Feeling Inferirority from my girl friend
By sonusd
@sonusd (1547)
India
December 25, 2009 10:06pm CST
I am a very simple and shy nature Guy . I have a girl friend and she is high aiming girl and now she is engaged with Modeling career which is a very high profile career , due to her job she has to attain parties with so many people and she goes also al most parties with her friends which I can not attain because of my shy ness I have told her not to mix up with them some of them are not good in character but she trust them and also told me to keep believe in her but I am in frustration because I may loose her I have seen some changes in her she is enjoying with she is with them but when with me she keep her self quite Now what should I do?
2 responses
@gerry101 (229)
• Philippines
27 Dec 09
Hello there,
First of all your gf must be so beautiful that is why she's a model. The reason why I think she is quiet around you maybe because you are a quiet person yourself plus you are not supportive of her new career. I suggest that you support her and try to go to parties with her if you can. When you are together ask her about her new career. She ask you to trust her and you should. You will lose her if you don't support her. You will lose her if you keep telling her what to do and not to do. Let her have fun going to parties and meeting new friends because it is part of being a model. I really think you should be with her when she goes to parties. You should be very proud of her. It must be very hard for you seeing the changes in her. If you truly love her accept her for who she is now. Modeling career is not forever. Not many woman can make it more than 10 years. Depending on her age I think it's only few years. By the way don't forget to compliment her all the time and buy her small gift. Women loves that regardless culture background. When you are together talk about her new career. Also apologize to her about you not being supportive to her in the beginning and tell her because you are afraid to lose her. I am not judging you that you did something wrong. Women likes that too. My man apologize to me if he was to busy to call me. Even though it was not wrong of him but it melts my resistance when he apologize. If you don't know much about modeling try buying magazine or go to internet to learn their way of life so you will know what to talk about to her when you are together. I wish you all the best sonusd.
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@sonusd (1547)
• India
28 Dec 09
Thanks Gerry for your support I know all these to give her gift but I have seen that now days her new friends are also giving her gift and If also My gift is expensive there gifts are looking cute I may not have the good choice I am realizing that she is giving more importance to spend time with them she spends 4 hour with me and she feel happy for half an hour but when she spends 1 hour with her model friends she feel full 1 hour happy I think there is not my fault she was happy with me and she love me when she was not a model and liking my gifts my way of talking and all the things but now she wants something extra in me and this is very difficult to create in me
@gerry101 (229)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
Just continue to love her and support her and one day she will realize that you are a wonderful person ans so lucky to have you. At the moment she must be so thrilled with her career and I understand you are afraid that she might get bad influence by her new friends. She is young and full of energy and I remember when I was young I was ask to participate on modeling and yes I was so so excited because of the makeup, dressing up and looking pretty all the time. I love the attention and compliments from guys and girls that I receive. I did not have boyfriend that time. My mom did not let me continue it because she thought something bad will happen to me. I am sure that is how you feel too. I really hope things will go well for you and her.
Right now she might not understand why you are protective over her so if you don't support her she might misunderstand you. Try to be cheerful when you are around her and I understand she must be so overwhelm with the modeling career and all she thinks of now is modeling. She might not want to talk any other thing but modeling. Why not take pictures of her when you have time. Put it in a nice album and put it in your cellphone. That way you are already supporting her.
For a successful relationship couples need alot of communication and patience. Couples don't always understand each other but even a little bit of understanding helps. When you buy her gift don't feel as if you are competing with her friends who give her expensive gift. Buy her gift that she likes and it is within your budget but you don't have to buy it all the time. She might take it for granted. It must be hard to have to adjust the new her. That is part of love a little bit of sacrifice now and then.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
28 Dec 09
Thanks gerry you have given the fantastic Idea about to take photos but Gerry her friends are taking her photos during her photo session and she is always watching these photos .lets see how this formula working but I request you can you make a phone call to her and tell that how much I love her pls pls pls...
her number is 9861758865
name is sriya
I am from India so you have to dial 00919861753865
@Ambreya3 (100)
• United States
5 Jan 10
It sounds like you really care for her and try to give her your best. That is all you can do. Did you ever hear the popular saying about if you love something, let it go, see if it comes back? She may need some space and time to figure out what she wants in life, in a relationship, and in her career. If you let her have her time and space and she still wants to be with you, then you know she really loves you. If she doesn't, then at least you know it wasn't meant to be. Time heals all wounds.
