If a person was raped when he/she was a virgin, is he/she still a virgin?
By ishme4nowz
@ishme4nowz (679)
United States
December 24, 2009 6:40pm CST
What do you believe? If a person was raped when they were still virgins, do you think they can still be called virgins or not? Why or why not? Do you believe that there's also a "moral" side to being a virgin or is it just "physical"? What do you guys think and why do you think so?
5 responses
@kashers (649)
• Jamaica
26 Dec 09
then if u r talking soul how does virginity fits with that,i have never ever in the gazallion years that i have been created as soul never heard of us as soul being virgins,virgin conversations are earthly conversations not heavenly,and i am not thinking about this i know it,i am in the teachings of soul travel a second initiate,of the ancient teachings,yes travelers of the spiritual worlds,
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@ishme4nowz (679)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Well, what I mean is by our soul. I put this discussion under religion for a reason. I don't believe that you have to be a saint necessarily to be considered a virgin. I just truly think that depends on God and if He sees you as a virgin spiritually regardless of if it was taken away from you by force. What He thinks is all that matters. If He says it is so, then it is so. Thank you for sharing your opinion =]
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
25 Dec 09
Well I lost my virginity to a rapist and I can say that IN MY OPINION I was NO LONGER a virgin..not in the physical sense..BUT in my heart and mind I tried to see myself as such (a virgin) still HOWEVER that was VERY hard to do truth be told
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Dec 09
no physically she is not a virgin and know mentally she is not either, she has lost her innocent, a violent and awful way but it is gone she know knows what it is like to be with someone else, that is called carnal knowledge once you have that you are not a virgin.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Dec 09
she is not at fault it was a cruel thing that happened to her, so spiritually in God's eyes you have a point too, look at the virgin mary for example.
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@cobradene (1171)
• India
28 Dec 09
It's pretty obvious that she won't be a virgin. There is no moral side to being a virgin. It's all created by religious fanatics. The woman should save her virginity to escape hell for her husband.
The man can go about sleeping with as many women he wants to because technically he has nothing to lose? I am not sure if there is a God who is chauvinistic enough to punish women who have lost their virginity.
But, if a woman loses it through rape, it's very unfortunate and sad, that she went through a traumatic experience in the first place, so, thinking about losing her virginity is not necessary or important, rather she would need a lot of counseling to move on and live her life face the society with courage.
@ishme4nowz (679)
• United States
28 Dec 09
It's really just all about what you believe about this. You can't really say what is true and what is not true for sure. I mean, technically, she isn't a virgin, but if she's religious, then I think she can still keep some of her innocence which was wrongly stolen from her. Thank you for responding =]
@vinslounge (1295)
• India
25 Dec 09
They are not virgins physically. But if the person is raped then its absolutely not her fault and it is pardonable under any circumstance. Yes, under moral circumstance she has not lost her virginity but according to the social and other circumstances, she has lost her virginity. But in my own perspective, if a girl is being raped, I wont consider it to be a loss of virginity or she is an unchaste woman. It's the circumstance that made her like that and its absolutely not her fault and i still would consider her to be a virging. Thanks for starting the discussion and have a great day. Happy Mylotting. Cheetrs:-)
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@ishme4nowz (679)
• United States
25 Dec 09
Ah, I agree with you. Though the girl may technically not be a virgin in terms of our societal definitions of what a virgin is, I still consider her to be one because it wasn't her choice to lose it in the first place. It isn't her fault. Thank you for sharing =D