Unemployment woes

It does sound bad to have an ultimatum and I think it could cause some problems. Though with my personal experience it is no where near the problems that will be caused if you say nothing and in the end you will learn to hate, despise, or mistrust this person. Maybe an ultimatum is not needed, maybe if you sit down with your partner and tell them how you are feeling and how it is also affecting you. Maybe in your spare time offer help at looking at places or even in the paper.

Two months is nothing compared to 2 years, which is the length of time I have been unemployed. Trying to find work near Christmas is almost impossible unless one works in the retail sector. I usually find that the jobs market picks up - say - in mid-January. What you must not do, however, is put pressure on her. A bit of encouragement will help enormously, criticism will not.

if she had a long term job before this,she could be depressed at the prospect of starting over.i would just talk to her first before any ultimatums are put out there.

Hmmm, that's a tough one. I know I've been out of work for months and can't find a darn thing but I do apply constantly, and I'm up every morning looking at all the job websites. Is there anything you can get her at your school? Maybe she can clean? Otherwise, all I can suggest is pick up some applications for her and bring them home for her to fill out, and YOU return them. Ask some of your friends if they know of anywhere for her to apply, ask some of the teachers at your school too, they might know somewhere. She sounds like she's getting lazy right now. There are also online jobs she can get too if she's computer literate, and I mean jobs where you have to work. I can give you a couple of sites if you'd like. Good luck, that's all I can suggest for now but let me know if you want the work at home job sites....I have no affiliation with them, just check them for information.

I recently was made redundant, and have applied for more than 20 jobs with only one interview offered. I didn't get that job. The unfortunate thing is that at th moment there is a lot of competition out there and it is making it difficult to even get an interview at the moment. I know this won't help as such. She needs to know though that it is very unlikely that a job wil come looking for her. Employers are spoiled for choice in the hiring of new employees so unless she gets herself out there, she will be very lucky to even get an interview. I would tell her how it is effecting you though as she may not realise.

1st question, only you will know what to do that is best for your relationship. If you don't want to harm it, I would think you should try to talk to her about it but not demand anything. Explain that you can't afford to support you both. Sit down and go over the bills and show her what you make and what all you have to pay. Maybe that will motivate her to want to work to help you out. 2nd question, in my situation, i am the one who is unemployed. however, we decided for me to work yet because we had a baby in feb. then i got laid off in may. so I am still staying home with our son. But in a similar way, my boyfriend gets frustrated over the bills and says he doesn't know how long i can stay home with him...though then we will have to pay for childcare anyway! It's a tough thing for anyone. And as i think others have said, she probably is "depressed" over losing her job, not finding work she wants to do, etc. But if definately needs to be discussed. If you don't say anything then you will hold it all inside and eventually explode and have a fight and do more damage to the relationship than talking calmly about it, trust me I know because thats what my boyfriend does! I wish he would discuss things more openly with me instead of holding it in til one day he can't! Good luck!

Maybe they are depressed in knowing that they had been with this other company for quite sometime and knowing that they have to start over again, in a new place. I worked a job I loved and had to quit it because of health reasons related to the job. It took me forever to get up and go look for something else. Mainly because I knew I could not make this kind of money anywhere else. If you truely care about this person, then you need to give them some space, or maybe sit down and just ask what are your plans, giving an ultimatum could result in them taking it the wrong way and leaving, or resentful and thinking you are pushing them. You can't make a person do what they are not ready to do. And pushing and demanding only makes it worse. Have you mentioned that when this money runs out what are you to do as you can not make the bills that you 2 have now on your own. I am sure that they know this. Looking for a job is hard now adays. I couldn't get one after I had to quit the one for medical reasons, mainly because they knew i would leave if I found something else that paid better, so wasting their time training me. You 2 have to talk find some line of communication about this problem, the longer you let it go the more frustrated you will become.

It really saddened me that situation nowadays especially looking for a job is getting worst. Actually there are many worst situation than yours that other people were experiencing today. I'm just afraid that it will go on forever.I really hope that this financial crisis we are dealing now will soon be over. Let's hope for the best.