My old girlfriend want to be a friend again?

Remember one thing, we need to understand a woman as a woman, and not as a man? You understand what I mean? Often we men try to understand women, according to our set of emotions, and according to our patterns of the mind. We can't do that. Psychology works different with women, and we have to understand their psyche. She may have deceived you, and even I got deceived too. But did you try to see why she deceived you? Did you try to look for the reasons? The valid reasons. One more thing, women are always sensitive, and irrational. They can never reason in love like us men. They just follow their instincts and they are very impulsive and vulnerable. So she may have done some mistake and afraid to accept it right away. Women never accept their mistakes especially when they are dishonest or betray someone. They always try to hide their faults and project it on their partners because, they have a strong guilt feeling at that moment, saying that they have done something wrong and their partners will trash them and look down on them. I am sure you would have gone through a couple of these. But what I want to say here is, she wants to reconcile with her guilt and she is indirectly asking to be forgiven. I would say accept her back as a friend for a while, and don't give in too much and just see how her feelings go. I think she wants to get back to you and her first step was to be a friend. There is nothing wrong in being friends, and you have to be the understanding and mature person. Just accept her back. What would you have done, had you been in her situation, and had you betrayed someone? Look at that part also. And also try to look, what was your mistake that made her deceive you. :-) It's never one sided, there are always two sides to every story. I have seen my side of the story, and even if my mistakes may not seem so important to me, it does sound very important to my girlfriend and it has affected her in some way, otherwise I wouldn't have faced the trouble either. All of us are responsible, none of are totally innocent. We all make mistakes. So just accept her back, and be friends again. There is nothing wrong in being compassionate and friendly. Don't commit yourself for a few months and just see how you feel again.

Hello! I would say what has passed that has passed. If you split up then, then it obviously had a reason...and if it happen then it can happen again!!! I live with such a quote however, sometimes it can be very hard...your heart might say something really different from your head!!! I will suggest you like I have suggested to one person in mylot, try to think about it like a third person!!! Like a third person from aside not involving any feelings!!! Good luck!!!

Well it's normal to still have feelings for her specially if you're not in a relationship currently. But, it depends on how you broke up with her and if you are willing to take the risk of getting cheated/deceived again. who knows. but no risk no gain.

hey friend i will ask you one question can you answer it. would you like consolation prize if you were supposed to be the 1st prize winner of the game. you won't because you think that you were winner and you really deserve 1st prize. she wants to give you a consolation prize in the game of love. she hate if you go with any other girl or even talk with others. you keep going with your new girlfriend. and if possible do all the kisses scene before her. give a hot hug to your new girlfriend before her. then she will realize what mistake had she committed. she can't forgive herself. and you will enjoy in teasing her. never go back to her for friendship. i hope you might have understood my thinking. happy mylotting

hai shivamkapila, its easy if you guys just wanna be friends, but personally, if she wanna hook up with you again, man you gonna need some reconsideration on that one.. cause if I were you, past experience gonna hunt me and its keep poping over and over again in my head...so why don't you be friends 1st and see if things change this time around..

Then accept her but you have to talk to her heartily that what she did will not happen again. Try to observe her whether she is sincere in her comeback or you are just her cover-up for the pain she experienced. Don't let her abuse you. Let her respect and love you.

there is no problem on this issue because friend is friend and time is not matter so if u know ur friend is real friend then go for again and continue the friendship

You both can love again more intensely than before.A separation like this has proved what is in both of your minds.You wanted her and she wanted you.That can be real love.But what was the cause of your previous separation?Will it not come into focus again this time?Take care!

Do you have someone else? If you are with another girl, forget about your old girlfriend, and move on. If you are single, and you really want to get back with this old girlfriend, then I would say be careful. Sometimes old girls who do bad things, end up ruining their lives, and then after all things they do catch up with them, then they run back to someone from their past they think will still care about them. I think I would date only a few times a month, and see what she's really like. Has she improved? Is she worse? Has she really learned anything from her mistakes, or is she just using you to get away from all her garbage?

well...It depends on you.you can take her as a common friend of you at first,try to see if she is still right for you..It depends on your feelings.love makes the world go round.

I see no problem if your ex-girlfriend wanted to be friends with you. But to take her in again in your life is another story. Just take it slow, you will know is she's sincere enough to be your friend again. Saying goes, love is sweeter the second time around. Contradictory to that is shame on you if you were fooled by the same person twice. Lastly, it will still depends on you whether to take her back or not. Anyways, goodluck.

if you're both single and in love with each other then why not??? everyone deserves a second chance and deserves to be happy,.but you must see to it, that her feelings for you is real,and yours as well.she once fooled you then never allow it again.if you think you'd be happy to be with each other again? then goodluck!

Why not? If both of you still love each other, why not give each other the chance? Maybe it's a sign that you two are meant to be. They say, "love is sweeter the second time around". Good luck!

There is nothing wrong with being friends with her. It also depends on how she deceived you. I am guessing that your relationship ended because of that? If you know that you can have a friendly relationship without any type of drama then go ahead. She still wants to be a part of your life and you want to be a part of her's. There is nothing holding you two back; forgive her for her past mistakes and enjoy your lives. You only live once, make it worthwhile.

Well, there is nothing wrong if your past girlfriend wanted to be a friend with you again. There is nothing bad giving her additional chance in a different level of relationship. Who knows, she just wanted to clear her conscience and at the same time wanted to relate to you how sorry she was for what had happened. Giving chances is another way to cope things up in reality. Also for you to know yourself more on how you can tackle a switching level of relationship. Everybody do deserves a second chance. Give her the benefit of doubt. Besides, no person is perfect for all of us commit mistakes too. Maybe you will have still the patch of attachment with her even you are friends. But, this is another part on your challenge in life. Do things according to your will so that you will not regret any. Thereby, at least this time, you will feel not deceived already because your boundaries are clearly stated in the kind of situation you have now. Maybe you will realize some things and many unanswered questions before, and now, will be answered. goodluck and ADvance Happy new YEAR~!@

well, i had a serious bf and it ended more than 1 year ago. i'm not sure if he cheated on me but he dumped me. and i still can't be friends with him. at least, not yet. it's just not that easy for me to be friends with someone i loved so much for a long time.