It's hard to make both sides of the family happy at holidays
By Ambreya3
@Ambreya3 (100)
United States
December 24, 2009 11:01pm CST
I find it very difficult to make both my family and my live-in both friend's family happy at the holidays. We did Thanksgiving at his Gram's with his whole family so we are doing Christmas day at my parents. His sister is upset about it because we had to then split time spent with his family instead of seeing them all on the same day, we did Christmas eve with his grandparents and then will do the 27th with his parents and sisters. His gram is old and set in her ways and thinks that everyone should come to her house every holiday. Its too much traveling to do both families in one day because they live so far apart and I don't like leaving our house early because I want my son to open the gifts we got him first at home. This is our baby's 1st christmas. Also, his aunt, uncle and their kids split the holidays and his mom and gram complain about them to us, behind their bakcs, so I am sure she says stuff about us too. Any one else feel this burden or have a good way that they split the holidays?
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6 responses
@felice369 (239)
• United States
27 Dec 09
Wow, after I read your posting, I felt for you. Why should people make Christmas such as big burden for others. I meant it is great if a family can stay together to celebrate the holiday. But don't we want everybody happy, and enjoy this holiday together. I won't do that to my family members. If my sister felt happier, and convenient to spend her holiday with her friends, I won't mind, and I won't impose or dictate her "she should come home for the holiday." I won't do that. I just wish everybody Merry Christmas.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
I Think you are doing right, there must be some misunderstanding on the other side.they should understand and respect to whatever decisions u made. I spent 3 christmas with my parents in-law since we moved here for almost three years, and it's just fine to my family.as long as i call them to greet and send some presents he he:) have a prosperous new year to you and to your family as well!
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
25 Dec 09
Ambreya3,
I am wondering if switching about would help everyone except you. Sometimes, I can understand that it is very difficult to make decisions and all the more everyone happy with our decisions.
However, sometimes if the majority is happy most of the time, I feel that you have already done your best. Just don't feel bad if there are some dissatisfaction from certain niggling minority.
Just don't be too mindful.
Have a great holiday and compliments of the season.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
26 Dec 09
Oh my sorry for your dilemma but I think that you have managed to do well in terms of finding a balance .Consequently I dont think that you should be too worried .You cant get to be at all homes at once so some will be left out .As long as everyone get s a day whether it be a holiday or not is good enough in my view
@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
26 Dec 09
if they can't get well along with others so just seperate to have the holiday and no other better solution i'm afraid.here our families also can't get we together so i just do not let them together on the holdays or even on the normal days.that would be fine.
@magnus1 (18)
• United States
25 Dec 09
I do not not think that the holiday should be a boarden on any one.Since i moved to the US in 2007 i have always hosted my brotherinlaw and the wife in my home bth for the xmas and thanksgiving.This year i decided that i am not going to invite any one and to my greatest suprise she did not call to say i will love you to come over to my house.As for me i have learnt my lesson,do the much you can and live the rest to take care of itself.Holliday should be a time for rest and not a time for worries
magnus1
