can we be really friends??
By Savedeath
@Savedeath (255)
China
December 25, 2009 12:15pm CST
when i was in high school,i was just like a stupid,that time i do think about everything from others' sides.sometimes even they have hurt my self-esteem,i always could still forgive them and i believed if i treat them sincerely,finally they would understand i was heartfelt.but i failed when they only think i was pretending.i gave up and asked myself why i must do that.maybe they were just not worth for real friendship.so i didn't talk with them,and always be alone.
now i think i have grown up and have many friends,but the standard of making friends have changed,if they were useful for me then why don't use.i get what i want and so do they.
that's all about the benefits,can one day i find a friend who is whom i want to find in the high school??
so my friends do you have really friends who can share everything with you and relieve your suffering etc...if you do then how lucky you are.
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6 responses
@tawny_24 (341)
• United States
26 Dec 09
I understand what you are going through. You should be your best friend. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated. And do it for no other reason than you need to be treated well, you are the best person to know what you really need and what you really want. Only you can tell the world that you are who you are.
You will start meeting people who are truly in line with you, it may take some time, in fact it takes a lifetime to know who is truly your friend. So while people come and go from your experience be who you are and the ones who love you will stick around, the ones who don't will leave, or you will know when to leave them. It is better to be alone and happy, than to be in bad company.
@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
That's right! I admit I am alone most of the time because what I have are just mere "buddies" and not "genuine friends", and I don't go out a lot with them, but I am still happy because I can be comfortable with myself, and I am capable of making myself happy. I agree with you that it takes a lifetime to find real friends who share with you the same interests and convictions. I've gone through high school and some college, but I felt like I was alone, even with all those people around me. I just couldn't find people like me. I've met a lot but they ended up being just mere acquaintances.
@Savedeath (255)
• China
26 Dec 09
Hi my friends,thanks for your response.yes,i do agree with that you've said.when we are alone,then the only ones who can be our friends is ourselves.and the situation is not so bad as others think.making friends with ourselves,it would help us to know well about ourselves.no matter what others are thinking about,always one guy will believe in you and make you not alone and inspire your potential to do better if you can make a friend with her.and the guy is yourself.
@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
26 Dec 09
In the past, I was one who doesn't ask anything from my friends, believing that friends are meant to be truthful to each other and not to be taken advantage of. However, something happened lately where I realized that my friends whom I have treated as real friends, aren't really appreciating me as much as I appreciate them. Thus, I really hope that you can find one who appreciate you and you appreciate them as well.
@Savedeath (255)
• China
27 Dec 09
Hi warvial,i just have the same expericence and thanks to that i have understood don't believe anybody until you have went out for a long time and ensure that he or she was worth believing.thanks for your response and have a nice day.
@rane247 (78)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
I have a lot of friends that I can share my problems, I guess I'm so blessed that God gave me such a wonderful friends. And I know someday that you'll have too. Looking for wonderful friends is so hard, it will just be there unexpected. I agree there are times that some of my friends were just there if they need help or anything but the thing is no matter what it is as long as I can help them, I'll be there. No expectations or anything. That's unconditional LOVE for FRIENDS. Happy Mylotting. :)
@Savedeath (255)
• China
27 Dec 09
Hi rane,thanks for your response.i'm happy to know you've got so many good friends.
i believe one day i will have my own world and do what i want to do,have the ability to take care of the people i love,and make real friends just like yours.and now maybe that's the time for we to bear,then when we suffer more and experience more,finally we will understand what's the meaning of friendship and life.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Friends can help us through our suffering, but no one can truly relieve it for us, for that must come from inside us. If we expect more of friends than is humanly possible, we will always feel let down when don't measure up.
I believe friendship in its truest sense is always two-way. To have friends, be a friend, but we should keep our expectations of everyone, including ourselves, within reason.
I hope this helps.
Karen@Savedeath (255)
• China
26 Dec 09
Hi my friend,thanks for your response.yes,maybe i just expect too much from friends.it's complicated but also very easy.we live in this sociaty,and the life in sociaty will always mean that trying to make friends with the people around you.
communicating and being one family,nessesary for we to get something but not everything.there is no perfect in this world.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Dec 09
As far as I am concerned, I think everyone can be really friends here. I think if we just have a lot of topic to say and have many similar characters. I think I can be friends in reality . We can communicate with our friends in a lot of ways. The most popular way may be here, in mylot. Happy mylot.
@Savedeath (255)
• China
27 Dec 09
Hi my friend.um...maybe the most easy way to make frinds it to through internet and especially here,we do find our interesting topic and try to share our opinions.when we make friends through net,we won't consider too much.we just need put the attention on the similar points,and always that's easy for friends in net to talk about happy and sorrow just like in mylot.thanks for your response and have a nice day.
@lokilla007 (76)
• United States
25 Dec 09
I think that to find a true friend, first you have to be one yourself.I've had so many friends in my life,but they keep going away one by one,because all I think about is myself.I always thought myself of being better than them.
But I thank God that I met this friend of mine.She always forgave me with what I did something wrong to her or make her feel bad about something.She gave her heart to me and have opened mine as well.I was thinking of myself because I was insecure but she was a true friend so I know I can trust her.
@Savedeath (255)
• China
26 Dec 09
Hi my friend
very glad to know that now you have found your real friend,true friends are always very few.so if we got one in our life,then we will fell happy and satisfied,no matter how a black day we meet,our friend will come and share our pains.help us to recover,so cherish your friend with your heart.good luck,and have a nice day.
