I REALLY NEED HELP!!! Please, my BF has kidnesy stones & we can't get ahold of
By Loverbear
@Loverbear (4918)
United States
December 25, 2009 11:07pm CST
I usually keep my discussions light, but right now I really need your help! My BF has a kidney stone (8 mm) that is trying to pass (yeah right, and I can pass a Buick through my butt). He is in misery and doesn't want to go back to the ER. I spent an hour with him writhing in pain while he was waiting for his pain med (norco) to kick in. I can't stand to see him in this much pain, and all the doctors are taking the holiday off...and believe it or not, they don't have an answering service anymore- it goes to their answering machines!
Please help me with anything that might keep him comfortable!!!!! It's breaking my heart to see him is so much pain and the norco is only taking the edge of the pain off. I wanted to take him to the ER but he refused unless I left him there and came home. I can't do that to him, I love him too much to leave his side when he is this sick.
He is currently taking one norco every four hours, and I have gotten it through to him that he can take them about fifteen minutes before the four hours are up. I also have him taking them with orange juice since the acid in the juice will help dissolve the medication faster and the sugar will carry it into his blood stream faster...but what else can I do??? Please, oh please help me out! It's made for a horrible Christmas seeing him in such pain. He is such a sweet wonderful man that doesn't deserve to be in so much pain! Pray for him too if you happen to think of it...I can't imagine passing something that is the size of a green pea through a urinary tract...but until the laser trailer comes back to our area that is what he is facing...I hurt so badly for the love of my life and am frantic to help him with his pain. Right now he is sleeping, thank the good Lord and other deities. But he needs more help.
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7 responses
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
26 Dec 09
kindey stones are painfull my father in law had them an he was the type of man that could out work anyone an was good at ignoreing pain but when he had the stones I saw him crawling on the ground his doctor did give him meds till they passed I will also send your friend healing energy
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
26 Dec 09
OMG! I just went to the site and have put it on my favorites list!!! It is totally incredible! I much prefer to use common sense medicine than to use chemicals. Right at the top was magnesium! My BF is going on the stuff Monday as soon as I get home from town! Also he is going to increase his water intake and drink cranberry juice more.
I have to admit that I had the doctors and nurses in the ER in hysterics as I started chewing out my BF as soon as the pain meds started to work. He first tried to get me to go home and that started the whole works. He finally stated, in front of the doctor and nurses, that if he didn't love me so much he would fire me.
Thank you so much for the site! I am really going to spend a lot of time there!
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
26 Dec 09
I just found this ite let me know if it helps if not I will gladly look again
http://www.grannymed.com/meds/kidney-stones-and-pain.aspx
@drakesuyat (1063)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
i dont know how this fruit is called in your country but here in our country we call it "kalamansi" its scientific name is citrus microcarpa. extract at least 10pcs of it and let him drink the juice 30mins before breakfast or right after he wake up in the morning. no added water or sugar! just the juice. 15 mins after taking it, let him drink at least 4 tablespoon of water. it will surely help! go to the doctor the soonest time possible as well. goodluck
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
26 Dec 09
I am going to do a search on the kalamansi and see if I can find it here in the states. My BF may complain a lot, but his diet and way of life is going to change a LOT!!! I want him to be healthy for a long time and be there at my side. To see someone in that much pain and be unable to do anything is the most helpless feeling in the world!!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Dec 09
loverbear surely his physician has some sort of emergency number you could call or a colleague who he has on call that you could contact. I realize its a holiday but surely the doctor must know how painful passing a kidney stone can be. oh do get him to the emergency room as they will treat him, fib a little white lie and tell him you will go home, then stick around of course.So do that, tell him you will take him to ER then come home. the way they do things slowly in the ER you could probably show up again a little later and he would be asleep maybe as they would give him something more for the pain.lover please let us mylotters know how it all goes. hugs from hatley.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Thank you so much. I ended up taking him in at 10 p.m. last night. There was a urologist on call and I tried his phone number and only got some sort of really horrible noise. What was awe inspiring was that there were only two cases in the ER, my BF and another that had just been released. It was like the way was cleared to get my BF taken care of.
I told him the white lie and said I would go home. When we got to the ER and he told me to go home I told him NO! They inserted an IV and then gave him some morphine which really killed the pain. The doctor in the ER then said that if the pain came back in a certain period of time he would admit my BF. Well the pain didn't come back and he released my BF and wrote him a prescription for stronger pain meds. Monday I am going to be all over my BF to call the urologists office to get in and see him.
I couldn't believe that I couldn't get a doctor on the phone! I tried all of my doctors and all of my BF's doctors. It used to be that they had answering services that would contact them...oh well it looks like the good old days are gone, at least in my area.
I checked on my BF a little while ago and he is doing as well as can be expected with what he is going through. I made sure he took another pain pill as he was about 30 minutes late on taking it.
@dreamweaverjan (3471)
• United States
27 Dec 09
Hello again dear friend, sorry to hear your BF has been in so much pain,
and I see by reading some of the other posts you've came upon some solutions
until you can get back to a doctor;
Having to go to the ER sucks as I well know but sometimes we just have too for ourselves
and our loved ones, glad you guys did wind up going I'm kinda reading / catching up on things this morning ( bass_Ackwards) as I call it (G)!
Good luck to you and to your BF, I hope he WILL SOON PASS those dreadful things!!!
Keep us all posted! Try to get some rest I know you both need it;
Love & hugs to you and I'll keep your BF in my thoughts and prayers for a speedy recovery;
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Oh my goodness, I feel so much for your boyfriend. My husband has been dealing with them for the last four months and he has several of them. Surely there has to be someone that is on call for his physician. Perhaps if that isn't the case there is a medical exchange somewhere in the area that you live in that you may be able to call and they could get you in touch with a urologist. My husband's doctor has told him that if they are greater than 7mm they can't pass and he has been withering in the floor with pain twice with 3mm ones.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
26 Dec 09
As it has been said many times, if men had to have babies...
I learned something interesting in researching kidney stones. Part of the problem is the lack of magnesium in the man's diet. Broccoli, Brussels sprouts, and other strong tasting green veggies are rich in magnesium. So, Monday, when I go to town I will be getting my BF a bottle of the supplement. He IS going to take it too.
We are waiting for the laser to come back to our area so that my BF can get treatment to break up the stone. I just wish that I could twitch my nose and they would be gone.
I ended up taking him back to the ER last night. We got home around 5 a.m. So needless to say I am shot! They gave him a shot while he was in the ER, which really reduced the pain and then the doctor prescribed a stronger pain killer for him. They seem to work...so here's hoping that they work until either the laser comes back or we chase it down and get it done somewhere else.
@talatgulzar (6)
• Pakistan
26 Dec 09
Its very painful to see someone u love in pain and u can't do any thing. I understand your feelings closly because I have this same feeling 9 yrs ago when i was seeing my mom dieing and could not do any thing except watching her dieing at that time I pray to god to take all my money but save my mom but all efforts were vain and she passed away in front of us , in my hands. At that time I actually feel the existing of God and another feeling came to my heart that why is that such things happen to us. The answer came in my heart to feel the existing of God. Then another I got the experience that why do we only remember God only when we are helpless then the answer came because God wants to insure u that when nobody is with u only God is with u same just like a mother when ever u need mother is always there to help u it does not matter how much sins have u done and how much u hurt her and she doesn't care how long u forget her but she will be always there when there is nobody to help u. So, this time u have to pray and I also pray for your loving too if I have the name it will be better any how i will pray with my core of heart and next thing u can do u have to be with him as much as u can and give him courage, next give him juices, milk, porridge and sago with milk like this light food. Rub him gently at his back, lightly pat his hands. Tell him he is lovible of God because to whom God love he gives them pain so their sins can be wash away, give them chance to think about him, think about the life they have passed, think about didn't we hurt somebody willingly or un willingly, it may happen it give us chance to ask them forgiveness to whom we give pain and take promise not to hurt anybody in future
