person, because after all the heartbreaking you get a big "O". Find out some one who will be more responsive to your feelings. Good luck to you!

Hello, Eshaan. Merry Christmas.:-) I am in a relationship wherein it is almost considered one sided. Well, I don't play games especially when it concerns about lives, my life and the people that I care for... However, there are factors why sometimes things like this has to happen There's in immature on the side of the other person involve. Being irresponsible, etc,etc... I tried to get out of this situation so many times for the reasons you have clearly stated. But, as a mother, hearing your two year old daughter pleading you not to leave her is heartbreaking... Why not take her with me? I can't because I have given up so many opportunities in my life to earn to give way to my partner.I gave him all the support and I stepped back a little for him to have a solid ground... Unfortunately, he repaid me with pains... I donn't have much choice right now.... Enjoy life, my dear. :-)

My whole first marriage was based on one-sided love..... He did not realize he even loved me until I was gone and it was to late..... By then I was not going to hear any excuses or even sorries.... Being there for 14 yo abused mentally and physically was enough for me..... When I got a way out I left and never looked back and was never going to experience life like that again.....The last 6 yo was just finding the right time to get out with my child safely... His sister even called and tried to talk to me and I said there was nothing he could do or say to win me back..... Now I am not tooting my own horn, he is remarried but he knows it is not the same and he has lost out but I have been revived again with laughter and a better spirit...

love need to be share with someone but sometimes people sacrifices their feeling to make the people they love lives in happiness. i love someone but i don't have enough courage to tell him that i love him. it's not because afraid of his feedback to me but it's because my best friend also had same feeling to him. which one should i choose? love or friendship. i love them both. maybe he's not meant to be mine but i still sparing my love for him..

It takes two to tango. Loving someone and not be love in return is painful to bear. Why still continue to love someone when she/he dont love you back? When love only gives you pain, hurt and frustration it is not love but obsession. You can choose to be happy or remain miserable. To be happy you have to claim it and live it. For me one-sided love means admiration, only applicable by being happy with someone you admire whatever achievement she/he has.

Ouch! You know, it really hurts. And then I end up hating myself for pursuing someone who doesn't even see me. But it's really very hard to forget. I don't know why. Maybe because it's human nature to love and expect love back. Unfortunately it doesn't always happen. Yes, we just have to be strong sometimes.