"If your LOVE cheat with you" What will you do?
By skalijnp
@skalijnp (147)
India
December 25, 2009 9:09am CST
Yes my dear friends I am facing this situation and it is seeming very difficult and painful for me.A girl whom I love since 4 years and she love me too. But last day she made a plan to go out with her friends that she told me over the phone. I allowed to go. But 6 hours spent she didn't make me contact anyway. I was so tensed so I make a phone call over her mobile but she didn't receive my call. I become more worried coz she is very naughty. Further I tried to contact her but she rejected my call I thought that she might be into her house and there is some one of her parents in front of her. So I sent an sms but no reply came from her. I tried to call her but this time she made her mobile switched off. After 10 minutes she call me. I asked whats happened, why did you not receive my call? She answered "I am out side still". I asked "and your friends?" She answered "they have gone to other place". I asked, "then whom are you with now?" She said," I will talk to you later, I have not enough balance to continue the call" I said,"Ok, I am calling you". On that moment she made her phone switched off again. I tried and tried but it is not switched on. Today I saw her on the street walking on. I stopped her and asked,"what's wrong with you, why are you behaving like this with me?" She didn't reply anything and go away.
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11 responses
@lahari (133)
• India
26 Dec 09
I guess,you people should sit together and talk seriously for some time. If she had been with you for four years and you people know each other properly then she can't change overnight & even if she did,there has to be an explanation for it. So,just ask her to talk to you for some time and explain what's going on & not over the cellphone(as emotions are easy to hide over the phone) talk to her face to face. & stop blaming until you find out the reason for her conduct.
@skalijnp (147)
• India
27 Dec 09
Now I can understand why she did this. She knows better that there is no future of our relation because we are different in caste and my parents are not agree with this relation though there was no objection from her parents. Bit I cant see tears in mt parent's eyes for me. I told her this. Some times I thought that I will finish myself because neither I can see tears in my parents eyes nor her.
@lahari (133)
• India
28 Dec 09
Hey,don't get so depressed. If you people truly love each other then wait and watch. You never know your parents might come around accepting your relationship later. As both of you are very young then there shouldn't be any pressure from your parents' part for your marriage,then why hurry! Just be with each other for now,and discuss these issues at the proper time. People change with time,its also possible that your parents will eventually realize your true love and accept it. But go for it only if both of you are very sure that you want to spend your life together. You can't fight the world if you don't trust each other only!
@skalijnp (147)
• India
27 Dec 09
I inquired about her on that day. Finally I came to know she had gone out with another boy whom I don't know as her friend. Now what will I think? Will you say that she is not cheating on me? I came to know about that boy that their relation is been stated just before a month. They use to go out many time behind me.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 Dec 09
hi skalijnp,
So you have been seeing this girl for 4 years? How old is she? I ask because you mentioned her parents as if they may not approve of your relationship and I'm curious as to why that would be? You also said that you were worried because she is very naughty. What does she do to make you think that of her? Has she cheated on you in the past? The fact that you stopped her to talk to her and she kept walking without responding and also the fact that she turns her phone off on you makes me wonder if she maybe really doesn't feel the same about you as you do her?? I'm sorry for all the questions. I'm just trying to better understand your situation.
@skalijnp (147)
• India
27 Dec 09
She is of 18 years old girl. Your curiosity is right. Her parent know about our relation. But they don't like her to talk over phone for a long time with anyone. I explained her naughty because her activity was like a child on the streets. I mean to say she was very restless. I don't know what was in her mind. Actually my parents are not agree with our relation as we are different in caste. I think she is doing all these to make detouch herself from me.
@chubit (122)
•
25 Dec 09
She's behaved appallingly, thats completely unacceptable behaviour. If I was in your situation with my partner he'd be broken up with instantly.
If she does want to be with you then she'd make the effort to patch you two up. Relationships run on respect and trust, and you obviously now cannot trust her and she obviously has very little respect for you. Cut and run would be the best option, there are many more decent people out there.
@skalijnp (147)
• India
27 Dec 09
You are right. I have also decided to do that. Some time I am thinking that I will return all the gifts to her as I don't want to remind her though it is impossible for me. I am thinking how can she do this with me, I didn't ever hurt her! I think there was a huge missing in my love, so it is unsuccessful today.
@Angle2010 (30)
• China
28 Dec 09
Hi Freind,
I understand that you felt uncomfortable when your lover treated you with this way. But try your best to think from her side. Everyone need some time to find her balance or others. Please give her some time, I believe she will be back to you and explain everything to you. Do not try to contact her again and again, otherwise she will feel more tired and it will not do any help to change the situation.
Love is a beautiful thing when it comes from both sides.
@kashers (649)
• Jamaica
25 Dec 09
i understand the time spent in the relationship as some effect,and knowing that she is naughty,has what u said,but first let me ask u before i go on,was she naughty when u met her,cause if u knew she was why bother to keep her close to u when u know in the long run she was going to hurt u,or u think that u could change her,no individual cannot change a person unless that person needs the change,if she is as young as u or younger,then she is not ready to settle down,she as just started to enjoy her self,so its gonna be hard to break her into being stead she as to want that steadness,
@peixiangshu (120)
• China
26 Dec 09
i can understand your feeling.
you love her so you feel be betrayed .maybe you can talk with her you need to know what dose she think and what does she think of you .
she cheated to you maybe because she still loves you and she doesn't want to hurt you so she did this.
and the other reason maybe she thinks there is nothing to explain with you because she doesn't care what you think then just go .Do not waste your time in this girl.
@sweetbali4you (359)
• India
26 Dec 09
Hi skalijnp,
i really feel sad with your feelings because from some days i also suffer with this situation its feel me cry i don't know why but difference is you are boy and i am a girl i think she wants to go your life but problem is she never reply. listen what is true only you knows that why she behave like this?please try to understand with full of love and patience may be she tell you everything please my friend one more time you try it.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
i guess you should talk to her later,maybe there's something bothered her,as for now just allow some space, maybe she needs to be alone.but why is it, you have said you saw your parents outside their house? why didn't you approach and ask where's your gf is?seems you have a problem with her parents?
@loolielooxvi (1)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
hello.
well from your story,i think she didn't cheat on you.
in a 4-year relationship, its not new that one has to find himself/herself...
try to understand her..
maybe she just needs time for herself..time to think what was happening..
dont get angry or frustrated with her.
because if you do she might end up deciding that you two must break up..
in love there are always risks...
and those risks you must take so that you will grow..
