Does love scare you?
By kgil28
@kgil28 (14)
Philippines
December 25, 2009 4:54am CST
I have a boyfriend for more than 2 years now. He was completely honest since we've meet that he has ADHD. It was fine with me since he is completely normal. His able to do daily tasks and manages to keep a job. He has been independent since he was 16. Just recently, his been really depressed, he lost his job and we're miles away from each other. His expressing of being suicidal, but reasons out that it's because of me and his family that keeps him sane. I'm starting to get scared of the situation. I love him so much, but his state is scaring me, he's emotionally broken and I feel helpless. If your in my case what will you do? I'm scared, helpless and confused :(
5 responses
@rane247 (78)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
I admit it is scary as hell, but if you think about it, Do you really love this person? If so, there's no reason for you to be afraid. If love reigns in your mind and heart the first thing that comes to you is to help him. Attention deficit is a mental illness that really needs a lot of attention especially his love one. He needs your support. I know you've got job and all but the thing is if you love him there are lot of ways to do and if not there are lot to complain. I'm on relationship for 4 months now but the thing between us is that when one of us is weak one will be strong and vice versa. If you ask me, what if both of us feel weak, my answer would be both of us will strive to strong for each other because we LOVE the relationship and we LOVE each other. That's all about it. This time kgil28, you need to be strong for him. He needs your support. I'll pray for both of you. Goodluck!
@kgil28 (14)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
thank you so much rane247 for the prayers... were working on it, i admit its really hard and i always feel like crying if i see him. But to be strong i'm trying not to, he's fighting for me and i'm gonna support him all the way. Your right if we just concentrate on how we love each other, it wouldn't be that hard, being scared is still there but knowing we have each other makes us strong to face this challenge in our life. Godbless.
@Chiniona (327)
• China
31 Dec 09
Hi!It's hard to give you advice! As you know, the love may be cost your all lifetime! I think it must be dicided by yourself! In my opinion, you should help he to turn the corner, and then,if you want to leave, you could go away without compunction! Best wish for you and him!
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
If you truly love him, then just make him feel secured that you will alwsys be with him (despite being away). Breaking that guy's heart in this situation is really not a good idea. i am sure you dont want to hurt him further because even if you dont love him, you will surely b guilty of what he might do to himself. Just stick with him. Getting out of a relationship is not an easy thing to do. it takes a lot of thinking. you need to assess how much you love that person.it is also very selfish to break his heart at this time so just make him feel good and back to normal first before ever make him worry about the two of you
@anyabee (363)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
the first question you should ask yourself is "do you love him?" because if you do, then i think the rest is already settled. i mean, if you love the person then the only thing you could do in situations like that is be there to support him. that's the best gift you could ever give him, and yourself.
but, if you don't love him enough then that's a different matter.
@dangtrinh0612 (31)
• Vietnam
26 Dec 09
I cannot say you should break up with him. DEFINITELY NOT!
I believe real love can suffer everything and can help lovers do the same.
So keep stay by his side and support him! Don't be scared. It's just a challenge, and if you two can overcome, your love will stay for a long long time.
Best wishes for you and your loved one
